I am so upset!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@Renhard (3474)
Jamaica
November 30, 2010 6:55pm CST
I had high expectations of mylot growing into something big and great when i just joined this site. I thought when more people came on this site the discussions would get a bit more interesting. When i join this site i could pick on any discussion and felt interested in responded. But now is totally different i have been on this site for more than a hour waiting on a good discussion to pop up but guess what........ not even now!! sigh! Tell me every change you see in mylot. do you think you have any way to make those changes into something better? What do you think is responsible for all this boredom? Dont hold back e=anything just talk all your mind.
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@hofferp (4737)
• United States
1 Dec 10
I don't wait for the discussion icons on the top of the page to roll by and pick one. I've got mine set up such that when my friends start discussions I'm notified by e-mail and I usually respond to my friends' discussions. If no one's talking (no e-mails), I go to my profile and look over my interests and pick one and see what's happening. I usually have more discussions to respond to than I have time. I wouldn't be upset, I'd just go elsewhere to find discussions that interest you. Or start your own...like you just did!
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@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 10
Sorry i took so long to respond.I have mine set up like that too but you see if anyone sends me a friend request i would accept. So to me it would seem almost all of mylot is in my friend list. So what happens now is that by the time i should reach home my mailbox would be too full for me to go through and pick my discussion to respond. Remember i am still in school and i have school work to do when i go home. If my mailbox reach extra full it will get hard to manage it and i get school work sent to me through that email as well so i cant really do what you are doing and respond to friends. Plus i see that as a bit unfair responding to only friend's discussions. As for going someone else and find a discussion that interest me. Thats what i am talking about under all my interest each discussion is either confusing or i have no knowledge on what they are talking about and i dont see the sense in replying to something i dont know about. Because if i actually manage to reply it would end up that i am replying total rubbish.
@hofferp (4737)
• United States
2 Dec 10
I started to accept everybody as friends, but then I stopped. I've deleted "friends" that I have little or nothing in common with (I don't care for their discussions and/or their responses). So, now, I have a reasonable number of friends' discussions to deal with. With all the time constraints you have (school), I'd consider doing the same. Don't feel bad about deleting "friends"...I don't. And I wouldn't accept everybody as a "friend"...I don't.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
5 Dec 10
i dont think i can do that. i am going to feel away if i do such things. I am going to feel like i am hurting that person feelings. But still i really feel that will be time consuming for me to actually go through so much and delete. that is going to take too much time.
@ElicBxn (61191)
• United States
1 Dec 10
if you want an interesting discussion and you aren't seeing any, then start one of your own... or maybe you just aren't looking in the right interests, I almost always find some I like in "Cats" because I like cats Of course, I find most of my friends start discussions I can respond to so I don't have to hang around and wait for something... So, I really don't know what to suggest to you, but add interests that you like and look in them
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@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 10
Sorry for the late response. I guess that is a possibility because i have hardly added anymore interest since when i first join but then again when i was joining I added alot of my great interest and i mean alot. But then again i have created discussions before where i notice there is a dramatic decrease in people responding to those discussions. Mylot increase in population but decrease in its activity, how is that even possible?
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@ElicBxn (61191)
• United States
2 Dec 10
People come and go, even the lady I joined under isn't as active as she was the first little bit.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
5 Dec 10
But i am sure the ones who were doing mylot the good is still here. So why the more the mylot population increase the worst mylot is getting? This thing is so confusing. I expected it to be the other way around. i expected that the more the mylot population increase the better it would become.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Dec 10
I hate to hear that you are bored...I must say that I have some very spirited friends here and boredom is seldom something that I experience. I started out slow here but I think that we all do...we have to establish friendships and respect among other members first and that can take a little time. What is it that interests you enough to respond to a discussion? What are you in too and what type of things do you like to talk about. I think there is something here for everyone. We just have to find it. I have seen some very interesting discussions. I have started a few myself. What interests me though may not be your thing.
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@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 10
I really dont have any specific interest. I will respond to anything as long as i can reply to it and if i have knowledge in it. But i also have good friends on this site that i have fun with sometimes. But that is only sometimes.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 10
Sorry for the late reply.
