Hurt or nothing.

hi,Love is always painfull , how can anyone not feel hurt when its realling hurting.Either u take it not serious of that person when u dont feel hurt while leaving him or her.I dont know how ur mom says so.may be she says true love for someone would never ask anything in return.And when nothing is expected then how come u feel hurt.

'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to love at all. I really do believe that.

I feel that in order for one to know love, one must at least be hurt once. That's why they say first true love almost won't end up being together forever. That's my personal take on this. Although no one would ever want to be hurt in any way, I believe that it is good to have some form of experience in this area. I'm a no pro, but this is what I think. However, there are some people whom won't want to be hurt at all, so it's each other prerogative. Good topic, Saph. By the way, I'll be catching up on my email follow up soon, that's because my email is currently not working; ugh...hotmail's acting up again.

love and hurt are two sides of coin saph . just like black and white, but sure there is till many color which make the world rich. not only hurt, but u will feel the pain, jealous, happy, silly, miss, betrayal and so on. if u dare to face the love u have to ready to feel all of it too.

@saphrina- that is a very mature question. I believe getbiswa is the right person who can give you excellent advise on this one. My thoughts - All feelings, love, hate, desire, whatever are transitory. So sit and analyze a way around hurt so that you hurt less, or love less. We are, after all, made chemical bonds, and so are our thoughts. A change of scene always helps because of this. :)

once upon a time, i did have belief in it. it really felt right. there was no way anything could separate us. even if we drifted apart, we always came back together. that last time we were together, it was the most happiest 3 consecutive years of my life... well, suffice to say that her parents married her off to the son of a richer, more influential man. and she's just recently had a son. it hurts. i try to forget, but it hurts terribly to even try.. i'm forcing myself to accept and move on. i think i have moved on. but during those quiet moments of the day, memories come back. and it hurts. i don't know if i'm supposed to get hurt. i don't know if i'll never be hurt again. but i'm sure that i don't want to love someone that much anymore. because it hurts too much..

they say tis better to have loved and lost.. blahblah. i agree with you that if a person loves you, they dont hurt you. sometimes feelings get hurt inadvertantly tho, and that just happens. in any relationship, not just romantic. if however there is more pain than love? no.. thats not reasonable... but pain is a part of life.

you are 100% right dear friend. i am agree with you and is sure that there are less people who are lucky in their love. most of us get hurt by their loved one as me too. hahaha... yet i want to laugh and live and wish to start a new life again without anyone close to my heart. have a nice day.

I have yet to meet a married couple that has not hurt each other to some degree. However, I am not one to roll the dice on a spouse. Doesn't seem like a worth while risk to me. On the off chance you might have a good marriage, you risk divorce, infidelity, fights, bitterness, and a living hell on Earth. Doesn't seem like a good trade. Think I'll stay single :)

Well all i can see is follow your heart---i think that is most valuable and important thing in our life which wouldnt let you down---no matter how down you're lol even under water.Do not go for the bull blindly---do consider the pros and cons it would help you to lead a good future

Hi, I think she is absolutely right. She has a definition of love which is not often understood or implemented by most of us. She is talking about an ideal love, a love beyond all expectations and desire. This has a more philanthropic aspects. Very few people actually admire this concept, as our material love is usually based on desire. But those who can see clearly beyond such trivial forms of love, is a very precious person. Love doesn't let you get hurt. On the contrary true love should make you invincible. Thanks God bless you

My angel, I'm afraid your mom don't have much thing to consider as of these days. During their days maybe her thought is just right because man/woman were just as faithful and seems innocent of all these matters in life. In our days though,it seems doesn't work well with that statement. When you are in love and loved by someone, we have to face the facts that pain would be there and you will surely get hurt for many reasons.Love sometimes cause pain and it can't hide the real meaning that love and pain always together. If you felt in love and been loved we need to be ready for pain and hurt cause by our emotions and by our love one,intentional or not still make sense when love is involved. Theres a saying with I can say its quiet real." LOVE is like heaven but it hurts like hell".

If the person whom you love,hurts you and is a pleasure for him...is a very serious problem "A wound made with a knife can cure but a wound with a word...ever"

I think it's not true that when you are in love and loved by someone you will not get hurt because when you really love someone you will do everything for him to become happy despite of consequences ! so when you get used into a relationship you should make your self ready to the consequences it will have. That's love . It's like after the rain there's a rainbow on it!

I think i would rather get hurt by someone I loved rather than love at all. Having love is a special feeling and yea sometimes it hurts but in the end it is better to love. There are times when my boyfriend inadvertently hurts me and vise versa, we say something or does something that accidently hurt each other, but we both also know we would never do it on purpose and almsot immediately apologize.

oh I do not believe when you feel love, you will never feel pain. When you are hurt by love it only means you grow in love. Love is not always to feel happiness, it has to be equal. In that way you evolve you can be weak or you can be strong. The faith in love is this, the person that you love is the one that will hurt you too. life without being hurt is lifeless, being hurt taught you to decide what mistake you made and you will never do it again. There are no people who do not feel pain.

I have always insisted an opinion is that life without love is incomplete,or in other words is that life had not experienced love is incomplete.We cannot foresee whether the love we own will hurt us or not,but it is commonly that life full of happy and sad.We need love,whether we had experienced hurt or not.we can't lose the faith to love.If unfortunately we get hurt from our choice,it's OK, because we didn't lose love,we just lose a person who didn't know how to cherish the pure love.We still have the confidence to find the real destined love of us.

If let me do o a choice then i will choose neither ,i will choose to be loved and not be hurt because i was hurt once time and i dont want to suffer again ,it was really bad feeling of life .and when you are in love ,you feel happey after sadness even he made u sad and also because he make u happy too.

Love is sweet and tenderness. People in love is like in wonderland. Everything in life is wonderful. But don't get so excited about that. All is not stay forever. We just only a human being. Sooner we will face in something we can't do anything except getting hurt. The hurt may be is the best solution for that relationship to let to be.

I feel that no matter how hard you try everyone hurts someone sometimes. There's intentional and unintentional hurt. I know there's been times when I've said something and didn't think about it enough and I ended up hurting the one that I love. I didn't meant to hurt him and when I realized I did I felt terrible but then there's other times when you are angry with someone and you go out of your way to hurt them and make them feel the way that they made you feel. or for someone to feel the pain that you feel. It's not right but I feel like it's a part of life!