How do you divide Galapagos?

@dawnald (84075)
Shingle Springs, California
March 30, 2010 1:10pm CST
Divorce - You make financial arrangements, you make custody and visitation arrangements for the children, you divvy up the furniture, you move to separate living accomodations, but how do you divide up the memories, the photo albums, the souvenirs?
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• United States
30 Mar 10
Photos can always have copies made of those that are important to both sides. As for souvenirs, they too would have to be divided evenly like the furniture. Dividing things "evenly" is never an easy task. One side always feels like they are being cheated out of something.
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Mar 10
Yeah, you can copy photos. With a decent printer/scanner you can even do that at home...
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• United States
30 Mar 10
Sure can. Or places like Walmart have those machines to do it also. They use quality photo paper to print them on and often you can not tell the difference between the original and the reprint.
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Mar 10
It's come a long way from the days where they had to take a photo of the photo and it took a week and cost a couple of dollars. lol
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• United States
3 Apr 10
souveniers would be harder..but i'd try to insist upon keeping the photos together for the kids later.or offer copies,that way everybody has some.
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Apr 10
yup.... three sets of copies, one for each, not that they'd all really want that many photos...
@GardenGerty (115955)
• United States
30 Mar 10
The memories you carry in your heart and mind are yours and will always be there. If you are fearful that they will not, then journal out your memories into books that will accompany photo albums. I think as far as photo albums go, pages need to be copied, if the memories represented are of great importance to both parties. Copies can even be made of any flat souvenirs. I like copying at Wal Mart because the photos are laminated and resist just about anything that is spilled on them. With scrapbooks the work is already done, and a photo copy of it will be quick for the duplicate. Other souvenirs will have to be separated out like the furniture.
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Mar 10
Actually, I have a lot of my memories in my blog. One of these days, I think I'll print them out for the kids...
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@MsTickle (25050)
• Australia
7 Apr 10
The woman takes the lot. Guys are not sentimental like that. If he wants copies of photos he can arrange it. He cares little or nothing about those things...if it it his let him have it but otherwise, it's best that you preserve the happy times and keep them together for the sake of the children.
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Apr 10
Ironically he's the one who made the comment "how do you divide Galapagos"...
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@ElicBxn (61078)
• United States
31 Mar 10
one for one, I guess, unless one of you was the collector
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Mar 10
that would be me, I'm a packrat...
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@neildc (17251)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
31 Mar 10
i don't think memories could be divided. souvenirs and photo albums, i can give them all to her but not the kids.
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Mar 10
You can always copy the photos...
@Opal26 (17686)
• United States
31 Mar 10
Hey dawn~ I hope that this doesn't mean that you have finally gotten to THAT point! I really hope that you are still trying to work things out, if only, as they say, for the sake of the kids. Although, I don't believe in that since my parents split up too many times and made that mistake of getting back together for financial reasons and only made matters worse which affected me and my brother for the worse! It isn't easy when it comes to divorce and splitting things up! But, when it comes to the material things I think that the person that gets the custody of the kids should get the "more essential" things! As for the memories, I can't really answer that question, but again I feel it should go to the person who has the sole custody of the children!
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Mar 10
We're still talking but not getting very far.
• Australia
30 Mar 10
Not many men are into souvenirs and the ones THEY like do not usually appeal to women, so the task may not be as horrendous as imagined. Maybe work at it like picking a team - one for you, one for me - each choosing their most favourite item in turn. That seems the fairest way.
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Mar 10
eenie meenie miney moe
@much2say (36077)
• United States
30 Mar 10
Geez, I wouldn't know where to start period . . . we've been together since we were 18 . . . so that's a lot of memories we would have to split (oh, gosh, the thought of it brings tears to my eyes - I can never imagine us ever going a break up or divorce). I know people have said you can always make copies of the photos - but that's so time consuming . . . digital pics are no problem, but the traditional photos are the ones that would be a big project - and who knows where the negs are. Maybe we'd agree to put them in storage for our kids to see - that way we wouldn't have to divide them - just give them to the kids someday. Souvenirs - heh heh - I think he would insist that I take them . . . afterall, I'm probably the clutter culprit in this place. We have a lot of stuff that is "ours" versus his or mine . . . so it'd be real hard to divide up. But I will say, all the kitchen stuff is MINE. Hee hee.
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Mar 10
We've been together since we were 21, more or less, so same dilemma.
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30 Mar 10
Hi dawn, After sorting all the photos out, you will have to make new moemories, you see aometimes old memories can make you sad, sort start a new slate and look to the future, a better future for you and the children. Tamara
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Mar 10
It's a lot of years of memories though...
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@hofferp (4737)
• United States
30 Mar 10
Sounds like everybody has the same idea I did. I'd sit down with my husband and go through the albums. Tag the pictures he'd like to have a copy of and then copy them. As for souvenirs, since I was never in to them, I'd let him take what he wants. Your memories will still be there no matter what you get, he gets, you share...
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Mar 10
I have so many things to go through it's scary...
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@hofferp (4737)
• United States
30 Mar 10
So, this is pretty much a done deal?
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Mar 10
I'm thinking it is...
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@vandana7 (72823)
• India
1 Apr 10
If the memories still haunt you Dawn, and you feel hurt - then may be you need to give yourself a break - a gap of a few months and check whether indeed it is over between the two of you. I thought relationships end on a note of indifference. I am not the wisest of course.
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Apr 10
Some do, most don't, I suspect...
@vandana7 (72823)
• India
1 Apr 10
Yeah I guess. Hope you do find somebody special who cares a lot for you - you are a very sweet person.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
1 Apr 10
When my ex and I split up he took all the photos of our trips etc which was upsetting to me but ended up returning them to me years later, goodness knows why...I could have made copies of the photographs but he didn’t give me the chance; I think he was just being spiteful...Anyway it is a matter of sitting down and negotiating who gets what just like everything else I guess. The thing with mementos and souvenirs is that they are a lot more difficult to let go of but there is nothing easy about divorce...Good luck with it...
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Apr 10
Note to self: mail husband to Germany, avoid hard issues. Well maybe not...
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
31 Mar 10
Divorce is never easy and some things can't be split up. Like you said, how do you divide up memories. So many times ppl jump into marriage without really taking the comitment part of it seriously. Down the road they end up with a divorce and have to split up kids, furniture, visits, pets, and everything else. It would be much easier on everyone if ppl just took the time to make sure that the person they marry is the person they want to stay with. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Mar 10
True, but when you're young and in love you believe that it will last forever.
@p1kef1sh (45638)
30 Mar 10
No idea. I just wanted to pop in and smile at you and nod in a kind of knowing way - despite not knowing really. XXXX
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Mar 10
smiling back...
• United States
30 Mar 10
Scan them and make copies. This is now a digital world. The souvenirs, not sure. In my house the souvenirs just sit and gather dust, or are sitting in a box in storage somewhere. Photograph them and let them go.
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Mar 10
I'm not very good at letting go, but it's time to start learning...
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@BarBaraPrz (24990)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
30 Mar 10
I had copies made of some pics I thought he might want. I got the photo albums and he got the friends. Neither one of us were into souvenirs.
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Mar 10
who got the best end of that deal?
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