he needs to stop pitching because the receiver isn't there

My apologies, this is about relationships. This is why I stayed single. I watched my mum be verbally and emotionally abused by my father; verbally, emotionally and physically abused by her defacto. Statistics say that offspring tend to continue the chain of abuse and pick a partner more likely to abuse them. So I chose to remain single all my life to break that chain. But if it did ever happen to me that I got stuck in the kind of relationship that you're saying, children or not. I'd leave. If I had kids, I'd take them with me.

If you're talking about Telemarketers. I love giving them a hard time. A few years back, they were trying to sell me a phone package. I said I couldn't buy one, they asked how come, I said it was against my religion. They fell for it!! More recently, again a call about a phone package. I told them it wouldn't work for me. Again they said why. I said I don't have a phone. THEY FELL FOR IT!! DESPITE THE FACT THAT THEY WERE TALKING TO ME ON ONE!!! I really love giving them a hard time. :)

I have been there in the end I said it loud and clear but it still would not sink in It did when the Divorce Papers went through, he finally left me alone It is very stressful specially when it turns to threats and making someones Life He**

I know what you are saying as even though i know what would be best for me i think may not be the right thing todo for my children,so i think that while they are young i will have to keep wussing out all the time.I know it is hard to stick to what is you want as i have that problem.

Hi Dawn, I will tell him to stop because it will surely not help. i've made up my mind and sorry it's too late for him to change my decision. no way now it's final!

there are people in our surroundings who are doing that. they will ask if our mind wont change for the decisions we have made. for me as i experienced it a lot of times. when i am already decided enough. someone will ask if i will never regret on my decision. again i will think a million of times and i will review again my decision. i will think for the outcome of my decision.

I have been stubborn since birth! When I say no , I Mean no, not maybe. When I make up my mind about things no one can change it. they can try to change my mind but it is they that get stressed out , not me. I just keep on the path I chose and they can keep wasting their breath Trying to change my mind if they like but it isn't going to work.

ya, that's a great saying and fitting too. I am very very stubborn. If I have my mind set, all the pushing in the world will do nothing other than get me to push back even harder. If someone pushes too hard then I 'll just ignore them. I don't get pushed into doing much of anything that I really don't want to do.

If u are going to do it u need to do it & quit wussing out. action!!

Well I have found that you just have to stand up and say I don't want to discuss this any more. It's either tht or just tune out.

Lol, ya, that's a pretty good expression! I know that with me if I've already made up my mind about something, or even if I'm just starting to lean one way, any pressure that's applied to sway me in another direction usually does nothing but cement my decision. Sometimes this is a good thing because it keeps me from being indecisive and wishy washy. And sometimes it's bad because if the pushing starts before I've really made my decision it can lead to me making the wrong one. Depending on what it is I'll sometimes go one way just because someone is trying to push me another way.

Hi Dawn, you seem to have made up your mind. At times, we do change our minds you know, so think it over really well because there would be no way you could retrace your steps. Dont want any regrets afterwards. What you can do is ask him to give you a few months time to think things over. Say four months or six months. That way you could stop wussing out, and it would be his turn to twiddle his thumbs. As to people like that in my life, I classify them into three types. Family, family friends, and colleagues. Took me a great deal of resolve to expose my reasoning to other family friends. I am very slow at condemning. I dont like to be wrong in my judgment. Eventually of course, people have accepted my reasoning - yes they failed me. I wish I'd been this bold some 30 odd years ago. :( I am not giving them second chances.

Luckily, I have no trouble saying no to people and sticking to my decision. I would just look them straight in the eye and say I've made up my mind and come what may I am not going to change it so would they please stop. Generally, because people know my temperament this always works for me. Good Luck.

Before I make a decision, I weigh all sides. Sometimes it can take me forever to make a decision (great Libra), but once I have, I can be as stubborn as a mule (year of the ox). I rarely change my mind, and people may as well give up trying to change my mind. If they continue, I turn away and walk away, which usually really p***es them off. But I just continue to walk...

If you have made a decision, it is time to act on it. Until you do he will be whining and pulling at you to get you to change your mind. It will not be over, until it is over. Actually, since you have kids together, some parts of it will never be over, you will even have grand kids together.

IF it is a definite decision, and IF you have talked with the kids about it and IF they have accepted the situation, it is time to move - either a temporary move or a permanent one. Or maybe the kids need a little time?

Ask him, "What part of (fill in the blank) do you not understand?"

I say stop. There is no use for you to waste your time..I've decided and that's it! Wanna a nut shot..talk to my friend Mykl! Keep messing with me and he'll show you around..lol..Seriously though... It's never easy when someone we have a past with attempts to persuade us. They know how to do it best..but if your mind is really made up then you have an advantage too...you know how to communicate your feelings..you just haven't went to that level with him. Maybe it's time if you are sure.

I never care anybody's speech or suggestion after taking a decision. My decision is full and final. To some extent, I am a desperate guy. Nice avatar u have. Who is that child? Thanks.

Its streight and simple actually. You say how it is, and walk away. You aren't doing yourself any good by letting this insanity continue in this way. Its not healthy for you or the other party involved. You've made up your mind, and that's acceptable, but you could probably at least consider the other person's point-of-view. At least if for no other reason... to reduce the stress on the both of you. This does not mean you have to fallow through, it just means you're taking another point-of-view into consideration.