Too much stress, and not sure where it's coming from.

@SomeCowgirl (32191)
United States
August 4, 2010 9:35am CST
I've got too much stress right now, and I am not sure where it's coming from. I think, or I am pretty certain I have always felt stressed. It's just something that has festered in me, and then it explodes and I feel better about it afterwards. Right now I really have no reason to feel stressed. I am not sure why I do, I guess it's more pressured to earn online to supplement an income I could be making offline. I plan to get a job offline, but at the same time I am not sure I would want to, but it's a NEED not a want. Does anyone else feel pressured like this, or stressed? I know it's also factors to do with my side of the family as well that causes me to be so stressed.
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@shibham (16977)
• India
15 Aug 10
hi there. i think most of us feel same at some moments of our life. i struggled a lot almost two years in my life. in 2002, i passed MA from gauhati university being topper in my subject but did not get any job. i am from a poor family and my parents sacrificed a lot in my study hence i thought to relaxed them monitory problem. so i became a reporter and struggled where as reporting is a challenging career in my province. after two year i get the job where i am now. so i think brightness is ahead. struggling is a part of life. so no need to be frustrated. have a nice day and best of luck.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Aug 10
You are right, struggling is a part of life, but it is a frustrating part of life. I do believe that we should not worry about our struggles day to day, but well it is much easier said then it is done, is that not right?
@vooturi (157)
• India
5 Aug 10
Everyone starts feeling stresses as we involve in too much of work you try listening to some good music os read a novel which will releive you from stress The best thing to feel relaxed is sleep for sometime.. you'll feel a lot better and energetic after waking up :) Good Luck!
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Aug 10
My husband is the one working, I am not. I do work online however, and I find that listening to music while doing so has helped me to relax and has also found me some inspiration to start discussions. Reading a good book is always a nice pasttime that helps me relax and forget about worries for the time being.
@AmbiePam (85314)
• United States
5 Aug 10
Well, I'm pretty stressed, but I can pin down the reasons why. You have a lot of adjustments to make, right? And you're bound to go through some "growing" pains. Sounds stupid, huh? I just mean with all the changes and everything...
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Aug 10
Yeah I suppose my stress has a lot to do with the changes, I feel for my husband because he doesn't take well to change and we've done a lot of it recently. I think that's why he's stressed, but he's also taken it and realized that the changes we make now will help us when we do get our own place, etc. I guess everyone goes through "growing" pains.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Hi SomeCowgirl, Know what? Before I don't know what stress means, I thought I was just tired, pressured with my office task plus other probable cause. But when i got hospitalized, the doctor explain what stress is. I was informed that stress is not only physical exhaustion, but accumulation of annoyance, irritation, holding grudges and other emotional weakness which could not be simply diminish of resting. I was adviced to join in some activities as sor of unwinding, or something you can divert your attention. Attend to some friends gathering will also do. Be busy in a fun way, thus, I would suggest and hope that joining mylot be of help in overcoming your stress.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Aug 10
SimpleBB, I have gone to the hospital because of an anxiety attack before, I thought I was having a heart attack at the time, but the doctor there told me it was an anxiety attack. Then I realized it was because of all the worry I had. I've also had panic attacks in the past, and well worrying just seems to run in my family. I agree getting out and doing things to divert your attention, or even just attending to discussions here helps. I find that if I am here and earning, I don't worry so much about money. I appreciate your response, and hope you are also taking care to find time for fun and relaxation. Best of Luck.
@vjagra (147)
• India
6 Aug 10
Stress can come from many directions -- unfinished tasks, unsatisfactory interactions, feeling betrayed, trying hard and failing, nasty people, demanding boss, and so on. If we have too strong likes and dislikes, we are likely to get frustrated and stressed out easily. Regardless of the cause, stress is bad. In the long run, can lead to health troubles. So better to remain stress free as far as possible through yoga, meditation, brainwave entrainment audios, etc. The last is a new technology that offers audios which can relax you within minutes by changing your brainwave frequencies. So rather than worrying about where the stress is coming from, better to handle it and get rid of it.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Aug 10
You are right stress can come from many different directions and finding out what the cause of the stress is, isn't always the solution. I love listening to relaxing music to calm my mood, and I also find it inspires me. Thank you so much for your response, have a wonderful day.
