Shouldn't we at least acknowledge all out participants?

India
June 23, 2010 6:12am CST
Hi dear brothers and sisters of myLot, I am observing this for the past few weeks. I participate in discussions and only a few of them replies back. This feels really awkward. Don't I deserve to be treated as a living person? I don't claim that all members will have the same opinions as I do. But shouldn't we feel some kinda obligation to at least acknowledge all our participants by writing a short 'Thank you' note? "Thank everyone that responds or comments on your discussion. This will not increase your earnings."-myLot Discussion Guidelines. What is the meaning of a 'discussion' anyway? We don't discuss, we just throw a discussion and let it flow. Once sufficient number of responses are there we choose one as the best response. Don't we deserve at least a few kind words for our participation? There are things that you don't get paid to do, but still they are appreciated. I don't know. I am pretty frustrated.
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16 responses
@Opal26 (17686)
• United States
24 Jun 10
Hi biswa! I would definitely have to agree with you. I do respond to the people that respond to my discussions. In fact, I try to respond back to just about everyone and I have had some pretty big discussions with over 100 responses, but that still doesn't stop me! I feel that it is the correct thing for me to do. If I respond to certain peoples discussions and I find that they never respond to anyone in their discussions then I stop responding to their discussions because as you have said, then it isn't rightfully a discussion at all!
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• India
24 Jun 10
Hi Opal, Yes, we do it not because its obligatory, but because it is the right thing to do. We should feel obliged to people who participate in our discussion. Without them the discussion would look more like a thesis of some PhD students, totally void of interactivity. That is not a discussion by definition. Thanks so much for sharing your views with us. I hope you are doing fine. May god always be with you.
@saphrina (31733)
• South Africa
23 Jun 10
Should i give them all a freaking hiding for treating you like this, sweetie? Just say the word and i'm there. Honestly, i don't think a few know how too really interact. You know what we can do to a discussion, don't you? TATA.
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@saphrina (31733)
• South Africa
23 Jun 10
Then they should start learning.
• India
23 Jun 10
Oh common... we do blast a discussion, we don't just start it...
@vandana7 (73014)
• India
23 Jun 10
Blast ... boom boom ! Saphy dont we need another emoticon for that?
@alaskanray (4642)
• United States
23 Jun 10
I don't always respond to posts because there's nothing that I can think to say, but I usually will + or - a post (usually a +) even if I don't respond. Don't take it so personally. Many of us are busy with other discussions or just don't have anything to say. I don't waste time on little one-liners. If I have nothing to say that will contribute to a discussion, I just don't say anything.
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@Hatley (164226)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Jun 10
hi I think what he or she is trying to say is if one makes a discussion and has responses then it is up to the discussion maker to comment back to all of us who did respond, that is rude not to do that as these are discussions and if all the person can do is say thanks that just kills the discussion, we all do owe a little to our fellow mylotters as they took the time and trouble to make good responses so we must comment with real sentences not a thank you cop out. after all these are discussions and we should be talking back and forth and sharing our thoughts and ideas.That is what discussing is really, talking back and forth with real ideas.
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• United States
24 Jun 10
Yeah, well, if I have nothing to say, why should I waste space saying it? Not every response warrants a response. Some replies are thought provoking and others are not. If they don't invoke a response, why fake a response? That's just another form of lying and I do not lie...not even to be polite.
• United States
24 Jun 10
P.S. Frankly, I think lying is the worst form of rudeness. I don't ask someone "how are you" if I don't want to know, either. If you can't handle honest communication, that's not my problem. I don't think it's rude to not respond to something that I have nothing to say to. It is more rude if I just type out something I don't mean or put any thought into. Also, if a discussion is going to die, it can die. You can't keep a single discussion going indefinitely! My gosh! That is an unreasonable expectation...and to expect every response to a discussion to elicit a response from the starter of the discussion is also an unreasonable expectation which it the ultimate rudeness.
@sagar21 (1583)
• India
24 Jun 10
yep,you're right... I've replied some...but not all..not intentionally.... don't stalk me...he...he.. thanks for the topic... have a great day/night.....
