do bad dreams affect your relation with your lover?

Indonesia
November 28, 2010 7:10pm CST
well, my boyfriend sent me sms (message) that last night he dreamed that i cheated him. and he is so grumpy and dont want to talk to me or reply my message like usual.he only replied in a short way with yes, or no. do bad dreams affect you too?and boys....if you dreamed that your lover cheat you, will it affect your relation with your lover for a temporary moment?
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31 responses
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
hello annawen! i dreamed once of my bf cheating on me with a girl he once tried to court, awhile we were already steadies. I told him about the dream and what it could probably mean. You know what happened? he got so grumpy and turn his back on me and said i'm making his day bad! all i did was narrate the dream to him! well, i lost my temper and started asking him is it because it struck a chord? that he is indeed cheating on me. Well, we had a temporary cold war but we soon made up. Actually, i was calm about it, just telling him about that dream since i read in a book of dreams that cheating by a partner in a dream, means you would share lasting love. It exactly means the opposite actually. My bf just misinterpreted me or maybe he thought i was accusing him or like that, that's why he got mad at me. So much for telling the truth, lol.
@voldrox (7191)
• India
29 Nov 10
Maybe he thought you think of him that way, and so you dreamed about it. Generally dreams are things we worry most about.
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
really? is it really mean that we will share lasting love? i really hope so :) well, i think your boy and my boy are the same. they were get mad only because we said something like that. eventhough we didnt mean to accuse them. he got bad mood not only because a dream that i cheated him, infact when i ask if he loves me so amny times, he will get moody and said that i dont believe him. well, boys boys boys :(
• Thailand
29 Nov 10
No, never dear. I don't do this stupid thing. It's only a dream. It's not the truth. I don't know why your boy friend grumpy with you? I am so sorry to hear that. You must talk it clearly to your boy friend, also comfort him!
• Indonesia
29 Nov 10
hello phong, nice to see you again :) hehehe i dont kow why he felt such thing :) well, maybe at the end of this day he will be smile again. i hope
• Thailand
29 Nov 10
Well , maybe he has been shocked in the dreams. I think you can ask him what is the content of the dream
• Indonesia
29 Nov 10
hehehe he said he doesnt want to talk about it. he said that if he remember it, it made him feel so angry. he only said that i'm cheating him. and then he kept on silence :(
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
2 Dec 10
I don't see any connection with relationship about bad dreams. There is idea how bad dreams affect relationship...I think there is no truth about that...
@ifa225 (14464)
• Indonesia
1 Jan 11
you should tell that to your boyfriend. maybe he can understand why you never do that. or maybe you can ask him, is he afraid of loosing you because that dream?
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
You know, friend. I don't believe about karma. Because the person who popularize that means of thinking did not believe also... Well, I appreciate how you be an honest person. You the right person to love with full of harmony and sincerity...
• Indonesia
2 Dec 10
yeah, because i believe my self will not allow me to do some cheating to my boyfriend. it will never happen in reality. because i am an honest person and believe about bad karma according to what we did
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
I always have that dream with my man.The scene is always he's with me and he flirts with the girl and end up leaving me wuth the girl. When I see him I told him about that movie and I punch him anywher just to get back. He was laughing all the way and making fun of me by asking if the girl is beautiful. I told him that he might really cheating on me but ofcourse he denied it and I can't find any reason to not believe him.He also dreamt the same but it doesn't change our relationship, it's only a dream so don't depend on your dreams.
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
2 Dec 10
We are so alike, our bf and us both dream of cheating. I can't explain why I had that dream when I am not thinking about him before I sleep. My bf told me that maybe I am thinking about him cheating me and I am paranoid about it. I told him I am not and it's woman instinct. Only God knows if they are, so I just let it all up to the Lord.
• Indonesia
3 Dec 10
yes, i hope for the best for the two of us. i hope our bf will never cheat us :)
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
i dreamt about he cheated me too, so many times. infact, several months ago, i had dreamt about him everyday and the dream are always bad dream. but i didnt affect my mood to him. because i knew that it was only a dream. i dont know why he is so moody compared to me
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
Dreams are dreams. And will remain just a dream. Dream is different from reality. We don't have to get affected with it easily.
• Indonesia
2 Dec 10
yeah, i dreamt that someone want to kill me at my dream. but i didnt affected by my dream. sometimes dream is only a dream. but sometimes dream has some meaning for our life. but i will not let it affect my feeling to my boyfriend if i dreamt he cheated on me.
• United States
29 Jan 11
My boyfriend has had numerous dreams about me cheating on him... it actually hurts. I think dreaming is just a manifestation of the things you're fearful of or worried about in real life. He may be feeling insecure, and not good enough for you... so he thinks that you will cheat. Even subconsciously, he's thinking about that and therefore dreams about it. Of course, he's going to be upset. Just like you would be upset if you had a dream about him cheating. I think if it's an insecure relationship, then it could have a negative effect. Or it could have a positive effect, in that it makes you closer to them.
• Indonesia
30 Jan 11
i dont know jessmartian. he's so sensitive like a girl. i'm tired if i have to be guy and he is the girl.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
29 Nov 10
My bad dreams usually affect my lover in a positive way. A bad dream can give me another way to become closer to my partner. When my partner is there to comfort me from having a bad dream, it can bring something new to the relationship.
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
well it is good for you then. i hope so that when he got dream that i cheated on him, he will be closer and want to be at my side for a long time after that day :) because when he got a bad mood because of the dream, it affect my mood too because i cant get a good relation with him at that day :(
@hushi22 (4928)
29 Nov 10
bad dreams never affect my relationship with my bf. i had a dream before that he cheated and i even saw the face of the girl that we both know. it as funny because i dreamt that after the day that his guy friend had a one night stand with the girl who was his (guy friend's) flatmate.
