Have you tried to get contact friends form the past?

United States
April 13, 2010 3:46am CST
I have friends from school and my parents of my kid's friends that I got to know that I would talk to all the time. Then with busy schedules, kids, daily life in general, I started not having the time to talk to them as much as I use to and then eventually lost contact with. Well, I found an old book that had a few of my friends phone numbers and I contacted them. It was so easy to talk to both of them but you could tell we were all quite busy and our talks were mostly geared around our kids. We all have toddlers so I am thinking that is what is taking up a lot of our time right now. I plan on keeping contact with them and calling them every so often just so that I don't lose contact any more. Anyone else tried to contact friends from the past? What's your experience?
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• Philippines
13 Apr 10
I just did recently, about 2 days ago. I got together with friends from highschool. I started a discussion about mainly just to tell the world because I was so happy to see a lot of them. Most of who were able to come were from the Philippines. Although there were the few who were able to come back from abroad, one from Canada, one from Qatar, and one from UAE. It was such an experience seeing them all again, and bonding with them, and learning a lot from them. Actually, I wasn't able to know about their lives and what they do now as formally as you would think a highschool reunion to be. Heck, I didn't even ask our friend from Canada what he did now. I guess I was just after the time we would spend with each other. Like nothing changed form highschool, like we just grew up 10 years but were still the same bunch of people.
• United States
14 Apr 10
You are so lucky. Was this through a school reunion or did you and your friends plan this meeting? I would love to see some of my old group of friends and talk about old times and get that fun groove going again. It's amazing that you had people coming in from around the world. I am glad that you had this opportunity.
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Definitely, it was well thought of and planned for. We actually formed a committee to take care of tracking and contacting people, looking for a place, and then eventually there was a committee for food (shawarma, tawouq, mostly Arabian food since I went to Saudi Arabia for highschool), giveaways (shisha pipes and reunion t-shirts), international tracking, finances and the like. It took us about over a year to prepare for the reunion. I'm thankful for having this oppurtunity as well. Kind of like a milestone!
@setsuna26 (2762)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
I tried doing something like that before, like calling some old friends asking how they've been and stuff but i noticed something as i talked to them. Its not like before anymore, we are not that close at all actually its more like we are strangers yes they still recognize me but the friendship is somehow not there anymore i cant feel it, i dont notice it.Maybe its not true for everybody, but most of those whom i called perfectly did what i just said. Almost ignored or didnt give much attention at all
• United States
14 Apr 10
It's true, I get the same feeling that although it's easy to talk to them, it is not really the same. I wonder if I am just wishing for something that might not come back.
@setsuna26 (2762)
• Philippines
15 Apr 10
Though bout the same thing too. Its as if im wishing for something that i know will never happen anymore, or it will be pretty much hard to happen anymore. Yes were friends before but because of the time and distance now we are just plainly acquaintance and thats just about it. We just need to learn and accept that fact in our lives
• United States
13 Apr 10
Lately I've been contacting a lot of my old friends from college and even back as far as high school. I've found the easiest way to do it is not by old phone numbers, but through the use of FaceBook. I've made connections with over 50 of my oldest and best friends from the past and we communicate almost on a weekly basis. Plus it's free, rather than paying phone charges.
• United States
14 Apr 10
You are so lucky. I just created a Facebook account because my relatives are on it and tried to look up old friends. I cannot seem to find any. It is quite possible they use their married name now and that is why it is impossible to find them. I asked one of the friends I contacted if she used Facebook and she she said no, she was too much of a private person and afraid some stranger or crazy person would get information about her that she didn't want out there.
@Porcospino (30826)
• Denmark
13 Apr 10
I have thought about contacting some of my friends from the past. Some years ago I met one of my old friends at a busstop. We didn't get the chance to talk much, because her bus arrived, and we didn't exchange phonenumbers. I might be able to find her on facebook though. It could be fun to talk her again, because we used to be very close friends. There is another friend that I am also interested in meeting again. We were friends 22 years ago, so it has been a long time. I am thinking about writing her a letter, but I haven't decided exactly what I want to write.
