Do you tend to overhear...............

@dpk262006 (56761)
Delhi, India
March 10, 2010 5:05am CST
Hello friends! Most of us sometimes to go our for dining. I have observed that if you happen to go to a happening restaurant or a eating joint, where you can sit comfortably, you can enjoy some juicy and spicy conversations by others guests, besides your food. Sometimes it becomes quite interesting to overhear that people keep talking and keep discussing about their personal affairs, love affairs, break ups and general issues, oblivious of the fact that others might over-hear them at a public place. Do you tend to overhear what the couple or the family sitting next or near to your table is talking about or arguing at or discussing? What are your experiences in this regard? Would like to hear from you.
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
10 Mar 10
Hi Deepak, Aha! People are forgetting that they are in public place and just doing/enjoying the conversation as they like without thinking about the surroundings. What to do, we can’t close our ears even our mind is saying ‘no’ to listen but ears free from mind. So it is natural to overhear the conversations. Sometimes we feel funny but sometimes irritating too.. Do not speak while eating
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
10 Mar 10
Hello Sree! Thanks for being the first one and kick starting the discussion. You are right and I agree with you that we just cannot close our ears and we tend to overhear. Yes, people should follow your advice that they should not speak, while eating. However, they tend to speak, when their order is being served or someone has not approached them for taking any order.
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
10 Mar 10
ha ha does it mean that you can open up in public with your personal stories/matters. I agree, we have to wait for long time to get the food after making the order.
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 10
Hello Sree! I did not say that we should open up or talk loudly. However, if others are not keeping their tones down, one tend to overhear, inadvertently. Is not it? Any experience, you would like to share.?
@Buchi_bulla (8304)
• India
10 Mar 10
I and my daughter went to a good restaurant. We observed that one official group has come there to eat. One person, probably head of that group or boss to others, went on talking about all latest topics of the day and others just kept quiest listening to him or pretending to be listening to him. It was boring and was not at all interesting. What everyone knew was only talked about and we could see the faces of the others, who are listening to him to be quiet uninterested and sleepy. This man was not leaving them and went on showing his knowledge on topics to them. I told my daughter that he has covered all topics and the only topic left out was global warming. And there, that man took that topic next. We could not control our laugh and that man looked at us. Then we managed somehow to show that we were laughing on our topic but certainly not on global warming.
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
20 Mar 10
Yeah, it is true Buchi that sometimes we get to overhear such things, which may not be of interest to us, however, we just cannot close our ears or ignore the overhearing and same happened with you. Thanks for sharing your experience with us.
• India
11 Mar 10
So now you’ve got down to this Deepak…don’t we have enough spices in our own life OK OK before you start spitting fire at me let me say that I DON’T enjoy loud conversations in public…I feel it’s a complete nuisance and lack of etiquette and upbringing on the part of those who feel that a public place is as good as their own drawing room! They might feel important, they might think as if they own the place and they might not care for the inconvenience their continuous burble causes to others…but in my opinion they are plain and simply RUDE. Worst is that with the onslaught of the mobile phones, this phenomenon is no longer restricted to the restaurants…you might be rushing to the office in a cramped auto and you have to tolerate the miseries of the girl sitting next to you with her nth boyfriend or a sweating and smelly plump lady (who’s pushing you literally outside the auto)…describing in details to somebody how her daughter-in-law ‘treats’ her and how she ‘fixes’ it…absolutely DISGUSTING
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Mar 10
I can't recall a restaurant conversation that I've overheard, but there is this woman at work who has the most interesting conversations with her daughter. I just hope that when my kids get to be that old, they aren't as much of a handful as this girl is!
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 10
Hello Dawn! When did you last go to any restaurant, try to recall what was the atmosphere around and how were people reacting. Thanks for sharing your views.
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@vandana7 (72837)
• India
11 Mar 10
Dawn - did you ever notice how babies always stare at strangers? This babyface has progressed to overhearing their conversation. Am I right deepak? :) You beat me to it Deepak, otherwise I would be using that avatar. So I am going to make you miserable. :)
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Mar 10
Babies are fun to make faces at and make them laugh and the faces that they make make me laugh!
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
hello deepak! sometimes, yes i do! hehe well, actually its not really intentional to listen on what they are talking about, but sometimes their voices do catch attention...and hmmm sometimes its just interesting to know what they are going to say next! haha but it don't usually happens to me, coz usually when we are dining out, specially if i am with my husband or some friends, we are more busy talking to each other & enjoying our food. sometimes its just our eyes that are busy watching people passing by...and we are talking about them! hehe but there's one time that i attend to the wake of one popular person here and some of the guests there are politicians, it happens that they are sitting in our back and they are discussing of course about politics & the other officials in our country...haha and i find it really interesting listening to them telling their opinions on things and talking some intellectual topics!