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
wow if i can saw the face of the girl who cheat with my bf in dream clearly, it will make me stunt for a moment i guess hehehehe.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
Sorry but your bf is so hollow and narrow minded, he don't know what is bad/good dreams. He is creating a ghost that he is only one fear. If yor bf is continuing such action what for if you and him together. He should need a heart to heart talk and try to explain that only dreams. Back to your question.... sorry. actually in related to my explanation it will affect only if the concern is narrow minded and not understand what is the meaning of dreams - in the bible dreams are the result of our many things in our mind... see you around... but I think he loves you very much that's why...
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
he is a sensitive boy, visavis. i have to admit that eventhough i am a girl but he is more sensitive than me. he got sad and bad mood when thing related to me. i knew that he loved me so much because he already loved me for 12 years. but i really glad if the dream didnt affect him in relaity
30 Nov 10
oh no ,In china there an old saying that dreams are alway opposite to the real world ,that's we you have a bad dream ,it means that you be lucky or something good is going to happen ,so cheer on ,you may have a sweet talk with your BF,i believe that you two will be happy !
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
i hope that me and bf will be lucky because of the dream. who knows that we will be married sooner than the expectation hehehe. i think i have to tell him not to grumpy to me because of the dream because it means luck. thank you earl
@mustread (224)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 10
No , it's just a dream. I have dreamed of cheating , too but haven't done it .It's innocent and it should affect your relationship.
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
:) i guess everyone here have a different way to react the dream
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
It depends to the person. If the person has superstitious belief, then, it will surely affect the relationship. It's either you convince him that such dreams aren't true or prove to him that you wouldn't attempt to do that..
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
i already convince him so many times that i will never cheat him :)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
I have tried that already, yeah it kinda affects me. It bothered me a lot for about 2 days. I think dreams hold important keys, they are trying to warn or tell you something which is about to happen.
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
and how to made your self forget aboutthe dream? do you tell your lover or you dont want to talk about it? what your lover do to assure that it's not gonna happen?
• United States
29 Nov 10
The fact that the boyfriend has had this dream may mean that he has underlying fears anyway and having them realized in a dream may have really spooked him. Reassure him that you aren't going to cheat him and that he has no reason to worry.
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
he is a kind of man that cannot have a dream. he seldom to dream. he said that usually when he slept, he didnt dream anything. and then when he dreamt yesterday he dreamt that i was cheated him. and then,like you know, he got grumpier than before :( i knew that he is affraid of losing me, but grumpy to me for the thing that i didnt do made me feel bad mood too. try to joke to him but no respond :( but fortunately last night he met me and talk with me eventhough not in a good condition
@voldrox (7191)
• India
29 Nov 10
Hello anna, Well, it's not only because of the dream he is treating you like that. He has it in his head, already, that is why he is acting like that. He seems to be a jealous kind. You need to give him reassurance. But at the same time he should feel guilty for making you feel this way. Anyways, you know you don't cheat him, so you should try to make things better. But, i have to say he should be the one to apologize. It's just that feeling of insecurity that makes him feel this way, i guess. He thinks a lot about it, and that is why he see such dreams in the first place.
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
hello voldrox. well you are a man, can you give me some suggestion how to reassurance him but to make him feel guilty too at the same time? because sometimes i cant understand how man thinking about a thing. and sometimes he is so stubborn to admit that he is wrong in some occation
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
For me not but there's something question I will keep it until i will said it is true I will investigate first.
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
so, it is not affect your relation with your lover. but it made you more caution about it? how long will you investigate and let the feeling of caution haunted you?
@louie847 (350)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
Hello there, my girlfriend always dreams about things. and mostly in her dreams I am in it. She always share to me what she had dreamed about. And I just listen to her, but with all the situations she had in her dreams i really do not believe that it will even come true. So far, she had not dreamed of me cheating on her, but I always re assure her that even in bad times i would not cheat on her and leave her.
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
girl are easier to be assured. like me, i can be assured that it is only a dream. but how to assure a stubborn boy?do you have any suggestion how to assure boy?
@calpro (930)
• India
29 Nov 10
Hi, You mean that you cheated your boyfriend in his dreams. And he is panic and angry with you. I just cant believe this. I can say anything I have dreamed of you as nobody can see my dream except me. I can say whatever I want That I had a dream of such things. I would never consider dream it is an action of brain when we fall asleep, nothing more than that. how would he make you responsible for his dreams.Did his dreams happen in real life too. For me I would never consider dreams. Calpro
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
no, i never cheated him. and i never think that i will cheat him someday. i'm an honest person, and is enough for me :)
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 10
Well its strange but it was just a dream , i gues i will tell my gf and i think that will be it but still its a nightmare . Well i might feel strange when i woke up , but i will be just as good because it was a nightmare . I think it will not effect me overall .
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
:) then it is good. i guess you have a good relationship with your gf :)
@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
29 Nov 10
hmm.. sorry to tell that your boyfriend is stupid believing in dreams. Well.. he better check on this if this is true, then angry if necessary. But if he feels disappointed because of a dream.. well.. he better check on himself first. Well.. different people also have different quality also. He may need some time to recover from his dream. Maybe...
• Indonesia
30 Nov 10
yes he is the kind of person who need time to recover his self from bad mood. but it is not me, who did the cheat. it is his dream. why i must got the bad mood from him T.T so sad