Trying to remain positive to not feel the stress???? AHHHHH!!!!!!

Canada
September 3, 2010 3:21pm CST
I believe in the power of positive thinking I really do but it just seems that it's getting harder and harder for me these days to keep thinking that....I'm so frustrated with my house and the workers that have been hired and taking their sweet time getting it done GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.....That and I reallllllllllly need a break from my kids keep saying I love my kids I do lol..... Have you ever just felt that all things come down on you at one time??? I wanna be happy and have good things happen and still through it all try to think positive.... HappyMylotting....
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• Canada
3 Sep 10
I too am a BIG believer in positive thinking, I always try to look for the positive side of things, when life gives me lemons I try to make lemonade, etc BUT sometimes that can only get you so far. I have recently had what feels like 500 pounds dumped into my lap and now I think that it's too much, it's taking it's toll on me, I am having a harder time finding the positives, and I'm seriously burning out. I lay awake at night worried about everything I stress about during the day so I barely sleep, then I have an almost 11 month old and a 4 year old ALL day long driving me insane lol just kidding their not that bad but my 4 year old is getting in her cheeky no stage. I am really hoping that this weekend I can go and get my hair done or something just so I can have some alone time and have a break. My hubby starts work at 7am and with all the overtime he's been pulling in lately he sometimes doesn't walk through the door till 5 or 6pm. Then after he has a shower and eats super he is WIPED as it has been a long day for him. He always tries to set aside an hour or so to spend time with the girls, but the evenings go SO fast, and before you know it it's bedtime. Thank goodness for weekends, that is when we get the most family time!
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• Canada
3 Sep 10
I hear you there I hear you there that is great tho that you get family time on the weekends....I too am having trouble sleeping at night cuz I go to bed with way to much on my mind....Lets us hope that things get better for us soon...
@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
3 Sep 10
Here is to hoping you can set a budget aside for "mommy" time, and that your husband can get some "daddy" time to himself as well!
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• Canada
3 Sep 10
Yup well I'm not married at the moment my ex husband 2 and half hours away but I really hope you get much needed time to yourself Purple...
@suryachalla (1369)
• India
3 Sep 10
Complaining about what's wrong in your world has never improved it in any way. The only way to improve the world we live in is to change ourselves. We are the only ones we can change. Telling yourself you love your kids is one way of righting wrong situations, not succumbing to negative pressures, but building positive ones to counteract the negative thoughts. We can either choose to be right, or we can choose to be at peace. I choose to be at peace. What you are doing is right. So don't give in to tantrums, etc. You are surely going to get a break!
• Canada
3 Sep 10
I do understand where your coming from, I really do BUT what about when things out of your control happen. For example I have had a TON of stress dumped in my lap lately and most of it is things that I can not control and honestly positive thinking can only get me so far with that. PLUS it is also really hard to act like everything is peachy keen because you don't want your kids asking you why your crying, seeing you upset, etc.
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• Canada
3 Sep 10
I agree to that to an extent suryachalla but I do think positive just like purple said some things are out of your control that you just need to let it out so why act like everything is peachy keen... Thanks Purple I do hope things get better for you....
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
3 Sep 10
Hi Ladies, I've been thinking of opening up another online diary myself, just a suggestion I thought I'd pass along to you. It's helped me to write things out, and prayer of course helps. I agree that while positive thinking is good, sometimes a good rant helps as well! Especially if we have someone to listen and understand!
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
3 Sep 10
Keep thinking positively and if you are the praying type pray. You will get that break from your kids and your house will be done before you know it. Just keep thinking winter will be here soon and they will want to get the house done. I know how it is to be stressed and it is not a good feeling at all! . Stick around here and mylot some, it does help, and maybe you can save up to get something you want, or to pamper yourself.
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• Canada
3 Sep 10
hugzzzz and thanks yes my birthday is coming up in a week and if I know my parents they will give me some funds to spoil myself....
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
3 Sep 10
Maybe they will take your kids off your hands for a few hours as well! Good Luck and Happy Early Birthday!
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• Canada
3 Sep 10
Thanks hun well my oldest is 17 and my parents live aways from me lol.....But my 17 year old can watch his baby sister hehe so heres hoping I can go do something for me...
