How to comfort somebody whose having a BAD DAY?

@cloud31 (5809)
March 8, 2010 9:14am CST
Can you tell me how to cheer up someone whose having a bad day? I can't make her smile, even i asked her to look at her face in the mirror that could probably make herself smile or even laugh! lol Now guys any idea to comfort her I want her to smile,or render some joke, but i'm aware i cannot do it. Any of you can lend a hand on how to comfort her. Thank you and Happy mylottimg!
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@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
8 Mar 10
Everyone has some bad days. So don't try to make her cheer up. Let her some time to be comfortable. She will be right back. If you make any effort to cheer up her then she may think that negatively. Don't try joke she may t5hink that as insult. If you make her comfortable then just spend some time with her. I think that is the best that you can do. In the weaker moment present is the best.
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• Canada
8 Mar 10
I agree with that Aaleexix......It can sometimes make it worse....
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@cloud31 (5809)
8 Mar 10
Ok Aaleexix! Your immediate reply really appreciated!Thank you for sharing!! Happy mylotting!God bless!
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@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
8 Mar 10
Yes . some time when we show sympathy then it has negative impact. Many people don't like that some other shows sympathy to them. So we should handle such situation very carefully.
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@sunnycool (12714)
• India
8 Mar 10
Owwwwww why dont you give me such oppurtunities God----to calm a friend that too a girl .If i were in your shoes i would try to give a big warm hug(do not force her girl) and then we have a great time going out to chill at the near by pub and then go for window shopping---buy few accessories outta her money---drop her back at her home and thank her for providing me some money to shop.Last but not least i would make her watch some cartoons Tom and Jerry being my favourite---now do not say that you didnt get a word of my response---read over once you would get the message engraved.
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@cloud31 (5809)
8 Mar 10
Sunny! That's funny your not comforting her, are you!Your taking advantage of her emotions being down, you still as her to shop out of her pocket! But anyway i find she shed a smile on her face while reading your response, but it seems not yet fully cheer up!She might waiting for something better to make her laugh. I appreciate your words at least you drop by to say a words. Thank you! Happy myLotting!
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@sunnycool (12714)
• India
8 Mar 10
you gotto be kidding me right----that she has read my response i was trying to cheer up---i'm not taking advantage of her situation---seriously if you can know the reason behind her moody face then i can help her with a instant remedy and then you would watch her burst out Laughing---do close all the windows and doors so that your neightbours do not panic
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@cloud31 (5809)
8 Mar 10
You're such of a kind! I'm telling you its real she is reading your response that makes her smile a little. But guess what I'm not sure what's her mood right as I'm so aware about her emotions. Now tell something make her laugh..sunny..Thank you if you can..hehehe
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@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
8 Mar 10
The best thing you can probably do is just be there for your friend and listen to her.......She just might be having one of those kinds of day that we all seem to have....HappyMylotting....
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• Canada
8 Mar 10
Awwwww you are too sweet smiles thanks for that and God Bless!!!!
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@cloud31 (5809)
8 Mar 10
hi my Angel!I think of your words of advices guys its nice to have you here sharing comforts and advices,I appreciate your effort! Thank you so much! Happy myLotting! God bless!
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@mareeh (266)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
Maybe you can comfort her by giving her something that she really likes or like her favorite food. I guess that will do. Or let her reminisce more on the good days rather than think about her situation.
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@cloud31 (5809)
8 Mar 10
Hello mareeh This is also good,maybe a cake of her favorite flavour will do yah! Thank you for sharing..Happy myLotting and God bless!
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• China
8 Mar 10
just talk to him or her, if he or she can give you chance to listen! that is quite helpful! for the content, it depends on your relationship! this afternoon, I have come up with this thing, and I did talk to her, which made her much better! It sounds good! have a try!!!
@cloud31 (5809)
8 Mar 10
That's make sense i may try to talk to her and see what will happen next. Thank you for sharing.Have a great time! Happy myLotting!
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@cloud31 (5809)
8 Mar 10
Thank you for your advice, and as well as your compliments.My pleasure to make friends with you too..Have a blesses day ahead!
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• China
8 Mar 10
you try to comfor your friend when he or she feelt sad, you're so nice! Nice to make friends with you! Happy mylotting!
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• United States
8 Mar 10
just be there for her, listen to her when she speaks, she will come around eventually.
@cloud31 (5809)
8 Mar 10
hi orca! Really a sound of advice,appreciate your words. Thank you for sharing..Happy myLotting and God bless!