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• India
24 Jun 10
lol You've replied to all of my comments. No issues with that. As long as you do that, I will make sure that I respond to each of your discussions.
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• Philippines
23 Jun 10
Hello my friend... i advice you to extend your patience. We are at the net and this is really happening. Reality hurts! Anyway... just keep on writing.
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• India
24 Jun 10
Hi, Yes, this is whats happening for past few days. Things weren't the same as they once used to be. Well, I hope people will again start feeling grateful and then answer all or, most of their participants. Thanks so much for your response. God bless you
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@vandana7 (73014)
• India
23 Jun 10
Hi kiddo, , I know how you must feel. But there might be a reason. I often delay responding nowadays. My reason is I found a couple of my responses looking so similar that I was disgusted. Hey, that is not fair, I read the response in first box, and responded, and the same thought chain lasted in four or five boxes below! Nope - not fair at all. I think each response deserves special attention! The exact input needs to be identified and my thoughts on that input needs to come across! After all, the person who responded can very well read what is written above! So nowadays, I wait - I especially delay responding to people to whom I have to say something - whose responses are meaningful. That is because I want my response to be good as well. :)
• India
23 Jun 10
yes, that is exactly what I was talking about. Its not that these people don't respond. But they seem to favor certain participants and entirely ignore all others. Now that is a terrible onslaught to my central nervous system. It makes me go crazy.
@vandana7 (73014)
• India
23 Jun 10
He likes you mel - so he copies you.
• India
23 Jun 10
I only right short responses when I find the topic silly
• Malaysia
23 Jun 10
well...to me, regardless of what the myLot guidelines say about it..i think that in the spirit of friendship here, all comments deserve a reply and to my very own understanding (i'm not sure if it's myLot's too), a discussion usually is where there are multiple opinions being said by multiple people...if there are only 2 participants giving a short answer each, that's a Q&A session..
@vandana7 (73014)
• India
23 Jun 10
*spirit of friendshi* Cheers! We are two and this is Q&A - which drink was that?
• Malaysia
23 Jun 10
it was a new invention of mine. i call it the 'Photon Disrupter'... because it really disrupted me when i downed it!
• India
23 Jun 10
A Photon Disrupter?
@allknowing (86005)
• India
24 Jun 10
I am not sure if you participated in it but I had a marathon session on similar lines. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2336948.aspx
• India
24 Jun 10
Well, similar yes, but not identical.
• India
24 Jun 10
I will never manage enough time to record all these IDs. I will reply to everyone. But its just a grudge that I wanted to share with my friends, and it did me well. Thanks so much for your response.
@allknowing (86005)
• India
24 Jun 10
I don't suppose you believed me that I would keep a tab? Is it ever possible? Anyway I have conveyed what I wanted to convey and it is already bearing results.
@Hatley (164226)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Jun 10
getbiswa2000 have you read all the guidelines and rules of discussion and the questions and answers as some of that information may help. But you bring up a valid point, we should all reply to responses and not give thanks, thats a copout, I mean a real comment telling you how I or any other person sees your response, so you know we really read your responses.We must discuss as thats what the discussions are for to get each others ideas, not thanks, but real participation, I am glad you made this discussion as I know I was hurt awhile back in the comments as they did not even mention my response just thanks and that is not participating in the discussion at all. If I asked you a question and instead of giving me your ideas you just said thanks for the response I would wonder what on earth was wrong, did you not hear my question? we must discuss in our discussions as that's what they are for and making comments back to us who responded keeps it a real discussion..,
• India
24 Jun 10
If you just 'thank' a person for participation, that will definitely not increase your earning. A discussion by definition, should have some kind of interactivity. When you don't interact with all your participants, it looks more like a poll. I totally agree with you on what you said about a 'real discussion'. Thanks so much for your contribution to this discussion. God bless you
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@Hatley (164226)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Jun 10
hi getbiswa we are indeed on the same page here. when we all interact then it becomes fun to me to hear and see the different ideas from all of us.