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@GardenGerty (130434)
• United States
4 Sep 10
I do not know all that is going on for you. I have house issues, and no workers hired. It can really put a damper on everything. I saw one positive in your post. Your seventeen year old is a good kid and a good helper. I first came to MyLot at a very stressed out period of my life, and it was helpful. I did not post about my problems, but I was able to help other people and to just talk a little bit about things outside of my experiences at that time. I was truly addicted, I think, to my time spent here. I really see and hear people much more stressed this last year or so and that is sad for them and for all of us.
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@Hatley (164154)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Sep 10
hi oh I feel so bad now as I blew up and yelled at this acquaintance and now I feel so ashamed but she got right in my face and kept telling me its four o clock time to eat , and I told her I knew the time but was going to get my money first then she grabbed my arm and kept saying you ought to go eat, and suddenly I just let go, leave me alone, do not touch me leave me the hell alone. I am not at all like that but this was a bad day for me anyway. I think its the bad economy has us a tad stressed at time.but I should not have yelled.However I do not like people I do not really know touching me like that. only my friends do that.
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• Canada
4 Sep 10
I agree GardenGerty I think alot of people lately have experienced alot of stress but we will somehow make it through the problems with my house is I had a water leak and the workers are supposed to be fixing the problem but I have hardly seen them here all summer long and they are telling me it's not going to stop so i'm stressing over finding a new place to live.... Hatley hun it's ok I think we have all had moments that we regret today will be a better day right hugssss....
• United States
3 Sep 10
I've definitely had that feeling of everything happening at once... in fact I'm going through that right now, too. It's like when one thing is resolved, something else comes along to take its place. Positive thinking works sometimes, yes... but other times our heads spin because of everything that happens at once, eh? :-) I hope your house/worker issues are soon resolved!
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• Canada
3 Sep 10
I hope things get better for you and you said exactly how I feel I feel like my head is spinning way to much these days....
@Reneelao (223)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
i can sense the tiredness from the way you write your messages, aside from thinking positive, i would suggest you to do a short prayer before you go to bed and every morning before you start your day, thanking God for the day you you have spent, and giving you these stress as trials and that He will provide more strength to sustain these trials. Day will come and happiness will be with you. Keep up the positive thinking.
• Canada
3 Sep 10
I do that and that is how I'm able to still think positive thanks for your advice....I pray sometimes even several times a day and no God will not give me more then I can handle HappyMylotting and God Bless!!!
@Lore2009 (7386)
• United States
3 Sep 10
I've had many times when things just constantly come down. I think positive thinking is a good IDEA, but sometimes, or a lot of times it may not work. The best is to just let it be. Sometime emotions are just difficult to control and by denying that you can somehow control it, it can make it worse. So just watch your emotions and see that oh, it's just a bad episode in my life right now... and I need to be patient. Forcing a smile on your face can be painful sometimes. Best wishes.
• Canada
3 Sep 10
Thanks for your advice and kind words and that is my problem is sometimes I don't let myself just ride and feel through my emotions.....
@Lore2009 (7386)
• United States
4 Sep 10
It is hard to get used to because everyone around can't handle emotion. Haha. Hope you're feeling better.
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• Canada
5 Sep 10
I am not Lore thanks I let my feelings out the other night and feel alot better...
• United Arab Emirates
4 Sep 10
yes i have...I have been feeling very low for the past couple of months. But i have taken things in my stride. I have been thing and acting positive inspite having problems in life. When i chat with my friends they ask me. how are you???? and i say happy as usual and they are happy to se the positive side of me. I know things will not change overnight if i start thinking of my problems. But i know it will change with time.
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• Canada
4 Sep 10
That is a great outlook it really is and thanks for sharing and for your response smiles.
• United Arab Emirates
5 Sep 10
Thanks BlueAngel....What I have felt is....the more you think of the problem the more it grows...so i have decided not to think about it. I convert my negetive thoughts int positive and keep smiling.
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• Canada
5 Sep 10
That is a great way to keep thinking positive and a new way for me to try thanks for that happymylotting.
• India
4 Sep 10
Thinking is process of brain,thought is out put,we should try our level best to be silent,Just observation. Than stress is over.
• Canada
4 Sep 10
Thanks for your response
@ruperto (1552)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
It seems it is because of the bad times that we later experience even future ordinary times as good times... "There is no coming to consciousness without pain." -Carl Jung What do you think?
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• Canada
4 Sep 10
I don't know what to think of that I believe how we feel and what we do about certain situations and good and bad times depends on how we want to see things and how we want to react to them not always and easy task to do but that is how I get through things...
