Have you ever rejected anyone?

@Sheepie (3112)
United States
March 21, 2010 7:59pm CST
For a relationship, or, just in general? As for me, I guess I broke up with a guy when I was in middle school, but it was such a childish thing, I don't feel like it's really important, though I do feel a little guilty about it. I'm sure the kid has moved on by now- I think he moved to Mexico, or his family got deported, I don't even know. A guy broke up with me recently.. we, not too recently, but it was my first time for everything and he never made time for me anyway. I think I have a lot of love to give, and I don't have a place to put it- I would need someone to actually be around, and not.. leave me. More recently, a friend of mine tried to commit suicide, and he sort of wants a relationship with me- I know it's just too soon after his incident for him to worry about anyone but himself right now. Also, I don't want him to be dependent on me, and I don't want to have to do anything out of pity for him, and I don't really want a relationship with him. But I didn't really reject him, I just told him it would be better for him- I don't want to hurt him. And of course there's always too-old, creepy guys on the street, who might compliment me.. I just.. smile at them. I wish guys my age had the balls to hit on me like those weird older guys. ....
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animegirl334
@animegirl334 (3263)
• United States
23 Mar 10
I have that problem too with older guys hitting on me. When I was starting high school, I was taking the bus with my friend when this guy who looks like at this 30 comes up and starts talking to us. He kept hounding us and asking for our numbers. I didn't want to reject him so I gave him my cell number. When he called to ask me out, I said I can't. That didn't stop him from calling for three months. At least I know how to say no now.
Bhadine
@Bhadine (594)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
I really hate breaking someone's heart. But if I really can't give back the love that is being offered to me, I rather hurt him now by telling the truth than to make him expect of something that won't happen. After all, nobody wants to accepted just because of pity. And truth will always set us free.
Shasta
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
22 Mar 10
Not to brag or anything but when after I turned 19 I magically turned into a man magnet and guys were coming at me like fleas to a dogs butt and a lot of those guys included some real creepers so yeah I've done some rejecting. It got overbearing at times. I don't know but I think maybe that was god trying to teach me something because when I was a younger teen I used to bug him constantly to please make me pretty so I could have a boyfriend like everyone else did.
Ingkingderders
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Hmmm. I think I have been rejected and I have rejected guys before. I mean, the most hurtful moment that I got rejected was that when I was still in highschool and a guy then ( which is my boyfriend now ), rejected me for some other girl. that was really painfully, but now I guess it's all okay cause atleast in the end it's still us. The worst rejection I did was in college, I rejected my ex, cause, well, I really don't remember what happened then. But just a few years ago, I had a conversation with him, and he tells me that I really had hurt him. I guess back then, I didn't realize what I did to him..
Bhadine
@Bhadine (594)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
I do hate breaking someone's heart. But, if I really can't give back the love that is offered to me I'd rather hurt him now by telling the truth than to make him expect of something that won't happen. After all. nobody wants to be accepted just because of pity.
Bhadine
@Bhadine (594)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
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zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
22 Mar 10
It is good that you be frank to the guy so he won't harbor any ill feelings towards you if you give him false hope. I have gone through many heartaches and no less smashed many hearts during my younger days. This is life, you need to kiss many toads before you meet your prince charming.
autumndreamer
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Well, I have also rejected guys. Well, the reasons are because I realized or I found out I don't really like them, when I don't like their personalities, or I don't like their attitudes, or when I found out something about them that really turns me off!
daliaj
@daliaj (5674)
• India
22 Mar 10
I don't lilke the idea of being in love with somebody and then decide to discontinue, if you have specific reasons that the realtionship is not going to reach till marrriage. I have said 'No' to many people( 5 or 6), who proposed me because I was sure that my parents won't agree to the marraige. My parents wanted me to marry a guy only from my caste and religion. So, I was very sure about that and didn't want to disppoint my parents.
laniekins
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Yes, I have rejected guys who's courting me because im too young that time to have a relationship or maybe I don't like the guy. Mostly, I don't like the guy who's courting me so I really reject them. When I was young I admit that im too harsh on men specially when I don't like the guy, I don't even give them a look or I don't give them a chance to court me not even have a conversation with the them. But as I grow older my ways change. I do now talk to a lot of guys, friends or suitor but still I choose the one I love and reject those I don't and tell them in a good way.
Paleflare
@Paleflare (141)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Hi Sheepie, Let me share you something, I'm a guy there's this girl who likes me back at school and he confess his love for me, I said I'm sorry I didn't realize your feelings until now, But I already like someone else. It know she'll be hurt but if you don't really love then all we have to do is to reject, As time past we became close friends, She said I'm really a jerk to fall for you LOL. Have a nice day.