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
Hello getsbiswa, I have done this in my early days in mylot but those where the times that i didn't even bother reading the rules. And what did it get me? deletion of the discussion, simply i thank my friends for responding to my discussion.it's against mylot discussion guidelines, and that's it. the guidelines had been there since the site was created, it cannot be objected. you can always private message your friends to thank them for responding to you, that's the best way.nothing else.besides, you worry to much
@vandana7 (73014)
• India
23 Jun 10
Worry is baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad!
• India
24 Jun 10
Yeah, I agree. Its just that it happened all of a sudden. I mean, look at my inbox. Looks like a graveyard. It used to overwhelm with messages from myLot. I miss those good old days.
@dpk262006 (56760)
• Delhi, India
25 Jun 10
Hello get! Your suggestion is not bad per se. However, you would appreciate that some of the respondents post such a brief response, which can not be commented upon. Writing few words of half liner/one liner does not make any sense and I refrain from posting my comments, if the respondents has not touched the core issue of a discussion.
• India
25 Jun 10
Hi, I totally agree. Mostly they are the new users. I know commenting on your participants' responses is not mandatory. But I really feel some kind of obligation to respond to them. Most people don't know this fact, but these comments also count, provided they are of good quality. Thanks so much for your response. God bless you
• United States
25 Jun 10
Read the myLot Discussion guidelines: Under discussion Don't - Thank everyone that responds or comments on your discussion. http://www.mylot.com/o/guidelines.aspx So you can see it is against the rules.
• India
25 Jun 10
lol You've misinterpreted the entire statement. Actually it means, if you only thank your participants without any significant involvement on your part, you are not getting any credit for it.
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
It's good that you see that. The problem is that, those mylotters who respond to discussions are usually friends of those who started the discussions. so it easy for them to interact. and yes, you deserve to be treated as a person and not a typing or responding machine... by the way, can you add me as friend. i don't have friends yet
• United States
23 Jun 10
I think it also depend upon the discussion coz some people cannot relate or the topic is beyond their comprehension.Not all topics people like to appreciate.
• India
24 Jun 10
I really don't understand. Do you want to mean that a person who starts a discussion doesn't understand the topic himself?
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
23 Jun 10
First of all I should acknowledge that there are some pending comments from my side.Hope to catch up soon. But, whenever I write, I simply write whatever I want to write.I do feel happy when I get some comments an d keep checking my 'discussions responded' tab. But, if I have not got the comment from the person who posted the topic I just wait for sometime.It never exercises my mind.AFter a few days I forget all about it.THere are many more friends who do keep regularly interacting and come back after a few days too.Sometimes , when I have given my heart out for writing a response and i don't get a comment or any sort of interaction I stop giving such heartfelt responses to the person.[Or if I am in a mood to write and give vent to my thoughts I go ahead with no expectations of comments or appreciation.I do it for my own sake.I would not get frustrated in this process.]It is a natural reaction.I would choose topics and people that I am sure of.Instead of expecting them to change, if we change our behaviour we won't get frustrated ; don't you think so? We are here for interaction and earning some small pocket money.If there is both then it is well and good.If not , so be it.I feel you should not get frustrated on account of this. Don't get too serious about it biswa.
• India
24 Jun 10
No issues with you dear. I also don't complain a lot. But I hate to see my inbox empty like that. This has started quite recently. May be I am not choosing my discussions well.
@TexLadyPj (1329)
• United States
4 Jul 10
Herro getbiswa2000 I started to allow myself to get discouraged and then told myself, not everyone thinks like me. If you note my pattern, I say Herro (name) new member greeting, reference to comments to discussion, then my comment, then "Prosperous mylotting". Look at the discussions I have started, I respond to each person, even if it is thank you or I appreciate... If I can I get a conversation going. Some are appropriate and some are not. Am I bragging, no...I am telling you the pattern I was taught by my role models here at mylot. I understand that keeping a discussion going is not additional earning, however I like the interaction. When I get 4+ responses I pick a best response. My role models taught me because I was willing to learn. Prosperous mylotting