Whats the thing in west of going away from parents as u grow ?

I remember in a movie where a man was in his thirties and still living with his parents and people thought he was either a coward or mentally ill. I grew up in America and here, I guess people value independence so they want children to separate from their parents after a certain age. I would want to live with my mother and care for her after I grow up. Hopefully she would feel the same way.

Hi tutul, I was previously urge to move out in my early 20's but as soon as I find job and work and experiencing difficulties, I realized that what the joy of being with my parents. I mean to take care of them when they are old and they are a good listerner. I always share my problems with them. I m glad I did not move out last time. If I was, then I don't think I will be able to say such things to you.

Hi tutuloo, I live in the states and here it is normal for kids to grow up and want to be out on their own. I moved out of my parents house as soon as I turned 18. When the kids are grown and moved out to start families of their own then the parents can have the privacy and freedom to re-connect and enjoy each other. I don't think there is any shame in the kids staying on longer with the parents as long as they are working and actually helping out. I don't agree with them bringing girlfriends/boyfriends to live with the parents.

Hi tutul, I know it is difficult for us to come to terms with what is supposedly normal in the western society.But one can take the best of both the cultures and make it suit our own life style.I see many Indians taking care or rather living with their parents, but there is hardly any happiness for the older people .Some of them are ill treated and do not receive any kind of emotional support, so what is the use of living together.I feel it is better for the parents to live by themselves wit dignity and peace instead of being humiliated by their children all the time...

In our country, family is very important. Our parents stay with children especially when the parents are already old. I see nothing wrong with living with your parents. They are our family. Some children work in other countries and bigger cities but the communication is alive 24/7 and there is always get-together during special occasions like Christmas, birthdays, etc.

To me its just a natural learning experiance. When kids turn into teenagers they usualy wan't more and more freedoms. This incldes driving a car, staying out late and getting a job to pay for your own things. It involves independence winthin people that are turning into adults. For the moast part we are a do it yourself culture. If you can't learn to do it yourself, chances are good that your not going to make it very far. Wanting to move out is the first step of starting your own life. In my opinion parents arn't supposed to hold your hand for you your whole life, their supposed to teach you as your growing up how to live on your own and how to be successful.

In my opinion, youth is the stage of life that is supprted by knowledge and action only! Wisdom has a little meaning in this period of life in most of the cases! As a person grows older and enters into the old-age, that stage of life is supported by culture and wisdom alongwith rules of actions. So, I must say that in western style of living, they are more material focused and less relation focused. Hence the relation between old parents and their young children is outdated in their view of life. By this, they not only ignore wisdom from the old parents but also loose their cultural aspect of life that develops in their old age! But in my country India, we honour knowledge, action, experience, wisdom and culture in all the ages and stages of life. That is why we always take care of the younger ones as well as the older ones with due responsibility! Thanks for this nice discussion and let's hope for a change in western way of life!!

I live in a western country and in my country most people move away from their parents' home when they are 18 or in their early 20's. Independence is considered very important, and in my culture it is important to learn to live on your own and to learn to handle things on your own. People who live with their parents when they are in their late 20's or older are considered a little strange and immature. You used the word "shameful" and I think that decribes the attitude pretty well, and some people will think that there is something "wrong" with you if you don't leave your parents' home and they will think you are very immature. I grew up in this culture and the ideas about independence are normal to me, I have learned to think that way, but my friends from other countries don't think that way, and in many countries it is normal to live with your parents. I think there are advantages about this lifestyle (living with your parents), and I like the idea about helping eachother, but in my country where few people live that way today.

I think it is part of learning for kids. As they move away from home they become more independent. And they would be free to make their own choices in life. Even free to make their own mistakes and learn from them. As parents we should support these. If as parents you did your part well, the kids would reciprocate the favor and take care of you as you grow older, even if they don't live with you.

I know what you're talking about. I am from the Philippines, and our culture is just like yours--we live with our family even when we already have our own families. It's in our culture to love being connected to people. I guess we just value connectivity more than independence. I love it this way. Of course I'd love to have my own family and career someday, but i don't wanna lose contact with my loved ones.

Hello, since I´m going to stop being children up to 99 years, if I have to show mature to desert situations, I do not care to live alone or with my parents, I just want to live well and comfortable with the world.

these answer is simple, we've just reached a certain age where we are on longer capable of living with them...