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
...it's good to be positive, you are right, however there are times that it takes more than just optimism to fight stress...there are times that you have to stop and get some rest...it's good to accept all the hard things that life gave us with arms wide opened, but sometimes, we also have to stop to give our self some rest and break...once we gain enough strength, then we can continue with the routine and face life with a happy smile again...
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• Canada
4 Sep 10
Absolutely I would have to agree to that.....Thanks for your response....
@sinliong (88)
• Indonesia
4 Sep 10
It is something common to feel frustrated in our life. Especially when you realize that you've done everything on your own but no one appreciates that. Have a positive thinking sometimes help this condition pretty well, but it will never working when there are many problems in your life. You must aware that our brain can feel tired as well as our body. And when that happen, even positive thoughts can be very irritating. Keeping your body and brain under pressure is not healthy. Something that might be help is taking rest. You can take a time to have a nice sleeping. Or maybe you can take a recreation to relax you a little. It doesn't have to an expensive recreation. Just do something enjoyable for you. Watch movie, shopping, or perhaps just take a time at a quite and cool garden might work. Just set aside the world for a while. Forget everything, enjoy your time.
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• Canada
4 Sep 10
That is great advice and thanks I shall have to give that a try....That is part of my problem is I don't get enough rest or take a break for awhile for me to relax....
@dream_ozn (1757)
• Singapore
4 Sep 10
Hi Blue Angel, I too believe in the power of positive thinking. You should also believe in yourself that you are able to use positive thinking to make yourself happier. Whether we are stress or not, we still have to live by the day. So why not make it a happier and enjoyable one. I understand that it is easy to say, but much more difficult to act on it. However, with positive thinking, you will be able to do it! Instead of feeling frustrated, try and think of ways how to improve the current situation instead!
• Canada
4 Sep 10
Thanks for your response dream and you are right the power of positive thinking you can improve a situation and have a better outcome...
@rautrahul (267)
• India
4 Sep 10
Thinking positive is always better for us & taking the decision. If you are having so frustration you always try to keep mind cool & always think positive. You will get better result.
• Canada
4 Sep 10
Yes positive thinking can get you a better result thanks for responding...
• Vietnam
4 Sep 10
yes, when you do everything, if you see it in the possitive way, you will see something good and you won't be stess too much. I am always make my thnking more and more positive, it make me feel good.
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• Canada
4 Sep 10
Yes thinking positive always does make a person feel good but it some situations it is easier said then done...
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
We all have that feeling sometimes. We cannot avoid it. there are times that we are very sensitive even to a very small detail. One mistake and we blew up. :) Here are some lists that you could refer to on what to do at times like this. This does not mean that this will work out really good but it depends on how you deal it. choose one or more that will make you feel better 1. Gently and quitely breathe through your nose and back out through your mouth for as long as you are angry or disturbed. If you feel light headed, slowly stop. However, if you are very emotional and breathing too fast, use a paper lunch bag to breathe into to slow your system down. 2. Shake your shoulders to release tension. 3. Lie down in a safe place. close your eyes and listen to slow music to take your mind off of emotional pressure. Let all tension in your forehead, neck and hands fade away slowly. Imagine every part of your body relaxing. Start with your head and move downward. 4. Take a piece of paper to write logically about what has happened and list steps of action to sort it out properly. After you write down, shred it and throw it away. It's symbolic of throwing away those feelings you just want to get out. 5. Take time to privately relax, meditate, or pray. Great peace comes through purposely focusing on quieting one's being without worrying about distractions of the world. 6. Squeeze a stress ball, sponge, or other pliable object at least 50 times. 7. Take a walk outside alone. Go to a store or the park or even your backyard. A good breathe of fresh air always feels good. 8. Hit something, not someone. Kick your sofa or punch a pillow, but never a person or animal. 9. Realize that you can not control what will happen everyday. when you find yourself getting anxious, worried or stressed because life seems to be out of control, take a few deep breaths and then tell yourself a positive affirmation such as "Life is crazy but I am calm". Repeat this ten times and you will sense calm. 10. Carry a picture with you of an image that makes you feel calm in a crazy world. It should have scenes of nature, not people. Somne people find images of water very calming. Carry this in your purse, wallet or briefcase, and keep it with you. when you sense you are getting anxious, you have the calm image available to look at while using your positive affirmation. Place a calm photo image at your office desk and look at it several times in the day while saying a positive affirmation like :"Life is crazy but i am calm". 11. Make it a goal to live more and stress less. Remember, you manage your feelings. Dont let your feelings and worry manage you. 12. Consider events in your childhood: how was your upbringing contributed to how you react and feel about the world? Think of traumatic, crazy events that occurred between age 5-10 and isolate them. Write them down on a piece of paper, crumple it and throw it out. 13. Identify the people in your life who are making you feel like the world it out of control and consider what TV shows, websites and media you view or listen to that make you feel the world is crazy. Surround yourself with other people who are calm. 14. think about the situation from a different perpective that doesnt result in you being so stressed. Consider the points of view of others arround you.