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@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
It's really hard to feel comfort during a bad day but if I am the one who is having a bad day, I can easily have a solution and it can surely makes me smile and cheer me up. That is to stare at her picture, the girl that is so special to me. I will stare at her until the sides of my mouth and ears are already connecting. Lol! Well, for that girl that is having a bad day, actually what you told her is right, to see her face in the mirror. But what she forgot to do is to make different facial reactions. Make her face sad, then make it smile, then make it angry, then make is afraid, then make it shocked, then just do it all over again many times, until she find herself funny already, and she will end up laughing. Lol! Actually aside from she recovered from a bad day, she also did a facial exercise. Hahaha! Keep smiling! Happy myLotting!
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@cloud31 (5809)
8 Mar 10
Hi Mark! There you are again, what a funny face you gotta have to cheer her up..I just can't imagine how do you gonna look like wearing those expression on your face. I may asked her to have all emotions in her face whilst facing the mirror..I guess she make herself laugh after all.. Nice to have you here again.Thank you for your effort and Happy myLotting! God bless
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@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
8 Mar 10
When someone's having a bad day, that person usually isn't in the mood for jokes, so maybe it's better to focus it not in laughs, but in making that person forget for a while what's worrying her. For example, going out to eat something, or to play, doing anything that will keep her mind busy so when she realizes she won't be thinking of bad things. At least it works for me
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@kaylachan (57322)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
8 Mar 10
I find that giving them space is the best plan of action at this point. If they really are having that bad of a day, offer support but don't be overbaring about it. You don't want her to resent you do youu?
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• United States
9 Mar 10
You're not that kind of girl having a bad day at all miss cloud31,your seems nothing to worry,you have it all! And its impossible you gonna have a bad day yourself,cheer up lady! Its not your way!If there's is one called lucky "YOU R the Luckiest!harhar! At least say hello to me!
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@ksmita (513)
• India
8 Mar 10
hi. if someone is sad about something , then best way to help is to hear them up. sharing feelings really help. or you can divert her attention to some other thing. you can take her out to watch any movie. just tell her your problem.iam sure, she'll forget her pain and start assuring you.(hehehe)i hope you succedd in your mission.
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@cloud31 (5809)
8 Mar 10
I am so grateful having your advices on how to comfort her. Thank you for responding and Happy myLotting!
@Bhemzky (423)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
hMmm.. I suggest you make her forget whatever problem she is thinking right now by telling stories and diverting her attention to something else. If you notice she is interested in it, you can do some humorous joke that you know will really make her laugh. Just make her think about something else.
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@cloud31 (5809)
8 Mar 10
This is a good idea..I guess i can make her smile this time.. Thank you for sharing! Happy myLotting!
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• India
8 Mar 10
ok there r a lots of ideas......starts from her likes,wat she like most n at she most in most,thn do thst for,otherwise simply ask her to get ready give her her fav dress......thn go out have a alk n must to her fav restaurent order her fav dish....thn she will be hapyy u can see a simle on her face........try it....
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@fred11 (62)
9 Mar 10
A story of her own unforgettable blunders might just do. Or maybe sum funny faces.
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@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
8 Mar 10
Is she having one bad day or does she suffer from depression. If it's depression, it's a much more serious issue but one that is easily solved with medication. I'm not certain what will work for your friend but what I do is make a list of all of the things that I have to be grateful for. When I think about things that I have like a bed to sleep on and blankets to keep me warm that so many others in this world don't have, it's hard to compare my bad day with the bad days that they have. It completely defines bad day for me and I realize how minimal my problems are in comparison with the problems that others have. Good luck.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
18 Aug 10
Being the kind of friend that I am, I have found that the best way to comfort someone that is having a bad time in their life is to simply be there for them. I am always the kind of person that is willing to lend a listening ear to someone that just needs to get things off of their shoulders. I know that there are a lot of times that you can't do anything more for someone that is having a tough time than to just be there for them.
• India
9 Mar 10
Sure everyone like to help a pretty girl like u!!! If some on having a bad day he would be really frustrate so u should live him for a while an try to make his remaining day beautiful. Cook some food an make a fool of ur self this can give a smile on his face i have try this plenty of time an it works i sure u.
• United States
8 Mar 10
When my husband is having a bad day I usually tell him a joke or talk about something unrelated to his problem depending on how serious it is. If it's something pretty serious that has her really upset then talking it out and/or crying it out may help. That always helps me when I'm feeling down, I put on some Al Green and just cry it out and I feel 10 times better. Good luck!
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@NgKong (21)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 10
Suggested that she was having a bad day take it as trial and not think, relax and enjoy.
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@bestylish (922)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
When you're with her, just be yourself and you'll soon make her smile. I was once a bit like that a few years ago. I was just influenced by my friends. They were most of the time the opposite of me. They're always smiling. But after sometime, I also started behaving like them. Just don't push yourself. Be natural.