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 10
Hello CK! I know that sometimes it so happens that we tend to overhear the conversation, going on the other table, unintentionally. I agree with you that if we are busy in our group, we just do not get to hear, what others are talking around us. The experience you have shared clearly indicates that sometimes, when we overhear something, which is not intended for us, we enjoy it. Thanks for joining and sharing your thoughts and experience with us. Hope you are doing well. Deepak
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
haha...hello my friend deepak! well, its just like listening on the radio!
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 10
Yeah ck, it is as good as listening to different channels on a radio. dpk PS - Thanks for using the angel 'emoticon' before my name, I am so delighted.
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
18 Mar 10
Hi Dpk......usually I avoid going to crowded restaurants because I usually go with my family and friends and so value my privacy......Well after ordering and while waiting for food I do look around and like to watch people sitting at other tables (discreetly of course),but I am spared the ordeal of listening to their conversations and comments.....And Dpk restaurants here are not so crowded as In Delhi and we go get some breathing space and are able to eat in peace........
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
20 Mar 10
Hello Rose! HEARTIEST CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU ON TOUCHING 1000 MARK. You better to come to Delhi sometimes, so that you could not only enjoy good and quality food in some wonderful restaurants but you could get breathing space and could also overhear some juicy conversation
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
22 Mar 10
Hello Dpk...My joy has doubled... Thank you so much for noticing my 1000 and also for inviting me over to Delhi to enjoy the food there in restaurants along with juicy conversation....Actually my joy will triple if you agree to foot the bill too.....
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
7 Jun 10
I will.
• United States
12 Mar 10
I don't overhear the other conversations at a restaurant I am too busy concentrating on my guest for dinner.
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
20 Mar 10
Hi Sarah! It is good to know that you concentrate on your Pizza and guests only and do not tend to overhear any sort of conversation. Thanks for sharing and am sorry for the delayed comments.
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• United States
20 Mar 10
No Worries.You must have been busy.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
12 Mar 10
Hi Deepak I dont do that because normally I go to eating joint with friends or family.. so I will be busy talking to them so no time to over hear.. Itseems that you overhear LOL.. I should be careful while speaking outside from now on.. because I never thought of this.. so I will be careful nexttime because there might be some deepak overhearing LOl.. kidding..
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
20 Mar 10
HI Chaitra! It is good that you tend not to overhear and you just concentrate on your own eating and talking. However, you are right, it is better to be careful, while talking about our private affairs, we never know, who is going to listen to us. Thanks for sharing your experiences.
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
10 Mar 10
Hi Deepak! I go out pretty rarely and on the occasions I have gone out any significant event or episode has not struck me.I would be immersed in the food or in chatting with my husband and son or other members of the family thatI just won't have time for anything else.Rarely, if I spot some lovebirds who keep crooning in public I will get tickled and say so to my husband and son that there were a pair of love birds sitting closeby.
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
10 Mar 10
But after passing anaughty remark I will shut my ears and mind to them.
• United States
10 Mar 10
your reminding me of a time i went to a restaurant and me and my husband were overhearing these 2 obviously ignorant girls/women discuss what happen to be our religion.. it was as if they were discussing every stereotype there was and how it was true etc and it juts made me laugh but then made me sick that people are still so stupid to think that our religion is that way or ever has been.. i wanted to go over there and correct them but of course i didnt.. i just tried to not let it get to me but i cannot stand ignorance and one was telling the other as if she really knew what she was talking about.. grrr but ive had too many experiences that even when people ask they still have their mind made up so its a waste of breath and well i wasnt going to disturb others there
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
20 Mar 10
Hi moon! I can understand your point that sometimes people get so much engrossed in animated conversation that they forget that others are also sitting at that public place and they can also overhear them. Thanks for sharing your experience. Have a great day!
@whyaskq (7531)
• Singapore
10 Mar 10
I do not have the habit of eavesdropping on other people's conversation until those people have every intention to share their conversation. Often I would be engrossed with my company. If we observed anyone behaving abnormally, we would be more interested to cook up some imaginations among ourselves.
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 10
It is good whyaskq that you do not have habit of eavesdropping and you refrain from listening to others and you better enjoy yourself. You are a wise and mature person, I know it. Thanks for sharing.