• Canada
4 Sep 10
Thank you Bluerain these are some really great tips I will definatly try a few of them that will work for me....
@Sphinx30 (286)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
Dealing with all negative things could likely be listen if you've always think positive. so, don't lose hope because life is really full of challenges and it's all up to us if we allow ourself to get affected with all such negative things that could make you stress...it's really nice to give yourself a break for a quite some time, it will help you avoid more stress...:)
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• Canada
4 Sep 10
I agree and I think that is where I don't allow myself is to have some quiet time...
@AmbiePam (57389)
• United States
4 Sep 10
I started a gratitude journal awhile ago. Things are pretty bad here, but I know things could be worse. But knowing they could be worse really doesn't help a lot of the times. Problems are still problems. So I started a gratitude journal at the suggestion of someone, and I really noticed a change in my outlook. And there is no thing too little to write down. A good parking space at the grocery store? I write it down. I noticed a flea on my dog yesterday, and wrote down how grateful I was that I found it when there was just one. So it allowed me to treat him with tick prevention before there really was a problem. I'm determined to put a positive spin on things, because too often I fail to see the good things in the midst of the very bad.
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• Canada
4 Sep 10
I find myself writing in my often sometimes about everything AmbiePam it's a great thing to do to just let things flow and let them out....I do hope that things get better for you too soon hun hugzzzzzz.
@Hatley (164154)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Sep 10
blueangel today was ggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgrtrrr too. I got busy here typing on mylot and read my computer clock wrong, so thought it was 11 o clock and told myroomie Kathy Kathy its time to eat come on she kept saying I just got back from e ating,.not once did she say its noon no so i said well suit your self I am going down to e at. well of coourse everyone had ate and left but they left a plate of food for me, was I ever embarrassed and felt like a fool. see myroomie is becoming senile and I just thought she was wrong.never dawned on me she was telling me the honest truth but on the other hand instead of just going down and leaving me to miss lunch why did she not say patsie its time to eat its 11 am. she did not help me like i h elp her everyday.okay so I was already upset then instead of taking us as the list came, the administrator decided to call us alphabetically so I had to wait to get my money til a quarter after four and this woman whom I do not like anyway, comes up to me and stands right against me and keeps saying its four arent you going to go eat, well, I said I will after I get my money, and she now is holding my arm. suddenly I had had it. I yelled just leave me alone, do not touch me. leave me the hell alone. she was going to keep talking but yara the activity directer called to her and said leave her alone what did you say to her to upset her like that. I just went in and got my money still furious at this person. now I am ashamed of myself for blowing up but I do not like people standing that close to me anyway and she is the most persistent person I have ever met. She is not a friend but just an acquaintance. She is also known for being a non stop complainer too. But its not like me as I do not usually act like that. I feel badly now. but why must people lean right into you and touch you when they barely know you?
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• Canada
4 Sep 10
Just saying grrrrrrrrrrrr somehow helps me feel a little bit better it's just been one of those days for me today and I'm trying so hard to keep my spirits up and think positive but it hasn't been the easiest thing for me today...
@katland05 (136)
• Guam
3 Sep 10
Think positive, think positive!! I'm constantly thinking of that because these past couple of months I've been only thinking how will I make my husband's earnings enough to pay all the monthly bills. Even splitting the bills so I can pay them bi-weekly is still not enough. That is why I go online to supplement & try to help with my end.. I think okay let's not give in to stress, I end up calling some of these places I'm still outstanding on my bills to see if they can hold on till next payday, thank god they are so understanding to wait... We use to go out at least one day during the weekend to eat as a family but even that has stop, My kids get so bored staying at home, I'm even feeling it. But I think this is not forever, it will get better. I pray every morning & night for faith, patience & thank the lord at least I have my family.. Gosh, I hate paying rent, these bills are here to stay, just take each day as it come.. Just need to vent out, thanks mylot friends for listening!!
• Canada
3 Sep 10
Thank you for sharing your story and vent all you want I know what it feels like to need that once in awhile and I hope things get better for you also....