listening or talking?

Philippines
May 11, 2010 4:53am CST
in a relationship, the above mentioned are always both mutual and should be in a relationship to keep the boat moving. however, it cannot be denied that in friends, or best friends, there are those who are really a listener, and of course the great talker. the action, and the words as i may use it. as for me, i am more of the talking. listening is just bugging me off. but there are really times that talking is really have to be stopped and listening is just the right thing to be doing.. well, what are you from the choices?
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Despite the fact that there are sometimes that I need to be the person that is talking, most of the time I am the person that is the listener. I think that the reason that I am one that is typically a listener is because of the fact that I took a lot of psychology classes when I was in college and from taking all of those classes I learned to really listen to people. I think that being able to be a listener is a great gift to be able to have as a friend.
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• Philippines
29 Dec 10
Thankful to say that God is providing us always a person willing to listen struggles. Listening is indeed a very helpful gift for others. Friends are always accumulating because of your listening ears.
• Philippines
16 Jun 10
I am more listening than talking. I do listen first before talking actually. I do like listening to different stories. When there is an argument I do listen too first but if the other person is lying I will clog what they are saying and I will talk on their face until they lost. I will not make myself to fail in any argument much more if I hold the truth. In gathering I like to listen first and then share something about myself if I am allowed.
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• Philippines
29 Dec 10
I like talking much when i have topic to talk much. But i don't go into false argument. I listen when there is other talking.
@trixyteddy (1070)
• India
13 May 10
I do both, depending on the situation. There are times when we have to talk, and times when we have to speak. We have to be the judge of that giving the situation.
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• Philippines
29 Dec 10
yeah. Sometimes listening and talking time depends upon the situation.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
13 May 10
you know, a talker surely needs a listener, not a lamppost. and a listener needs to listen to somebody, but not necessarily a talker, if you know what i mean. between talkers and listeners, the whole point is substance. if somebody is talking about something that is really interesting, then even an inveterate talker may be tempted to listen and vice versa.
• Philippines
29 Dec 10
your right. The only way to make the talking person listen also is to have converse an interesting topic. So that both can listen and talk. Talkers and listener will be communicating well if they both talk about interesting topic.
@nangisha (3496)
• Indonesia
17 May 10
Hai jingbautista! are you a relative of Cristian Bautista?. I think in relationship you have to do both because you can not just listen you need to talk your mind and start to communicate to each other to build understanding between you and your love one. I think we must able to read situation and predict our lover mood and decided its better to talk or to hear. I find its usually better to hear first after he feel satisfied talking all about his feeling and come down, its my turn to talk.
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• Philippines
29 Dec 10
Christian and I were just closely related with regard to handsome faces but neve to our voice. Communication is really important to both talker and listener. Through listening and talking, understanding to each other is built up.
@mokkka (881)
• Bulgaria
14 May 10
It is tiring to be either of these both options.I love talking but if only I talk I start feeling strange-as if I am talking to myself.I need somebody who not only listens to me but also gives me advice and tells his or hers opinion.
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• Philippines
29 Dec 10
I sometimes listen rather than talking if i felt no one will be listening to my topic. It's tiring for me to just listen but when I'm interested in the topic that the time I give much listening time.
• Lithuania
11 May 10
i am and listening and talking. it is depence of my situation. i have a lot of friends. and some are very very quet persons or almost every timme i am trying to brake the silence and to make the mood up... i have some friends whose are talking a lot and sometimes i am asking to stop and make a break, because i feel tired, but it is happen very rare. i am that person, who can listen and talk at the same time :D
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• Philippines
13 May 10
Wow, that is nice to do. You see, there are just many out there who used to talk out loud and some are just wanting to do their own thing, and happens to do not need you or us anymore. It is like the world is revolving around him or her own life. Well, as friend, we cannot do anything about it. All we have to do is talk and listen still. Hehe..
• Philippines
11 May 10
I'm more of a listener than a talker. I have low self-esteem so I don't talk that much and tell stories about what's going on with my life. I even have stage fright when I was kid... AND up until now I still have it. It sucks but I try to open up once in a while lol. I'm not the person who will be the first to say hi unless we're really really close. One good thing about me being a listener, my friends can tell me their deepest, darkest secrets since they know I'll just listen while they're spilling the beans. In short, they trust me ha! Besides, I won't get anything good out of it if i rat about their secrets.
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• Philippines
12 May 10
Hey, thank you. And I think I still have do somethings. But then, being able to share your own life deserves some bond together with the person as well. It really did good to both of you. And it is usually easy to share when both knows the difference and the same things you and your friends as well. but i respect their decisions and your decision as well..