@mysdianait (65079)
• Italy
10 Mar 10
I try and find a table which is not close to one with a chatty group of people. I go for the food not for the gossip and there is nothing worse than having to listen to people who are dissecting something that happened to others. I remember an occasion yeats ago when they was a family who while eating were discussing some sort of problem that they had concerning a relative who was not present. They were discussing tactics and although it might have seemed interesting to some, I was irritated by it and asked to change tables. When I am out with friends of course we talk about episodes concerning our personal lives but we keep our voices down. Nowadays you can never be too careful about who is listening and what they might misunderstand and repeat elsewhere and then it becomes a problem for you too just because of some busy-body
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 10
Hello mys! I think you are lucky enough, as you are able to find a table in a restaurant, which is not among a chatty group of people. You are right that we all go for enjoying our food in a restaurant, but sometimes, we cannot help, when the fellows on the other table keep talking on high pitch and raised voice. We just tend to overhear them. I agree with you that it is always better to keep our voices low and controlled so that others could not listen to our personal talk, at a public place. Have a nice day! Deepak
@cyberfluf (5004)
• Netherlands
14 Mar 10
I'm not to sure that people are allways ablivious to the fact that others might over-hear them. Some people like the fact others are over-hearing them and in the worst case scenario they make a scene just for the attention it draws to them. However I think, and hope, that these cases are more rare than the oblivious couples that argue in a public place. I have experienced overhearing people and I try to ignore it, block out the sound. It's not my bussiness what they are discussing. Sometimes it's hard especially if they are talking with a high pitched voice; that can be very penetrating and hard to ignore. Also, subconcious is seems like you still hear it even if you try not to.
@lkbooi (16100)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 10
Hi dpk, sometimes I would like to see how others next to me take care of the toddles and listening to what they say to kiss up the little kids. It's really interesting to see innocent toddles sitting in the baby chair. But just for a short while only It's impolite to leave our partner or companies out in the cold. Most of the time we are really engrossing in out chat and yummy foods until nothing around could distract our attention. Yeah, it's really annoying that occasionally the talking in a high voice would will disturb our chitchat and lead to their talking or arguing involuntary. Some indecent words uttering words really grate on our ears Happy posting
@kiran8 (15323)
• Mangalore, India
12 Mar 10
Hi deepak, LOL sometimes it can get really amusing and irritating. I once had a funny experience, when we went out for dinner.Next to our table was a newly wed couple fighting about the guy's mother, and the mother too was there, obviously not knowing any English and the two were discussing her and the poor lady had no clue what was going on, and she kept asking them to order this and that in kannada and even that was becoming a subject of argument...lol...But honestly, when I go out for dinner I would prefer to have some good company , nice music,food and a mellow atmosphere.I would prefer to shut out the outside world and the gossip...
@JenInTN (27547)
• United States
12 Mar 10
I have overheard some pretty strange conversations but I haven't meant to. I just coudn't help but hear while I ate..lol..It is amazing the things that someone will discuss with perfect strangers right next to them but I guess they just figure that it doesn't really matter. I am not so relaxed though..lol
• Malaysia
11 Mar 10
hi i like to listen to the conversation at the next table especially when i am in the company of my husbands 'guy' friends .. they have lots of things to talk about but mostly are boring, not like the ones i hear from the next table cheers
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
11 Mar 10
I overheard a couple arguing over money in a café once and he got quite nasty at one stage but nothing eventuated luckily, I thought she was going to throw her drink at him or something! Aside from that incident I haven’t encountered any really juicy conversation although I can’t help listening in sometimes! People should really learn to keep their voices down especially if they are disagreeing with each other.
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
Yes I always overhear people's conversation on the other table. It is either about their personal life, a date, a problem, a certain incident happened to her life or about celebrity crushes. I smiled and even laughed discreetly whenever the topic is hilarious. Sometimes when on the other table is laughing hard, everyone will have the interest to know what that was all about and they will look at them and wants to overhear something. That is also what I do, I look at them and try to find out what has happened. I think it is not a sin to overhear, that is not intentional isn't, you just happened to hear it and it is much better to keep it to yourself. But if the story is hilarious, I try to share it to my friends.
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
I hear a lot but i never focus on it since iam more busy in tasting delicious food and have a happy conversation with my companion. Since i think it is rude to listen to other people while they are talking and i am more minding my own business since it would be noticeable if you stare and listen for them longer they may notice it so t is very embarrassing if they would caught you listening to their gossip.