Will You Take Your Secrets with You to The Grave?

Philippines
March 14, 2010 11:49am CST
Will you take your deepest darkest secrets with you to the grave or will you confess then before you die? What are the downside of keeping dark secrets? What makes you scared of letting it out? One man killed someone over 50 years ago over an argument. No one saw the incident and he never confessed. He kept his secret with him his whole life till the day he died. Not a soul knew about this dark secret. Until after the day he was buried and his wife went through the stuff he kept on the basement which he used as a private study. She found an old leather diary worn with time, it belonged to her late husband. What she read almost gave her a heart attack, it was her husband's confession of the crime. She thought she knew him well but it was not the case. He had a deep dark secret he hid from everyone even from her. How would you feel if you found out some dark secrets your spouse is keeping or kept? What would you do?
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17 responses
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
14 Mar 10
Secrets are secrets and they should not be made public. I don't have secrets that I keep locked in my chest and if I have one I would not keep it in record to hurt the living. I will bring it to my grave.
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
I get what you mean but will you keep the skeletons hanging in your closet if you had this deep dark secret? Will you not even tell the one closest to you?
• India
29 Mar 10
Lol i have never hidden any thing from my wife sons daughter, so there are no secrects to carry to grave, i believe in the court of the almighty there in heaven, you can cheat some body here but not in his court Good discussion, my friend, cheers Prof
@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
17 Mar 10
I have something in my past, I will never tell. I feel there is no need to tell it now. I feel it will only cause hurt. We never completely know people. We can live with people and never know all about them, we only know what they want us to know.
• United States
15 Mar 10
Im sure it would be very difficult to except a dark secret if you found it out after your spouse had past. It all about not being able to confront them or even discuss it with them. I know for myself i have a deep dark secret that i will take with me to my grave. I dont have to worry about my spouse finding out after im gone because no one knows and it is not written anywhere for my spouse to read about it. I would have to say the downside of keeping it all within my self is at time it does eat at me and it would be easier to be able to talk about it but thats just how life is. Letting it out would hurt my children so in the long run i think their happiness is more important than me being able to discuss my secret with others. There are days or moments when i would like to just blirt it out and have it just over with but i dont let it happen. I think the best advice is to not put yourself into situation to form a deep dark secret then everything is good and you dont have to live with a secret like this forever.
@trruk1 (1028)
• United States
15 Mar 10
There are some things I will never tell anyone. If you really mean to keep it to yourself, why would you write it down somewhere and risk somebody finding it? The only secrets my wife will find when I die are some clearly marked computer files she should open. She will be surprised to find there is more money than she knew about. Other than that, some of the things I know will die with me.
• China
16 Mar 10
of course. candy fairy. Everyone has his own secrets just for himself. We cannt tell others our called dark secrets just coz we dont wanner get bad comment from others. If we get unfriendly comment it can ruin our common life. and now I have lots of darkest secrets in my life and work, I M ready to take these secret to my grave!Wo, it's such a long plan for me!
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
Finding out about a secret never told from my partner through somebody else would offend me but if I found it on a diary and can truly see that it was a reasonable decision to keep it untold then I think I can find it in my heart to forgive my partner. It's called a secret for a reason so it should remain that way unless needed otherwise.
@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
14 Mar 10
What can you do? That would be a shock, that is for sure. But, can't turn back time. Will I take my secrets to my Grave? I doubt it. I talk too much. hahahaha!
@redrover (597)
• United States
14 Mar 10
I keep no deep dark secrets. The secrets others tell me stop with me, and I will carry them to the grave. When I promise to not talk I mean it. If I was this man, I would not have left a confession. That was an extra blow to his widow. It mad a hard time harder.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I have secrets of my past life that I am not proud of and would rather forget. I've made enough mistakes and disappoints in my life which my parents have not forgiven one of which my dad reminds me of every chance that he gets even though I'm the one who suffered for it. I imagine if they found this out they would possibly hate and disown me. I do feel though that all our secrets will be brought out in the end before God.
@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
14 Mar 10
About how will i take my secrets with me to the grave, i think it's depends on how serious the secrets are... But perhaps sometimes or in other situations, perhaps some secrets need to bold told before we die... Who knows?..
@LadyBoss (253)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Well sometimes it really depends what the secret is. Sometimes its good to keep them in, while other times its better to let them out. If someone cant handle keeping something to themselves and it will drive them mad, then they will just have to tell someone. But with me. There are actually alot of things I have never even told anyone. Alot of the times people wouldnt believe me, or they would tell me I was crazy. But now Ive come to realise it dosent matter what those people think. When I die I will have many many secrets. Never to be Told.
• India
15 Mar 10
Hi candy i am an open book, no secrects from my wife sons or others of any kind, so no chance of carrying to grave or confess, thanks for sharing this story here Bhuwan
• United States
15 Mar 10
i think there are definitely some things that no one should ever no but yourself. i know i've got many secrets that will go down with this ship.
@Dumpertaker (1187)
14 Mar 10
Secrets can be important, I have kept many secrets that people have told me, I have never told a soul...and I never ever will, it is out of respect for the person that I do not mention them. I do have some secrets that I will never ever tell a soul about myself...and it will always stay that way too.
• Japan
14 Mar 10
I have not secret that I am keeping from my partner. And if I have, I will take it to the grave.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
14 Mar 10
Oh, I would imagine that there is something that I have done that once I have done, I have not acknowledged that I have done something. Whether it would be to myself or to other people. If I did not acknowledge it, I guess it would be a secret to an extent. For the most part, there are very few secrets that I keep. There is just something about keeping a secret that is just too much of a strain. If I do keep secrets, it's not like it is something dark and juicy to begin with. However, I do admit like most other people, there are times where I tend to keep things other wraps. Who knows if they are going to be secrets by the time I get to the grave. There could be a day where I am so old that I just say stuff that I am trying to keep secret and really do not care who knows it.