What do you think of this rule in a company?

@youless (104244)
Guangzhou, China
November 28, 2010 8:44am CST
Some companies don't allow love issues. Namely if two colleagues fall in love and then get married, then one of them should quit the job. I can understand it but it seems to be cruel in my opinion. What do you think?
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@maezee (40968)
• United States
29 Nov 10
Ah, yeah, that rule.. Luckily I don't work in a corporate environment and don't have to worry about that! Not that there is any guy I'm currently interested in at my company..Ugh. LOL. Anyway, I don't see how having a couple working at the same job could be problematic, UNLESS one of them was a supervisor to the other - because of course there would be a conflict of interest. But otherwise, I don't think it should be a problem...
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Nov 10
That's nice you don't have such a problem.
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
28 Nov 10
Cruel it may be but rules are rules and need to be respected. In my country only those who work in banks are not allowed to have both husband and wife working together. Other then that it is allowable for a couple to work under the same management but probably not under one roof. One must work in the branch office.
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Nov 10
But is this rule reasonable?
@4mymak (1793)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 10
hi zandi.. i think in my country, also - banks are the institution that follows strictly follows that rule.. married couples are never allowed to work at the same branch. so if one does not want to resign - he/she has to be transferred.
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 10
I should think it is reasonable as official matters does not blend well with personal life. You see when people at home call each other 'darling' or 'love', how would they address themselves in the office if they are in the same office? And I don't think you would like to be working with or under your husband as it will create uneasiness with the other staff.
• United States
28 Nov 10
You mean if they marry one has to leave? Well, here the couple wouldn't marry. They would Still be together , and even have children but Never marry.I think it is unfair but there is a way around it.
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Nov 10
Yes, some companies force one of the couples to quit if they work in the same company.
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• United States
29 Nov 10
Only if they marry? Or can they just date?
• China
29 Nov 10
what kind of company do you work for? A private one or a multi-national one? I guess it must be a private one, because only a private one can make such policies and it also depends on where you are from or whether the law of the country allows this to happen or not.
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@aeiou78 (3455)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 10
Yes, you are right. A husband and wife can not be at the same company. The management just worries if one of the husband or wife dislikes the company, then two of them will be the same too. But I have seen two couples who work at the same company since 10 years ago. They are doing well and get promoted many times. the promotion were granted to two of the husbands only. ha1 ha! ha!
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Nov 10
It seems that you agree to this rule.
@aeiou78 (3455)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 10
I never support any of these rules. I were trying to tell you what was happening. My friend worked in a bank as an officer. He married with his college at the same branch of the bank. He told me that his wife had to resign because of this rule. I am not sure if the resignation was based on the request from the management or not. Now, the husband has been promoted to the General Manager post. My another friend married with his wife when both of them in the same university. They both applied to the same bank and worked as officers. After working 15 years at the same bank, they both are in the manager rank.
• India
29 Nov 10
i agree with you. the company should not have a right to make anyone quit because his or her spouse is in the same company. this is very ridiculous as we spend a lot of time at our work place and it gives a niche opportunity to understand other person for a life partner. this is not acceptable for me at least, this should changed in such a way that neither the work is effected and nor personal feeling of the employes.
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Nov 10
I think the company shall think out a considerate solution to it rather than forcing one of the couples to quit the job.
• India
29 Nov 10
absolutely right, there is always a plausible solution if we look at it.
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@thanks1961 (7041)
• India
29 Nov 10
Hi dear, In our company this system follows. But I didn’t questioned why is so? Also, the place where I am working is 90% is unmarried and mostly belongs to the age group of 22-30. The company is not supporting for it and if anyone get married, either of them will move to some other company or they will one of them will get shifted to some other office (not in the same department or same location). We have several offices in different locations in the same country. So they will placed in different locations, atleast. In my knowledge while they are in office, many got married and none of them work together in the same location and same department. Thank-s
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Nov 10
But if they live in different locations, it will affect on their relationship. As you know, the distance can be a big problem for the lovers.
• India
30 Nov 10
Hi dear, By location I mean, we have 3-4 office premises in the same location within the range of 10-15 kms. within the same city as all the people cannot accommodate with the same building. Me and a team of 160 people would shift to a new location again within 3 months to another building as the lease period of 5 year is getting over now. Like that we have nearly 1000 above staff is in the same location spread over 3-4 difference office buildings. Many have changed the company after marriage and few are still there. But if they really love and like they think they one of them will move out of the same company and will join other company with similar working atmosphere. Thanks for your comments. Regards, Thank-s
@onque10 (110)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
This is necessary I think. Working supposed to be should not be affected by our emotions. Imagine, what if this couple had a fight and their works are interfacing? Do you think their work will not be affected? this is an advanced thinking by the company. They believe that couples may not control their emotions in times of misunderstanding and miscommunication will occur thus affecting their performances. this sounds cruel but this is also in the common between couples and company.
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Nov 10
I can understand your concerns, but it is still a big sacrifice since one of them has to leave.
