how do you feel if you discover that you can't have a baby forever?
By edlene
@edlene (48)
June 11, 2010 10:36pm CST
i think it's very hard for the person that can't have a baby forever...it's very sad because all of us are dreaming to have a baby for a happy family...but what can we do about it? i think you just have to accept it. and it's up to you if you will adopt some baby. but i think it will be hard too cause it's not your own blood but some are just trying to adopt and love the baby because they feel it's just their own....
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9 responses
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
12 Jun 10
I am already facing this problem, but it is not devastating for me. I would just adopt. People in my family adopt children, and it is no big deal and there are many women in my family who cannot have children, that is just they way it is. We deal with it. It's not the end of the world if you cannot have children of your own.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
12 Jun 10
I am sure it would be very difficult. My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage which was heartbreaking then I had trouble getting pregnant again. I was convinced it was never going to happen to me and it made me very depressed. Finally it did happen for me and I have 3 beautiful children. But I can just imagine knowing for a fact I could not have children that would have broke my heart to bits. I love kids and my husband and I have a lot to offer our kids, it would have been unfortunate had we not been given that opportunity. I am sure we would have adopted if we could not have had any.
@maximax8 (31047)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun 10
I would have felt devastated if I had found out I wouldn't have been able to get pregnant ever not even with fertility treatment. If I had been through years of trying to get pregnant I would have had a go at fertility treatment. If that failed I would apply to adopt a sibling group of children. Like I taught a little boy that was adopted into a loving family. He had a 9 year old brother and a 4 year old sister. Two of my cousins tried to get pregnant but it didn't happen. One tried in vitro but it put her health at risk. She had to stop trying. Neither of my cousins adopted but I would have if I had been in their situation. I have three children so I feel very lucky.
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
12 Jun 10
I would be sad that I wasn't able to have any kids on my own, but its ok. There are lots of children out there that need good homes. I would adopt.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
12 Jun 10
Hello welcome to mylot
If you are confirmed that you can't bear a baby for some medical reason, and if it is confirmed by doctors, not once but several times, you have to bear it, but no need to get stressed, one can adopt a baby, give love, thats enough..
Thanks for sharing.
Welcome always.
Cheers.
Professor
@caliya (1169)
• Philippines
12 Jun 10
I would be devastated if I find out that I will not be able to bear a child but I will still continue living my life and who knows miracles could happen but if not then I am open to adopting. If adopting a child will not happen then I will just find other ways to enjoy life after all there's more to life than having a baby.