If people have some thing they want to say why do they

I think some people are just too good, and are afraid of hurting other people. That's why they beat around the bush, including me sometimes. They are so worried about offending others that it becomes detrimental to them too. Often it is also complicated by shyness and lack of confidence. But I agree that sometimes, you just got to mouth-off, and say what you mean. To get things done, or to get things going.

I agree. If people don't want to have so much of confusion going on, they should say exactly how they really feel. That is why many people have problems today. It is because of a lack of communication. Talking and saying what you really mean, can really make things so much easier in the long run.

jugsjugs, Sometimes, people like your friend just does not know how much more hurtful when her husband becomes both direct and insensitive to her. I think she needs to realize just what kind of body language, negativity and front she is projecting to her husband. A lot of times, people just does not have that magnanimosity to accept spoken or learned truths. I mean frankly, how many times have you seen people telling their halves that they do not mind and seek for the bare truth of things and then fall back into all sorts and fall out. Being tactful and sensitive just does not mean any cowardice, unloving or escapism, it is in fact just the opposite of it all. Most of all, it is not some kind of Alpha male chauvinism - if I may add. Sometimes, people like your friend should learn and practice the art of prudent patience or she will never know all the good that a simple smile and a word in the right moment is like. Have a nice day.

Because they are shy and intimidated by the situation. My daughter's father used to slap me when I wouldn't talk to him and heed and hawed. He needs to figure out what he is trying to say in his head and then say it. Life is too short!

some people just don't know how to talk to each other,in most of my relationships i've always told them how i feel,even if they don't want to hear it,as for getting angry,what's the point,yes i know people can be very annoying but getting angry is a waste of time,it does'nt solve anything,that's why i don't tend to lose my temper

They feel afraid that's why they couldn't say it clearly. In this purpose he should talk with his father very cool mind. And ask him what he wants to do.

I think even if the truth hurts, at least you have said something. And plus, it's the truth. Sometimes, we know what we want to say or even hear, but to avoid conflicts and pains; we ignored the issue. We postponed and postponed the day when you have to say it. Or sometimes you just stored in some courage so to be able to utter those dreaded words. As for me, I am a very frank person and if I want to say something especially when it concerns relationship or friendship. I don't run around the bush that much.. I mean, I start with an introduction and finally the body of the content, and the conclusion. Meaning, I explain why and how I came to say this or that. Not just only for the sake of saying something. And also I have the if he gets angry I will do this, if not...etc..We can avoid misunderstanding if we say what we want to say, sincerely, clearly and with the full knowledge of the consequences that may arise from it. Storming out or walk out scene will not help at all. It only builds a larger gap. (^^,)

I get sort of frustrated with people beating around the bush, too, but the fact is different people have different styles and some find it difficult to be as direct as I usually am. Probably these people find my directness annoying! But they are too timid to come right out and say so. LOL!

Some people just don't know the right words to say so they try to beat around the bush and come up with something else. Or it could be because what he knows he's gonna say is gonna hurt the person and they don't want to come out harsh in saying it. There could be many other reasons as well.

They don't want to hurt people, they're scared, they expect people to understand what they mean without explanation, many reasons. but it sure would be so much nicer if everybody would be clear.

Woah, really? That guy needs a lot of patience and I guess his wife just ran out of it. There are those people who prefer to tell half truths rather than the whole truth and there are also those people who are not comfortable saying things. More so if they know what they have to say will have a negative effect on the person that they are speaking with. I guess most people beat around the bush because they dont want anybody to get hurt, or they dont want to be embarrassed, they did something that they werent supposed to do, or they have to do something that they really dont want to do. Those are just my speculations and I think people have different reasons for doing it. Personally, I want people to say things directly, whether it be good or bad. I want to hear what they have to say right away so I can see if I can do something about it or not. That's just me anyways.^_^

sometimes people just want to express what they feel, not what they want to say. they tend to be tense to express it. words only came when we have a cool mind.

I think it depends on what they want to say. They might be afraid of hurting the other person's feelings or making them mad at them. They might be afraid if they cause any hard feelings that this person won't have anything to do with them any more. I'm this way, myself. I think these people need to learn assertiveness. In other words, they can tell these people what's on their mind in a more tactful way. My problem is, I'm not assertive enough a lot of times. I've always been a little too easy to get my feelings hurt and I try to treat other people the way I would like to be treated. I must admit that I can get mad very easily at times! It's because I'm human, though.

There are some people that aren't as skilled in interpersonal communication as other people are and I think that is the reason that there are people that have a difficult time saying what they want to say or what needs to be said. I know that there are times that I am guilty of doing this, but I try to keep these times to a minimum because I end up feeling hurt when I am not able to express what I need to say.

I think many people are afraid to hurt other's feelings . Or they think if they say what they really mean, their lover or partner will leave.

Well, not that many ple are as straight forward.. Because more than often, the true hurts most.. haha =D It's really difficult to differentiate, being straight forward or being blunt in one's talking.. THus, ple tend to beat round the bush, in the hope of not hurting anybody, and in the process, hoping to find the right words to say, and also getting their message across.. haha

hi jugsjugs I had that problem with myown hubby,he would go around with a long face,I would ask what is wrong? and get his nothing, dont worry. well darned of course I worried so finally I threatened to do myself in if he did not just tell me what is wrong? he looked at me and raised his eyebrows.Then he spilled it,"I did not want to upset you honey but I was fired today.its okay dont worry i will get another job." I told him of course he would but just remember not to criticize the boss as bosses do not like to be criticized like that. And he did get another job but alas it was the same old thing. he was a superb cook but he tended to be critical of others in the cooking industryh which caused him to lose job after job. so wehn he got a lawn mower and other tools and started his own business I was thrilled a s he did make a good living for us doing that and at times I would go out and help him as I love to grow andplant shrubs,trees and garden flowers too. My son is the same way too and they did it because they did not want to worry mama. well mama was already worried so tell me what the hell is wrong and do not make me guess.

Some people don't come out and say what they mean because they are afraid of hurting the other person. If they are expressing an opinion, they might want to avoid an argument. Yelling at the person doesn't help. In fact it might make it harder to say what they are feeling, because they wouldn't want to get yelled at again.