Oh dear so many people read your profile? Do you like that?

@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

9 May 10

hibunnybon and even if they did find me they would just find an elderly woman with a brace on her left leg, a big smile and a quad cane I use to help me walk better. I have not put my address or town on here. and like you say why would they want to? most elderly ladies are not all that popular.

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

10 May 10

hi richnai thanks so I made someone smile today and that makes me smile too as life is too short to be grim all the time.

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cncoke

@cncoke (439)

• China

10 May 10

It's neccarry to do it as you would like.All goes well. Do you know Chiese Expo? Would you like to vist it in China?

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34momma

@34momma (13882)

• United States

9 May 10

that is the whole point of having a profile. so why would i mind if people went and checked me out. people get upset over the silliest things sometimes. I'm with you, i have nothing to hide so go and look.

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

9 May 10

hi 34 momma I was the same way as I could not figure out why she thought it was something I would not like. I am open and free with myself as I have nothing to hide at all. Yes people will find the silliest things to getupset and worry over. nobody is going to hurt me by reading my profile.

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olivebranch56

@olivebranch56 (910)

• United States

10 May 10

I think people look at profiles for different reasons. I will look to see where I might possibly know a person from, if I get a friends request and don't recognize the name.Like you said, you look to see if they are male or female. I also look at the sites they have bookmarked as favorites, why should I befriend a person who likes rock, when I like roll, it is wasting their time and mine, cause I won't chat about the things they like, and vice versa. So I agree with you Hatley, I look too. Blessings Marilyn

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Wendy

@jerzgirl (9233)

• United States

9 May 10

Patsy - HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!! I was hoping for the chance to give you greeting! As for people looking at our profiles, that's why we HAVE profiles. It's for us to put what we want others to see. If we put things we don't want anyone to see there, then it's on us, no one else. If we want complete privacy, then don't put a darned thing there. It's as simple as that. No one should be getting upset that others are looking at our profiles. That's what they're there for. DUH!

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

10 May 10

thanks jerzgirl happy mother's day back. yes indeed, that is just what I told my friend but she has a lot of born again ideas that seem a bit odd to me,nothings right according to her,so I guess maybe shes just not a very good candidate for mylot. I mean I believe' in God but I dont have all her hang ups. and my religion I like to keep to myself. I am glad people visit my profile, I really am.

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

30 May 10

hi parven you are so right but what has that got to do with my discussion. i was speaking of a friend I had as a child and a teenager who did not like the idea of profiles and who does not want to become a mylotter. I was not talking about mothers and their children at all.

parveen_rathi1

@parveen_rathi1 (19)

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12 May 10

A mother want to gave all the safety for his child.mother like his child and give him all the facilities.

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catdla1

@catdla1 (6005)

• United States

9 May 10

I think I'd be more upset if no one ever looked at my profile. I love looking at profiles, to see where people are from, perhaps see a few pictures of things that are important to them. Isn't that the point of a social site?

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pyewacket

@pyewacket (43903)

• United States

10 May 10

I love looking at profiles too catdla1--especially the ones with music playlists...I love finding out what my friends tastes are in music, and sometimes I'm in for a surprise as maybe I think the person is a country/western music type person, and instead they have hard rock...LOL

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

9 May 10

yes me too catdla1 I am glad people do look at my profile and I often do as I love to know we are from all over the world. living in the US sometimes I feel so isolated as I never have money to go on long trips. I like meeting people] from other countries so much.

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Heather Echola

@GardenGerty (157551)

• United States

10 May 10

I have not put pictures on my profile, I am busy loading to my interests, lately, though. We do not get paid for the ones on our profile, so I am a bit mercenary. It is fun to go to the profiles. I thought people knew that was why we had them.

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much2say

@much2say (53958)

• Los Angeles, California

9 May 10

I don't mind if people read my profile on myLot. I will often look at other people's profiles to find interesting discussions they've posted, or to see what country they are from, or what age they are - or sometimes to even get a closer look at their profile picture! And like I said, I don't mind of people check out mine . . . I basically like to stay anonymous and there's nothing really there in my profile that gives me "away". I hope people will come to check out the discussions I've started or commented on . . . isn't that what it's there for? It's not like Facebook where the profiles have a bit more personal information on it. I don't mind people checking it out because I know everyone there personally, but if I find out someone is checking it out way too much - it can feel sort of creepy. But back to myLot - certainly I wouldn't get angry about someone checking out my profile too many times . . . I think it's a source for people to find other discussions . . . afterall, if you are my friend, then we probably have similar tastes - so why not jump into their discussions?

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

10 May 10

I know what you mean much2say as I have found some discussions I had missed on the email bit and the friends posted for some reason and this was one of my really dear friends here too and I did not want to miss not responding to his discussion. i think its great to that we can do this.no your profile pic doesnt look maleish at all.

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

10 May 10

hi muchtosay I also like to have people visit my profile for one thing until I put my gender in I was getting a lot of Mr's when I am a mrs. as I guess Hatley sounds male to some people.but I have kept mentioning my husband and my adult son too. I often find discussions my friends have done that I missed somehow out in my email notifications and even under friends started. So its just great we can all check 'each others profiles.

