who would have thought? a love story hiding in my own family...
November 7, 2010 9:51am CST
So we had this family gathering last weekend as it was Deepavali, an indian holiday also known as festival of lights. Anyways, we got to talkin about my late grandfather and grandmother. I was just jokin around that my grandma's good looks had skipped a generation and was passed down to us (lol) Anywayz, my dad revealed this love story which was not told to us all this while. My grandfather met my grandma who was a servant girl workin in his plantation. Much to the objection of his parents as well as hers, they eloped and got married. You see, his family disowned him due to the stigma of one of their own marrying a servant girl AND the elopement just added insult to injury. I never met my grandmother. She passed away long before I was born. My granddad passed away shortly after my 21st birthday. That was 7 years ago. Now thinkin back...I cant help but admire him. The 21 years I knew him, he never married again or even talked of another woman. His life was just devoted to hard work and his family. Maybe it is just a generation gap thing. But what with all these rising divorce rates and cheating cases goin on... one can become jaded in the whole concept of love. But to remain faithful to someone, even after she is gone, wow...I do hope that gene got passed down to me... Talk to the older generation in your own family...you never know what blockbuster material could be hiding in your own history. ;)
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7 Nov 10
My grandmother was a "plain" girl, and my grandfather was the handsome "talk of the town" that all the young women were interested in. One day my grandmother was riding her bike home when my grandfather stopped to offer her and her friend a ride home, since it was getting close to being dark. My grandmother said she couldn't believe someone as handsome and popular as my grandfather was even talking to her, let alone offering her a ride! They have been married for 56 years and have 5 children, 11 grandchildren, and 2 great grandchildren :)
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8 Nov 10
That's a nice story. I think if you've struggled so hard to get something then that will be you story forever. But it's special if you are lucky to find something to live for and to know it is worth fighting and striving for. Your grandma must have been a great woman.
7 Nov 10
Sad thing is that parents there can do manipulate their children and kids cannot do anything if parents are against. They don't have the real freedom to choose what they want and love. It's so sad to hear that your grandfather has a broken heart for years and he did nothing to get back the love of his life because of his folks. Don't get me wrong yaar, but India is a country that still considers and honors parental arrangement. I have nothing against it if that was your culture, but I really do hear a lot of complaints from friends hiding their emotions and are fearful because the person they love are not the very people that their folks wanted. I have a friend back home where she and this Indian guy were so in love for so long but because she is not in the same religion, the guys folks disagree leaving my female friend behind and the guy was married to another girl. It was really sad to see her like that but what to do? If the guy has the strength to fight for his love, maybe he can do something just for the sake of love and standing on his two feet without depending on his folks. Anyway, just a failed love story to share here.
8 Nov 10
lovely story. 15 years back, when my sister married this guy, situation was same. Social stigma and all that matters to family pride was shattered. But now there are three love marriages in my family and those who had protested and criticized my sisters marriage also followed her. Today we are a happy family now.
8 Nov 10
how beautiful, your grandaddy is a very brave guy and he is right now they have an advantage age and look at that: they found what everybody is looking for if he worried about his parents I bet he would be really unhappy if they desowned their own son their love wasn't great enough but your gramma's is!!
7 Nov 10
Means they really feel inlove to each other and even one has passed away still the love are there until they meet again into the other side of world. This kind of love really rare in today's young generation. So if we fined this qualification today we are lucky to maintain and kept this unto us. Let's preserve the love stronger inside us.