@nancy0618 (477)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
i also feel stressed as i have no job for three months now, i only earn from online mostly and it is not much i would say, my mother is already pushing me to work because we have some bills to pay, well actually i have my own business but i am too lazy to managed it, it seems it is not working well for me because i do not seem to fit with the line of business
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Aug 10
My husband is the only one working, and while we can pay bills and afford to use the money for things we want and need, we're still not able to save as much as I would like, and so I guess we're going nowhere fast. I can understand being stressed and feeling lazy, especially when being pressured to do something. I would love to have my own business, but it's just not for me. I hope you can get back inspiration with your business, or possibly change it's niche.
@GardenGerty (157494)
• United States
4 Aug 10
Feeling stressed makes me want to crawl into bed and not get out. I let it paralyze me sometimes. The best answer to stress for me is to take action where I can, even if I do not feel like it. I understand about the need for a job as well. Right now I am still going back and forth with unemployment, trying to get through on the phone because there is a mistake somewhere.
@dawnald (85130)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Aug 10
I get stressed when everything is coming at me at once, work is busy, the kids are misbehaving, etc. Things like walking, listening to music, taking a hot bath, getting away from the situation help. Not that you can always get away from the situation...
@celticeagle (158739)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Aug 10
I was very stressed when I was younger and was holding down a full time job plus had family issues and children to raise. I think that the less we have going on in our lives the better off we are. And because no one can really do that we have to put up with the stress. I think setting up strict boundaries and standing by them and having children that adhere to house rules and such makes life alot easier for all involved.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
4 Aug 10
I too am having a stress filled day and am panicking because everything is going wrong and a holiday weekend is coming up and the place will be packed. The pool pump is making bad sounds and the sewage pump is playing up and I have visions of people seeing the sewage backing up in their toilets. I have days where I am not productive because of stress. I just so not seem to be in control. I came on Mylot for ten minutes and have to go back to work now.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
11 Aug 10
Like you, I am also feeling so stressed out, right about now. Also, I don't know where this stress is coming from. Well, to be honest, maybe I do know, but I just don't want to acknowledge it. I am dealing with a couple of 'curve balls' that has been thrown my way. I shouldn't be stressing about it because I already know that these things regularly pop up in life. Still, I can't help fretting about it.
• United States
4 Aug 10
I know the feeling. I always feel stressed for some reason. I get stressed out easily. I worry a lot too. I feel like my body is constantly in hyper mood. It's hard for me to relax for some reason. I always feel like I have so much to do in a day and complete it. I've been taking B Complex pills to help relieve stress. I've found that drinking tea is relaxing for me too. And coming on myLot is relaxing as well. Good luck.
@Memnon (2170)
8 Aug 10
There is a certain stress for most of us now. There is some with the job- my company are forever threatening to change parts of our contracts, reliefs regularly don't show, and there are long hours for the pay. If you don't do the hours then you struggle at home- if you do, your relationship suffers. Financial institutions are constantly moving goalposts so that they can levy charges on you for late payments: my catalogue company recently changed their payment date from monthly to 4 weekly- so they are now falling before I am paid, but they will charge me if I am late. My bank, if I make a miscalculation, will process a payment if it will take me into overdraft, rather than refuse it- so that they can charge me fees £35 for the payment (it may only be £5) and £35 for the use of overdraft facility. Basically they it's organised crime made legal. Then there is a lot of job uncertainty with UK companies in particular outsourcing production/ finance jobs overseas. So yes, it's in the air.
@megabiz (185)
• United States
5 Aug 10
I can totally understand where you are coming from. But, the one problem I have is, I get so stressed it is causing me to have depression. I'm taking medication called Citalopram for the depression and stress. When I don't take it, I explode. As for the job, I can relate to stress there. I have had a very decent job for a few years and was let go along with a few others October of 2008. I had to move out of where I living and into Government Subsidize Housing November of 2008. I've struggled every week with putting out applications only to keep hearing: 'We already hired someone - Your not qualified enough - Your overly qualified' or just simply, 'No!' There has been a lot stress there every week along with lots of tears as I ask over and over, "Why me God? Why me?" I have a hearing disability and tend to blame my hearing on the reason no one wants to hire me. Due to the stress I fell into depression. In January of 2010, I have turned to the internet for my source of finding that Home Based Business. After months of searching and testing the waters, I am starting to get involved with a very good company aside of being on this great sight. I have learned to do things to try and help with my stress. Somethings you may want to try could be: Putting on some soft music and meditating for 30 minutes while doing your breathing exercises. Then there is the Bubble bath. Another on of my favorites is, taking 30 minutes to read the Bible, journal what has been stressing you out that day and pray. Take a nice walk in the cool of the evening with God by your side. GOOD LUCK CONTROLLING YOUR STRESS AND HOPE THE WAYS TO HANDLE IT HELP. :)