I was invited to come as a guest at our Family Reunion. But not as a family.....
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
May 12, 2010 1:14pm CST
We had a family reunion that was coming up. And many of our family members that I have seen and never have seen before would be there. I wanted to attend this event so that I could meet many people in our family. So, my cousin told me that if I was to come she would have to invite me as a guest. I don't quite understand why I could not come as family. So, one day my uncle, asked me if I was attending the family reunion and I told him no. I said that I could only come as a guest. And I told him this. And he blurted out, "Guest! You are not going to come as a guest you are going to come as family," he said to mention his name just so that I could be invited as an actual family member. I saw my cousin look at me nervously and curiously as I told him this. I never revealed to him that she said that. He was asking me about, who would tell me that I would be coming as a guest when I was indeed family. He was very upset. I am glad that I was invited, but being invited as a guest does not make me feel like I am a part of the family. I don't understand why my cousin would not want me included into something that was going to be so special and fond to all of us. This would truly be a memorable experience and I would like to attend this event. But I did not. I felt unwanted so I did not show up.
This uncle was my aunts husband. My aunt was my daddy's sister. He has passed away last year. R.I.P Uncle Wesley. I hope that you are in peace in Heaven.
This uncle was my aunts husband. My aunt was my daddy's sister. He has passed away last year. R.I.P Uncle Wesley. I hope that you are in peace in Heaven.7 people like this
15 responses
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
12 May 10
Let me get this straight. Your uncle said for you to come as a family member. Did he die before the reunion? If so, I don't blame you for not going. If not, then you should have went and had a good time since obviously not everyone thinks that way about you.
@celticeagle (160064)
• Boise, Idaho
12 May 10
I think this cousin of yours is really a piece of work. I hope you will be careful and not niave around this person. To want you to come as a guest to your own family reunion is just down right dispicable. I would watch this person very carefully in the future. You just don't know what they may do. They just dont seem to be treating you very nicely.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
12 May 10
Cream97 you know you are family, you know those are your cousins, aunts, and uncles. you didn't need anyone to invite you. you invite yourself to a family reuinion. Your cousin for whatever reason is an a$$hole for saying what she said, but you played into her hands by not showing up.
i hope they have another one next year, and i would recommend that you go. your uncle was right, you don't get invited as a guest to a reunion you go as a family member!!!!
@momtrying2makeit (3270)
• United States
12 May 10
Cream97,
This happened to my family about a year ago. My mother was invited to a country club where her mom and dad and sisters and some other family members would be attending. At first my mom had told me and my daughters that we could come. So my girls were all excited and than my grandma, my mother's mom called her to say that only she was to come as it was just going to be her, mom and dad and her sisters. Needless to say when my mom got there all my cousins were there so my mom left. Her family is like that and to be honest I never felt close to any of them. I know I have accepted this but my girls are so lovable and do not need people like that in their lives.
AS for you I think i would have not gone either. I think if someone in the family had not invited me than maybe I am not really a part of the 'family'. I do not know all I have is my boyfriend, my mom, my two brothers and my two daughters. My boyfriend's family just recently started coming around and letting my girls hangout with their cousins so I see them having a life like me, which is something I never really wanted. I hope for the best for you and I hope all things work out for the best!
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
12 May 10
cream, emotions towards family could get as intricate as curlicues. Jealousy, envy pride - we could only hurt the ones we love. Your cousin could have felt you a threat because you are a better member of the clan. That is why the effort to deter you from coming. Be yourself and always be there for the family. Things will come to pass and when you are old, you would know that life is marvelous because these setbacks had occurred. Family will always be family!
@MaryTheIceCube (72)
• United States
12 May 10
Why would anyone want to exclude another family member from a family reunion, or single them out as a 'guest' rather than an actual family member? I don't really understand that! No matter what, you're blood relatives with these people. They really ought to accept that, no matter their feelings toward you as a person. I don't know, I guess I'm just one who likes to look past all the personal issues and really I would consider my friends family as well, not just guests.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
13 May 10
Hi cream, it's really annoying as well as a bit insulting if we, a genuine family member is invited as a guest instead of a family member. I wonder what was actually hidden in behind of this event. Really funny eh....I'm glad to learn that you have a caring and considerate uncle. I believe you would feel at ease after hearing the words of your uncle. Yeah, I agree that it's still rather unconvincing though you were invited finally but after the mention of your uncle's name.
We will have our family reunion or gathering several times yearly. All the members are invited as long as they are happy to attend the reunion occasion. I like having fun with my young and elderly relatives in this happy reunion. It's precious moment to have all the family members to get along together in great pleasure 
Happy posting!
Happy posting!
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
13 May 10
Honey, you should have went to YOUR family reunion. I would not have let this snotty girl that felt she had a say as to who could and could not come to the reunion as "family" apparently she is one of those people that just wants to include herself as one of the "important" people that has say over everything when in fact she does not.
I'd go to the next reunion as this is something that is important to you! She is the one that was trying to run the show not anyone else.
It's not that anyone did not want you there. This girl just was trying to be something she was not...important!
Go next time and enjoy yourself...just as you should. Get to know your family!!!!
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@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
15 May 10
some of my mom's family is like that.they didn't like my dad (due to his rank,i guess they wanted an admiral),so they treat me and my brother like "dog kin".
they usually have nothing to say to us unless they want something so i usually don't bother with them.
it hurts my mom more than it does me,and because of that,once she's gone i'm telling the lot of them what they can do with themselves.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
13 May 10
oh cream you should have gone as your Unckle said just mentin his
name. but I can understand how you must have felt. That was really
very unkind of your cousin as she had to know you were family, that
really stinks to my way of thinking. Your Uncle must have been a
really special person. I do wish you had gone even if just to give
a little nose thumb to the cousin. Family reunions are really
special and nobody should be excluded like that. I think your cousin
was really out of line, and I can see that remark was really hurtful.
I am sorry Cream. I hope she does not say any more unkind things
to you. take care. good luck. God Bless.
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@redmaryjane (891)
• United States
13 May 10
It must have been a mistake that your cousin regretted as seen on the look on her face. You still should have gone, as your uncle would have expected you there. Next time there's a reunion, go and attend! I'm sure that when they find out who you are and how you're related, you'll be making rounds being introduced to other family members. The fact that your uncle seemed outraged shows love, care and concern. I'm sure he was a good man.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
13 May 10
I think i know it now.. Your husband's sister, does not like u at all.. MOst likely, u must hvae stepped on her toes in the past, and she's still bearing a grudge on u, till date..
If not, why would she be treating u in that way?? UNless u have always been complaining to your husband and your husband scolds her as a result?? If not, i really dunno why would she wanna treat u bad 
