How can a mother and father not care for their own son??

@cream97 (29163)
United States
June 15, 2010 6:13pm CST
This makes me so sad. I know that my brother-in-law is a grown man. But the way that his parents treat him is just sad. His mom does not want him in their house. He is sitting on the porch in a chair. It is very hot outside, like in the 90s. And his skin is getting all dark and ashy. I know that he needs a shower. It is hot outside and my mother-in-law knows that he is out there, but she will not bother to offer him anything cold for him to drink or to eat. I feel so sorry for him, I really do. When his father discovers that he is at the house, he will run him from the house. He tells him to leave. My father-in-law caught him sleeping in his sister's own car and he made him get out of there. He had a heater rigged up in the car. This was during the winter time. Why not invite him into their house to get some warm heat? My sister-in-law would sneak food to him from time time. She would give him food from her bedroom window. And, if he even comes into the house to get something to drink, my mother-in-law will fuss at him. She won't let him have anything to eat. He never comes inside the house when my father-in-law is there. This is their blood child. I feel so sorry for him. I don't care what he could have said or done to my mother-in-law, but this is no way for a mother to treat her own child!! Can she be so fed up that she could careless about him? My sister-in-law told me that her mom and dad will burn in Hell for treating their son like this. What do you think?
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@rajaiv0810 (1013)
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
I cannot understand why they still continue to do this. I mean no matter how bad your child is, isn't it that parents are the only people who can accept and love them despite of everything? When everybody would turn back to you, your parents are the one who can embrace you. I'm sure for everything that he has done, I just don't know how grave it was though, but it seems like he was sorry for it. Because if he was not then definitely he will not stay there. I hope that they would be able to forgive each other for whatever happened in the past. Are you in your in-laws for holiday, temporarily or what? I've read your other posts seems like you're living together now.
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@cream97 (29163)
• United States
15 Jun 10
Hi, rajaiv0810. No, I am not living back with them. No way!! This is a past feeling that I have been thinking about.
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• Philippines
18 Jun 10
Haha thank goodness. You already have a lot of things to handle to add more stress to your life. Take care girl.
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@clouds0327 (1390)
• Philippines
16 Jun 10
Is this true? I mean that is so unbelievable, how could a person do such a thing.. and a mother do a thing... No matter how bad their son is, they are not supposed to do that, how could she even manage to sleep sound knowing her son's out there.. I really cant even picture this out. You should get away from them I mean they are not people they are like living example of devils excuse the word but they really are, his their own blood... GRRRRRR, I mean I know people who treat other people not their own so exaggerated but this one is really the opposite of that. I feel like I m going to be sick
@reene0225 (352)
• United States
16 Jun 10
That is the saddest thing I have ever heard. I could never be that mad or upset with my son. No matter what he may have done in his life I will always love him. I would never kick him out of the house or make him starve. I don't understand how anyone can be so heartless. I wouldn't make anyone suffer like that. Not even someone I didn't really know. I agree with your sister-in-law. The will burn in hell for treating him like that.
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@williamjisir (22900)
• China
15 Jun 10
Hello cream. It is so sad a story to read about. I am really sorry to hear about it. I show great sympathy to the poor child of theirs. Whatever the child has done or said to his parents, he is still a child of their own and is not supposed to be treated like that. It will only make the relationship and situation get worse with the child being so treated. I wish they would change their mind and attitude towards their own child. Take care, cream.
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• United States
15 Jun 10
Awwww, that's horrible. Why are they doing this? How could anyone leave their son outside on such a hot day? Can I ask you why does he stay there? I can't imagine why some people are so darn cruel to everyone. Poor guy.
@walijo2008 (4646)
• United States
16 Jun 10
Thats not a very good way for them to treat their son, I don't know what he done to make them treat him like that, but he's a human being and shouldn't be treated that way. There's not some kind of shelter that he could go to, at least he would get fed and he would be inside where its cool, or is their something you could do for him, maybe you could at least give him something to eat and drink once in awhile instead of just letting him sit there like that. I don't know the situation, but if it was me, I'd be trying to help in some way.
