For your popularity (ranking ) do you compromise with your stand?

@Aaleexix (2290)
India
August 27, 2010 6:10am CST
Popularity depend on how much you can please other. People please with you you when you agree with them compromise with your own point. Normally people like to be flattered by other. Popularity never determined the quality. Common believe and popular concept are always in question. But in society to create a friendly environment we need to be soft. How much you are soft towards other ? People like that other praise there comments. Normally people don't like that they are criticized by other. Keeping your popularity in risk do you criticize other? Do you think that firm decision and stern criticism lessen the popularity?
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@GardenGerty (157016)
• United States
27 Aug 10
I am who I am, and if people like me, that is okay, and if they do not, that is also okay. I will tend to stay out of discussions that are volatile, however. I try to be polite, even when I disagree with someone, and if I think I may have hurt someone's feelings, I will apologize. MyLot is supposed to be fun, in my opinion.
• United States
29 Aug 10
I am like you GardenGerty! I don't try to stir the pot so to speak, but if you ask for my opinion, I am going to give my honest opinion. I think some people don't think before they give their opinion. I believe it is all in the delivery. You can disagree with someone and still be polite and not rude about it. And there are some people that even though they say they want you HONEST opinion, they really don't want you to disagree with them. My friends and family know that if they ask for my opinion, I am going to give it to them.
@vandana7 (98515)
• India
27 Aug 10
I like your way of giving your opinion. :)
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
27 Aug 10
Well said..... I am who am I. If we want to show other than what we are then it is pretension. And pretentious is one kind of cheating. When we pretend just to please other, then it is cheating no only other but it is cheating to ourselves. So it is the politeness to express what we are thinking. Those people are noble who are transparent. They never hide their feelings. In my mylot too it is obvious that we have many more disagreement with many people. Disagreement is not violation. And I find hard why people think that disagreement many hart other people. What I think is not necessarily thought by other people. Man a man man a mind. But our important should be putted on the expression. We need to be careful that in expression of disagreement no where manner less behavior is espressed by us.
• Indonesia
27 Aug 10
I never knew that ranking comes from how we pleased other. I really don't care about that much. So I just respond a discussion from my own thoughts, and never think about the popularity.
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
27 Aug 10
I am not directly says about mylot. Though my lot is nothing difference but popularity normally depend on how much we please other. Yes it is best for us our activities should be free from affection. To be impartial it is needed for us to keep our feeling free from the thought what other people think on our activities.
• Indonesia
27 Aug 10
Oh...I didn't notice that he was reffering to everyday life. Since he mention ranking and not just popularity....If he was, then I guess I get it wrong. Anyway,..my answer will be No, I don't want to be popular by doing things I don't like.
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
27 Aug 10
Here I refereed towards ranking of popularity. And is mylot too it is not irrelevant. Because ranking is increased when people mark positively. And normally positive marking comes when other people like us.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Aug 10
hi no I cannot compromise because I want my integrity to shine through whatever I do here on my lot or in my off line life. I will be kind and friendly to all wherever I am but I will not be less than honest with anyone here or offline. I think our rankings can hold up just fine if we are just honest with each other at all times. not mean not unkind but true to our own values.
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
29 Aug 10
Friendship is based on pointless and modesty. I am your friend so I need to be agreed with you in any matter is not correct. We remain be friend having different opinion on some particular matter. We can exchange our views. We can listen why some other friends have other opinion. But in every stem of expressing ourselves we need to be polite. Rudeness and anger is barrier in between friendship but different opinion is not.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
28 Aug 10
I haven’t worked on my ranking, to be quite honest all I have done is be true to myself and start and respond to discussions honestly. I do avoid political and religious topics because I am unsure of myself on those subjects and I don’t like the nastiness that can occur in these interests. I ensure that I am always courteous to others as they are to me but I don’t change my point of view for anyone. I am me, like it or not!
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
29 Aug 10
In participation to any discussion we should put our attention on the matter of fact. If we diverted our attention toward other factor, then it effect on the matter. To keep us impartial it is important to keep our mind free from what other thinks on us. And we need to be honest and modesty is very important when we interact with other. What we select and what other is avoided by us is dependable on our interest. And it is best for us to select those topic which are in our interest and have some knowledge on the matter. We are in discussion as we have some viewpoint on the topic. We need not compromise with our viewpoint at the time of participation in any discussion.
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• United States
28 Aug 10
I stand by what I believe, but I am willing to listen to other people's point of view.
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
29 Aug 10
It is the personality to stand on one's believe.... simultaneously we should have the tolerances to listen other view point.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
...for me, my connection with other people and the bond i have with them is more important than popularity...i do constructive criticism if needed but i also consider what will be their feeling towards it...=)
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
28 Aug 10
Yes correctness is more important than the popularity. Truth is little bitter ar first look. But the impact is very good. Constructive criticism is little bitter but very helpful for us.
@vandana7 (98515)
• India
27 Aug 10
Hi Aaleexix, I dont compromise on what I need to say. I have lost just one friend in process. That too is misunderstanding, and in due course of time, I am sure he will realize that I am not like that. I dont resort to flattery unless I have something to sell for my boss. When I give praises here, they are genuinely felt, and you could put me through lie detectors for that. I did criticize in a few discussions, had to take a tougher stand for my beliefs, and opinions. Nearly became a troll. :) But I really didnt agree with the person, and I didnt use wrong language.
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
27 Aug 10
We may have some wrong idea. But when our wrong is corrected then we have to leave our opinion. It is not compromise. It is improvement to our knowledge. That is the benefit of discussion. But only to please other, if we agree with such matter which are not agreeable that is compromise. And that is unhealthy approach. In this context I want to say that disagreement is not dishonor. Even when we are in sell promotion actually we are not flattering. We are describing the quality of a product. That is also informative. We help our customer providing necessary information about the product. In discussion if any participant remain firm with proper reason then discussion gone more interesting. And the points placed in support of their opinion by both sides are very informative. And from such discussion we can gather sufficient knowledge.
@romzz05 (572)
• Philippines
27 Aug 10
I was never popular in the first place so its never really a problem for me to conform. It's useless to try and please everybody so might as well be honest on your opinion just don't be rude. Most of the time people know right from wrong anyway the problem is do they have the guts to do what is right.
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
28 Aug 10
You are right that it is almost impossible to please everyone at a time. So rather than please other we need to try to do the right thing.
@zaugis (81)
• Lithuania
27 Aug 10
Hi, When it comes to life outside the Internet limits - I have met a person who may be around the criticism that is not to be so and so, but he also does not pay and do not. I liked him not. Criticism may take only when you know he is doing better. And soon it will be no criticism, only advice, to avoid difficult or non-perfection. Psychology explains, the people works and makes mistakes, those who do not able to work, going to lead. I'm not talking about the serious outcomes (started from 0) to have leaders, but rather than everyone. Think or be fond of those people who are only in the language and does not do anything because they are not able to.
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
27 Aug 10
Criticism enforce us to do better. We the people are committing wrong. And normally no people notices his wrong. And many time people commits wrong but can't guess that he is committing wrong. In such situation criticism is eye opener for us. So we need to be tolerant to our critics.
@akn1961 (1034)
• India
27 Aug 10
some time for popularity shake we compromise on certain basic principals ,we have to be flexible,thanks.
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
27 Aug 10
You are correct to some extent. We the people are affected with emotion. So we sometime fail to keep ourselves firm on our stand, because this will effect in our relation. And to please other we stray away from our stand.