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
11 May 10
I am more of a listening person. I do this one because I am an observant person. I only speak up if someone asked me to say something. I would not hesitate what I observed by just merely listening to the surroundings. Through listening I got the chance to weigh every thing both sides or both parties.
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• Philippines
13 May 10
well, what can I say, there are just some things that are worth doing for especially when at times that the situation calls for it. It never is easy to do the other way. And there are just people who are both listener and talker as well. And there are those who master in their own craft. But then, whatever it is, let us be soft and open minded enough for the comments and be sensitive to listen to others what they need at the moment, either listener or talker..
@juggerogre (1653)
• Philippines
11 May 10
A combination of both. I'm a good listener especially to my friends who have problems. I need to listen to them so I could understand them better. I'm also a good talker. Of course after I listen to my friend's problem I need to give them some advise. I'm also fond of telling stories and listening to other stories in return.
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• Philippines
13 May 10
That is nice. And congratulations. I bet your friend is fond of you, and they found some greater assurance to be with you. Well, just continue your craft. And I only have one question: how were you able to share some advice? Well, as for me, I really find it hard to give one. Especially when it comes to a relationship problems. Well done!
11 May 10
I am a silent person that is why i go for listening........
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• Philippines
13 May 10
Well, I respect that. But somehow, we have to be sensitive to others as well. There are a lot who wanted to listen to you too. Your sweet voice and nice talks were needed in a smooth flow of relationship. But I think it will take time to manage to be the talker. Hehe.. enjoy..
@keval32 (1096)
• India
11 May 10
I believe there should be both, keep speaking is bad, and keep only listening is also bad. If u keep speaking then other will start ignoring you as time passes, and if you keep listening then other will think that you're not smart, you're just dumb. I would like to do both, speaking and listening. But listing amount should be greater than speaking, because everyone wants audience to listen him, if you can be that audience then he will be satisfied with you and he'll compliment you saying that "you're really good person". I have experience. So ultimately listen more and speak less.
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• Philippines
11 May 10
yes. and you have a good point there. thank you..
@achoo123 (53)
• Pakistan
11 May 10
well me and my childhood friend are both great talker. We talk like two girls talk continously with each other. in the same way we talk with each other.LOL.
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• Philippines
13 May 10
Haha, I wonder how you both sounded when I am near. And I think you are just too close to each other. Hehe.congrats
• China
11 May 10
actually,I really want to be a talker.but in fact, I always be as a listener when I'm toghter with my friends.I just fail to choose a proper topic and go on it.you know I really hate the feeling then.
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• Philippines
13 May 10
I see that your friend gets over you. Hehe. At times, my friend would surpass me as well. Sharing their emotions and problems and seems like their jokes is overpowering mine and a lot would laugh at them than at me. Whatever the case, I am still their friend. Hehe. And laugh it out loud, or even louder. hehe
@celticeagle (157593)
• Boise, Idaho
12 May 10
Listening is a very important aspect of any relationship. I was so interested at one point in time that I did some research and wrote an article on the subject. Here is the link: httpwww.ehow.comhow_4697056_listen.html I suppose I am more of a listener. I have had people tell me this. I care about what people have to say. Oh, I am also a good talker too. I used to talk over others and such until oneday I realized how much it bothered me when others did it and so I changed my ways and wrote the above article.
• United States
12 May 10
I think of myself as a good listener, but I don't have any trouble talking. My father's side of the family is quite skilled in talking and I inherited that ability.
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• United States
12 May 10
I am definately a listener for the most part. I enjoy working on my listening skills. I do this by hearing what the person is saying and trying to expand on it during the discussion. Other times, when I am a talker, I can tell if the other person is truly listening or not. It bugs me when people pretend to care what I am saying, but, obviously do not.
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• India
13 May 10
Most of the time I choose to listen and speak only if its a must. When other person is angry, its better to be quite. when both are happy talking too much will work otherwise it does not work. I feel that if you choose to listen many misunderstanding may reduce. If you are open to listen there will be less miscommunication and at the same time you should speak your part. Its all about being open in communication whether you speak or listen.
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• Philippines
13 May 10
Hi jingbautista, well I'm more on the listening side; unless the talker wanted some explanation or ask for an opinion that's the time I talk.
@markleob (1902)
• Philippines
12 May 10
i do most of the talking hahaha when i am with friends... but when i am with my special someone, I talk and listen at the same time...
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