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@breisa (165)
• New Zealand
16 Jun 10
That's really horrible! Now I'm beginning to wonder what your brother-in-law did to get into this situation. I'm really curious!
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@cream97 (29163)
• United States
16 Jun 10
Hi, breisa. From what my mother-in-law told me, she said that her son told her to go somewhere and die! Ever since then she and her husband has hated him. And my sister-in-law said that the reason why her daddy hates his son is because he is seeing himself in his son. And that is the reason for the resentment towards his own son.
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 10
This is just terrible I mean how can they do that to their own Child What has he done so bad to deserve this Does he sleep and live outside Cream, I just can not imagine any Parents doing this to their own Child
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• Philippines
3 Jul 10
There is no justifiable reason for parents to treat their son that way. May God enlighten their hearts. Continue helping him. If he's not being loved by his family, you could assume that role.
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@ladym33 (10990)
• United States
17 Jun 10
It does seem like a horrible way to treat someone. I take it he is homeless? I don't think that I could ever treat someone like that but not knowing their side of the story I don't know if I can judge him or not. Did he do something really aweful to them? Is this their way of giving him tough love so he will straighten up and get a job or some kind of thing like that? Or are they being petty about some little thing he did along the way? I can see why it upsets you though and his sister of course. My kids would have to do something really horrible before I would ever treat them like that.
@Tresaqwe (376)
• United States
17 Jun 10
That is an absolute horrible thing for any parent to do. No matter what the son might have done, or if the parents think since he is a grown man he shouldn't be allowed in the house, that is no way to treat their son. I believe that yes, the parents will burn in Hell for what they are doing. Parents are supposed to be there for their child and help them, understand the problems they're going through and likewise.
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• Netherlands Antilles
16 Jun 10
I have that question to. But a lot of people are doing that now. And when the child grow up in the wrong way every body are asking why. I hope that are a solution for that.
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@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
16 Jun 10
some people are just not cut out to be parents. we have a friend whose mother was a terrible mother. she used to lock them (he and his brother) out of the house til supper then kick them out again til it was their bed time just so she could entertain men!
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@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
16 Jun 10
That's no way to treat a son for sure.. Parents should be loving, having a caring nature and should have a caring nature and be forgiving too. I feel sorry for your brother-in-law. Are they angry with him over something? But that's still no way to treat him.. out in the sun like that.
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
16 Jun 10
I don't know what he did to make them treat him like this, or if he did anything at all...You just never really know. Some people are like this. They don't care for anyone else but them self and that includes their own child/children. They are the kind of people that should never ever have them. They will pay in some way for their treatment of their son. That however is up to the Lord in that infinite wisdom to pass judgment. I don't think they are doing him right. I bet they don't treat a stranger that way! It is sad.
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@ebuscat (5947)
• Philippines
16 Jun 10
For me if they don't care like not to love him not spend time for him and not to learn about spiritual food and material food.
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@rameshchow (5283)
• India
16 Jun 10
It is so sad. Really they looking like very bad people. But we have to think from their side also. May be there is any strong reason behind. Or they face some hidden problem in their life. Or they may want to live individually to enjoy the life. Anyway this is not a appreciable thing. They need councelling.
@celticeagle (123895)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Jun 10
This is sad. Why doesn't someone call the authorities? How old is the boy? Is this tough love to the unth degree or real cruelty. Why don't they want them? I would really wonder what was going on. Too much of this sort of thing. I saw on AMW the story of the couple who adopted seven kids from another country and then left them in a small room taped into cribs. Horrible! What is the world coming to?
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@lovieron (129)
• Philippines
16 Jun 10
Those parents may have something hidden within them, some sorts of what they call secrets of the past. A real mother/father would never treat their own child like that but if the child is just a product of pure accident, like the mother had been raped or the woman have been left out alone.
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• Japan
16 Jun 10
That is really sad. For what reason does your mother-in-law have to punish his son. Did he doing something that bad? Even if he did she should forgive him at least and bring him inside the house. I would definitely escape from that household if it were me.
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