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much2say

@much2say (53958)

• Los Angeles, California

10 May 10

Hi again, Hatley! I think some people, for whatever reason, have assumed I was male too, so I know what you're saying. Does my profile pic look male-ish? Oh, and I also check friend's profiles to check out their discussions because I normally don't check my emails for all the notifications (it's easier just to check out other people's and MY profile to keep track of activities). I think it's great we can do this too!

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Thoroughrob

@Thoroughrob (11742)

• United States

10 May 10

I don't let it bother me. I really don't pay any attention.

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

10 May 10

hi thoroughrob I told my friend that is what profiles are for, 'to help us know each other better and make it easier to respond to their discussions in an appropriate way. It is good to know that your friend is from a certain country

so you respond without stepping on his or her toes by making a cultural blunder. We all share some similarites but also many differences so its good to avoid upsetting someone by knowing more about them.

ElicBxn

@ElicBxn (63235)

• United States

9 May 10

I go to look at profiles if I'm thinking of adding them as a friend. Sometimes to remind myself where they live (if they have it posted.) Sometimes just to see what kind of discussions or interests they have if they have requested to be my friend. I don't care if someone looks at my profile - granted, you wouldn't know if I were male or female, because it doesn't say, and my name is more male than female, tho I am a fat 50 something fe-type-male...

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ElicBxn

@ElicBxn (63235)

• United States

10 May 10

Oh, I've known a few guys who just love their cats, but can't have the lot I have because of landlords...

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joyceshookery

@joyceshookery (2057)

• United States

10 May 10

I wouldn't put anything on my profile that I wasn't willing to share. I look at other people's profile. It's just part of being part of an online community. How else do we know if we're interested in being friends? When I get a friends request I look at the would-be friend's profile to see if we have any common interests and to see what discussions he/she has posted.

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

10 May 10

hi joyceshookery that is the same way I am as my son told me how to be net smart.,he said do not put anything in your profile that you would be ashamed for the whole web to see and so I did not.I like to have people visit my profile as I often view others just to know a little more about them and to make sure that the person is a he or a she so I do not slant my response to a discussion the wrong way. By seeing each other's interests we can know if we share some interests too. its only good to view our profiles.

celticeagle

@celticeagle (159058)

• Boise, Idaho

10 May 10

I feel as you do. I am not worried online . I use an alias and do things in such a way that no one knows the real personal stuff unless I want them to. It is like having DID or something. My take is that people need to make themselves safe and be smart online. You just never know.

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

10 May 10

hi celticeage I think a lot like you and Ihave nothing to hide, but as my son said do not put your address down, if they are honest and real friends you can use your private messages. so that is what I do, and have had several phone me or send me emails and thats lovely. this way I am safe and as you say smart online.I had a stalker in real life once when I was only twenty and when I would not accept his rings,we were in a cafe, he was furious, came around the table. and tried to choke me, but the two big waiters pulled him off me and someone called the police.his rich daddy immediately shipped the boy out of town back east someplace with relatives. So I would not ever again like to meet a stalker. lol.

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tamarafireheart

@tamarafireheart (15384)

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9 May 10

Hi Hatley, I have no time to go looking at profiles and I haven't looked at mine for a long time, but I don't mind either as there is not much to hide and profiles that we put is open to anyone. Tamara

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

10 May 10

hi tamara yes thats what I tried to tell my friend but she was going off on some religous protest about privacy and I do not know what all. I figured out quickly that she is not going to join mylot and thats fine with me. all our profiles are open and should be so we can better know each other and know a little about each other when making responses to discussions. We were childhood chums but both of us seemed tohave really changed a lot and while I was ready to accept her beliefs even though I did not agree, she wanted to change everything I believed in so think our friendship is going to be sort of shallow.

tamarafireheart

@tamarafireheart (15384)

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10 May 10

Hi Hatley, That is so sad, what has your beliefs or hers got to do with friendships? I have many friends who have differents beliefs, I am sorry she is not a true friend after all. Tamara

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alottodo

@alottodo (3056)

• Australia

10 May 10

My profile is there for every one to look at it...actually I don't even know [or remember what it says]should check on it soon...profiles are important... if I get an invite to be friends I check the persons profile before accepting their invite...if we have something in common then I will accept their friendship...otherwise I just let it be.