@onque10 (110)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
a sacrifice for the greater good though. It is better for the other to leave and find another job rather than of them will be terminated due to non-compliance with the company's policy. :)
@lkbooi (16093)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 10
Hi youless, the company I had been working until my retirement having the same regulation as well. Yeah, husband and wife are forbidden to work as colleagues in the same department. This is to avoid the undesired occurrence of jealousy, unfairness, acting according to the spouse's sentiment, etc, when handle day to day works in the office. The situation would be worse if either the wife or husband is the immediate superior or boss of that department. It's quite normal that, no matter how fair the married couple doing their work without siding its spouse, people still would have suspicious minded and thinking according to their respective feeling when facing unsatisfied treatment in the office. Therefore once any two of the workmates have married, one of them surely will be posted to the other department of the same company to prevent such undesirable situation which will affect the work efficiency of the office to happen. Take care and happy posting
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Nov 10
I hope there would be a better solution.
@lkbooi (16093)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 10
Yeah, as what I know, most of the big companies with good reputation have their professional director of personal department to cope with all sorts of problems that might happen among staffs. We don't have to worry much about such problem as they could handle it nicely I suppose, thought not everyone involved would feel happy with the related solution...
@yspmyl (3436)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 10
I did work in the company with the same rules that you mentioned here. I think the company have their reason to have this rules so that no conflict between the 2 person that married to each other. The company do not bother the conflict between the 2 couple but they worried the conflict that will affect the company work. Married couple will tend to bring their family issue to the workplace and that will affect their work performance.
@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Nov 10
Do you agree with this rule?
@yspmyl (3436)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 10
Oh, forgot to tell you about that, if I am the boss, I will probably allow couple to work together but with one condition, they should not bring their family issue come to work. Or else either one of them will be terminated or have to leave the company. I personally do not agree with the rule.
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@maximax8 (30579)
• United Kingdom
12 Dec 10
In some places of work a lady might meet a man and have a relationship with him. Then the two of them could get married. It would be unfair if one of them has to leave the place of work. I think that love issues should be allowed and the couple should carry on acting professionally. I have know the case in a school when the teacher has taught her own child. Sometimes this sort of thing happens and the other children would be equally as important as the own child.
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Dec 10
I agree with you.
@daiweian06 (1405)
9 Dec 10
Unreasonable to terminate an employee only because of this reason. Imagine they fall inlove accidentally then decided to get married and then they will terminate the one of them. How they can provide a good family if one of them are unemployed? So some of those partners in a company choose to keep a secret than to reveal the truth. But if this is the rule, what if the rule maker breaks the rule? They will do the same? If yes, its all fine and fair. Much better to have different job as earlier before getting married.
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Dec 10
I am not sure what the rule maker to handle this situation when they have this situation. But since they are the rule maker, it's easy to solve.
@LittleMel (14033)
• Canada
5 Dec 10
I guess they want it to be professional some couples can not keep it professional at work and they actually cover each other up if one makes mistakes that's what the company wants to avoid there are already dishonest people at work, can you imagine dishonest couples? from what I know, if the couple is not in the same dept it's fine especially if one of them is a manager I wish I could work in the same company hubby worked but it didn't happen they never accepted my application
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Dec 10
If all the couples can be professional to their work, then perhaps there won't be such kind of rule.
@celticeagle (124394)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Dec 10
It can be cruel. It is because people may not have their minds on work if their SO is there in the same building. Lack of good job proformance, they might try to do something that would not be in the best interest of the company(i.e. steal money or insurance fraud)and the company has to be proactive and keep anything that might happen from happening. And, because people in the past have done these things it makes it sad for the new ones that come up after them.
@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Dec 10
Thanks for your response.
@brucehu (82)
• China
2 Dec 10
If I am a boss,I will allow my employee to get together,I like yongth,it's OK,even we manage our relationship well.
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Dec 10
That's so kind of you
• United States
1 Dec 10
As long as the individuals are not ableo directly influence the other persons career paths then there is no reason why they should not be allowed to be married and work for the same company! I mean I'd you have a boss marrying and employee or a supervisor or something like that then no! It's is almost like a quid pro quo!
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
2 Dec 10
You are right.
• Bulgaria
30 Nov 10
In my opinion this is not a right rule because it would be a Boss and a secretary or two Leaders in a future. It's need to be more be careful in this situation.
@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Dec 10
Thanks for your reply.
@wolfie34 (26789)
• United Kingdom
30 Nov 10
Considering meeting a prospective partner at work is quite popular all over the world putting this rule into force is very harsh! I can't understand the reasoning behind it to be honest and how can they condone this? With recession biting in virtually every country people cannot afford to lose their jobs. So what do they do NOT fall in love or not get married because of what their employer dictates? I can't see this rule standing up in court. Very draconian and needs to be challenged.
@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Dec 10
You are right. It is bad that one of the couples have to quit not because of his/her working ability but the marriage relationship.
@mksush (42)
• India
30 Nov 10
My company does not have any problem with love affairs becos the company take this as advantage and make the employers to retain in that company for few more years as employers are switching companies once they get hike.
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Dec 10
Your company is very nice.
@saxmax (3)
30 Nov 10
I think it would be wise not to try and make a general rule but to look into each individual situation. There could be a conflict of interests and biased decisions might be made by the couple benefitting each other. Collegues might accuse the couple of unfair actions etc. On the other hand the couple might be very supportive and highly motivated, sharing the same work hours and being aware of a mutual goal. In other situations the consequences might not be noticeable and therefore irrelevant. The important thing is to come to a decision which is acceptable to all and where no hard feelings result. A creative solution can always be found - where there´s a will, there´s a way.
@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Dec 10
I think this solution can work most of the time.
@cssiduyz (1053)
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
yes I think it is too cruel. because usually the other companies do not like it.
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@youless (104244)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Dec 10
I think so.