• United States
14 Apr 10
Yes, I would not know exactly what it is I want to tell them. It almost seems too silly to say I had fun with you a long time ago. Especially considering so many changes have occurred for everyone in such a long time. One has contacted me back but we did not talk too much again after that.
@checkmail (2041)
• India
13 Apr 10
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Hello lionking101 me too wish to have all of mine best friends back with me for mine further life time.But due to our few differences in preference have divided us from each others.When was in school, just for changing subjects we got divided and in college over our stream of education.Yeah although have met again with few friends as the world is so small place.Anyways keep it up with your friends and your friendships.Happy mylotting.
• United States
14 Apr 10
Thank you, I quite enjoy mylotting. It gives me an opportunity to see that there are others going through the same things that I am. I also like getting the different opinions and points of views, especially when at times I can only see my own point of view. This place seems so huge, or maybe it's because I've only been to a couple of different sections so far but I like that there is something for everyone.
@megamatt (14314)
• United States
13 Apr 10
Yes, I feel like I have done this a few times. Mostly I have reconnected to people that I have not heard from in years across the Internet. It is interesting to see where life has taken these people since I have last talked to them. For all I know that some of these people have dropped off of the face of the earth. Yet life goes on, even if I have lost sight of those people. The Internet has really been a way to keep back in touch with these people that we have lost touch in. I have found people and they have found me. It is quite interesting to exchange a few words with these people. Especially since a great many of them I have not seen during my High school days. So it is very interesting and I just wonder if I will ever come across anyone else that I have not seen in years.
• United States
14 Apr 10
That is an interesting point you brought up. Although I live in the same place I have always lived, I do not really see anyone I have grown up with. How strange is that? You would think that I would be bumping into people at the super market or at the shopping malls but I don't see anyone from my past. It is possible everyone has moved away or maybe changed so much that I just don't even recognize them anymomre.
• China
13 Apr 10
Hi,there.I once did this things before.She was my middle school friends and we do had a good terms at that time.But after that I went to high school and we lose touch.Not long ago,I contached her on the internet,but she just gave me the cold shoulder.Well, I should say I feel some hurt anyway and I don't know why she treats me like that.And now I guess we have already become strangers.
• United States
14 Apr 10
It sort of feels bad, doesn't it? Knowing you once shared a closeness and feelings and deep thoughts and now it is gone. I really miss it because back then we were all single with no kids and I remember going out and just hanging out as friends and laughing over the craziest things. I still remember thinking these were just the best friends ever.
@Triper (71)
• Portugal
14 Apr 10
Me and two of my friends tried that but sometimes is kinda hard to get in touch with lots of them. With time some people go to other places and stuff that we would like to make possible to happen just ends in fails. Last time me and two of my friends tried to make something like monthly basketball games with old school friends it ended in a huge fail =\ Problem is not even find them since we msn with lots of them, is just time. People grow up and time available goes down and being near ends in being far away. Still, being in touch with them via msn is still cool :3 Sometimes we even remember crazy stuff and talk about that. It makes people happy remember that moments and ask sometimes why we are now so far away since before it was diary fun. Oh well, world isn't perfect. At least with technology today, people can still be in touch with each others and share the fun thx to websites like facebook or hi5.
@annierose (18954)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
hi lionking 101, Well.. I always tried to get contact with my friends from the past. I used to browse internet so that I could find their accounts for us to have a communication.
@ebuscat (5940)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
For me I tried but there's no response on my text message so i thought they change a number.
@myla04 (15)
14 Apr 10
yup we tried getting contacts with our friends,specially last christmas for our christmas reunion. thanks to social website now. finding your past friends is easy.i found at least 10 of my past classmate at facebook
@jeanbug23 (567)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
I found some real, good friends from the past in facebook..long lost ones but still we get in touch through this site. We were all surprised we found each other and updated some of our whereabouts in our absences. It's a nice feeling though and having so much fun getting to know each other again after so long.