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@alottodo (3056)

• Australia

11 May 10

I have made a lot of friends on the internet over the years...I know Im not very active in MyLot at the moment...but I try to participate as much as possible[ oh yes going back at accepting friends]I make sure to read their profile first[ usually]at first I did not do it...and OMG! I had some very abusive and disgusting posts. Not here on MyLot...here I never have any abuse whatsoever...that is why I love MyLot...to me is the place to be

cynthiann

@cynthiann (18602)

• Jamaica

10 May 10

I do look at some profiles - especially if they have just requested me to be a friend. I am not able to get he time to post much lately. Just too much work - as you may know I work two jobs and both are hectic. I do not bother if people want to look at my profile page. I do not know how many have as it is probably quite boring as i do not update it or anything. I do hope that you had a wonderful Mother's Day with our son.Many blessings

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

10 May 10

hiu cynthiann hope you had a great Mothers day too. My son spent the evening before Mothers day with me and wished me an early Happy Mothers day. The buses on holiday sundays now are few and far between so he came early and his visit was a big Mothers Day present for me. My friend, newly discovered from grade school and I have changed so much, and when she saw my profile she decided right then she wanted nothing to do with mylot. well okay if thats the way she wanted it. To me our profiles are there to help us all to understand each other better and they help me to decide if I want to okay a friend or not. I have nothing to hide so am pleased when others visit my profile as I often visit their's too.

Saranggola

@Saranggola (956)

• Philippines

10 May 10

Could we see who views us here at mylot? I wasn't aware of that. Anyway, I could see no problem with that unless the one who views you is your enemy whom you are spreading gossips about and worse, lies.

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

10 May 10

hi Saranggola oh no not at all. we just see how many have visited our profiles per day and in total.oh no we do not have any idea who visits our profile and thats another safeguard in a sense to. No that would be a very bad idea. And thank goodness I have no enemies here, that I know of, and I am sure not one to spread gossip as that is a very ugly thing to do.No Saranggola rest assured we do not know who looked, just how many did. so do not worry about it. I have nothing to hide so am not concerned about people visitng my profile, as thats just what it is for.

Saranggola

@Saranggola (956)

• Philippines

11 May 10

Cheers for that Hatley!

kalav56

@kalav56 (11464)

• India

10 May 10

HI Hatley! Actually it is the opposite in my case.I had not even noticed thsi earlier.But recently or so I noticed that there were some 4 profile views or so on one day.I was actually pleased with this because I thought someone had found my response or discussion interesting enough to have a peek at my profile.Moreover, there is nothing in my profile that cannot be viewed. Mine is a very bare outline.

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

10 May 10

hi kalav56 well I found out my old friend is way too much into her religion that she thought my profile was dangerous so she just decided not to enter mylot. I like the idea that people have looked at my profile. It makes me f eel that maybe some people appreciated what I had done and too I have nothing to hide any way. I did not put down any personal information at all.

dpk262006

@dpk262006 (58675)

• Delhi, India

10 May 10

Hi Hatley!

You are a veteran here and I think many new users love to see your profile to enhance their knowledge how an older member's profile appear and how she works on discussions and start discussions. I wish that more and more members could see my profile.

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

10 May 10

hi dpk yes I have been here three years now, 11 months I was missing but am so glad to be back. like I told my old friend profiles are here so we can each view the others, and find what interests and thing we have in common. I have nothing to hide and love to know others have looked at my profile. I often view others to help me know how to respond better to their discussions as for example for a while I was responding woman to woman to this mylotters discussions only to fin to my embarrassment that she was really a guy, if I had looked at his profile earlier I would not have made such a silly blunder; I apologized and he just found it really amusing, and was not a bit upset.

littleowl

@littleowl (7157)

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10 May 10

Hi Hatley, It doesn't worry me either when others look at my profile. though admittedly I hardly look at mine anyway, if others want to look and either see anything about me or leave a graphic etc then I hope they can feel free to do so. Like you I have nothing to hide either...hugs LoLo

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

10 May 10

hi littleowl well I and my old friend really do differ now, odd how much we both changed,so she refuses to join mylot, and as far as I am concerned that's fine. I love to have others look at my profile as I 'feel honored that they cared that much. I have nothing to hide and lots of time to share with others or help if I can.hugs from Hatley

liquorice

@liquorice (3887)

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10 May 10

I don't mind if people read my profile, otherwise I wouldn't have customised it and put things on there (not to mention that I wouldn't have any kind of net-presence in the first place!) I'm a bit confused about your friend's opinion, because that's what profiles are for; to learn about the person you're replying to or befriending, and getting to know them a bit better. If somebody doesn't want people looking at their profile then maybe they shouldn't be on a public site like this, and I assume that your friend is not a member here. I'm sure that if you were bothered about it then you wouldn't be writing here either!

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

10 May 10

hi liquorice me either as I always read other's profiles to know where they are from and sometimes check their interests as I find so many have a lot of the same interests as I do. I like the idea that others look at my profile. No my friend would not join my

lot and I guess it was something to do with her strait laced 'religion about privacy, anyway she is not joining and thats okay with me. We both have changed a lot I guess but while I do not share her religious or politcal views, I sure do respect them but she made it quite evident she thought I needed changing. Anyway I myself see nothing wrong in liking others to view my profile as thats what its there for.No I appreciate others looking at my profile.

Daddy Neil

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

10 May 10

i am not also bothered about the viewers of my profile. actually, i don't view it too myself.

i guess, i also have nothing to hide so why bother. and i think it is better for us to be viewed more times. it's just like we are popular as actors and actresses.

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