@saphrina (31732)
• South Africa
1 Dec 10
And what exactly is it that will interest you when it comes to discussions then, sweetie? Want a tissue? TATA.
@vandana7 (78033)
• India
1 Dec 10
He needs a change in nappies!
@saphrina (31732)
• South Africa
1 Dec 10
He needs a good whipping if you ask me, Vannie.
@vandana7 (78033)
• India
1 Dec 10
You'd be willing to whip him with that dirty, wet nappy?
• United States
1 Dec 10
It gets this way sometimes so when I get a bit on the bored side I simply log out. However, I find that I go through the tabs and am able to find many interesting discussions, more than the time I can spend on here. See so many one-liners get posted by the minute they are drowning out the great discussions in the no response tabs, take a look and you will see what I mean. By the way you do not need to respond to discussions just from today.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
2 Dec 10
Sorry for the late response. Yes i see what you mean. There are ones and twos great discussions but by the time they should come on they are taken off by similar discussions though boring. Hey but look here, i dont like to respond to discussions created a while back because more time when i respond the creator will not respond to me so it will be boring.
• United States
3 Dec 10
I see what you men but take today for instance an old member for instance started like 30 meaningless discussions all in one sitting and so I was getting so bored, that I went to discussions with no responses and there were 15 from like one hour before. So you may want to look at that sometimes as this is happening really often.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
5 Dec 10
you know what i find hard to believe in that. When you said old member. I dont expect those things from an old member. But seriously it is things like those that make me get upset on this site. I bet though if he got 30 responses for each of those discussions he wont be even able to reply to any of them. What i would like to say is, dont act greedy, your only reward for greediness is a lost in respect.
@gaiza12 (4885)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
I have felt that myLot became a boring site at one time but it's never like this everyday. It's just that, different myLotlers are able to go online and posts discussions that others are really not interested in, while others find it fun and nice to respond to for they can relate to the discussion. Sometimes i see that it's a bit boring here so what i do is simply leave the site for a few minutes and then log back in when i have nothing else to do. Sometimes it helps, i can find interesting topics after logging in, but sometimes still nothing. You can also try to post new topics like what you are doing now so you have something to get busy with while waiting for a new interesting discussion. And as others are doing and telling me, we can try to search the no responses section and see if we find something interesting for us there and even help the starter with his/her discussion.
@gaiza12 (4885)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
ops..error! That's suppose to be mylotters.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
3 Dec 10
Sorry for the late response. Atleast you see how i feel sometimes. Thats completely true. I have never posted a discussion on what i am doing now that seem kinda too simple and awkward. i need to try that one day. By the way if i search for the discussions that do not have any responses, aren't those the boring discussions? The ones that no one will take the time out to even read them.
@gaiza12 (4885)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
Sometimes i can say that they are really boring discussions but you will be amazed sometimes to see that there are really discussions there that are worth the time to read and respond to.
@vandana7 (78033)
• India
1 Dec 10
Hi kiddo, remember me? :) I think everything is interesting for while and then it goes through a dull phase, and then again it becomes interesting. The trick is to hang on be it on myLot or in relationship. This is a social site. You would know many people out here. Not everybody would have interesting tales to tell you. Especially not every day. That does not mean you cant enjoy meeting a few good friends. How you spend your time here depends upon you, and not on myLot, or myLotters. :) You just have to find a nice group you can spend sometime with when interesting discussions are not around. That way, you would enjoy their company, and earn as well. :)
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
2 Dec 10
Sorry for the late response. What kind of question is that. Could i forget you? I guess you are right though but even sometimes i find that people i hang out with like you are creating some discussions that i have no knowledge about or i just dont understand them. And sometimes i dont have any idea on what to say. Times those let I get frustrated quite easily.
@vandana7 (78033)
• India
3 Dec 10
Kiddo ... just follow Meluan or Saphy... you would get your share of laughs for the day. :)
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
5 Dec 10
I do sometimes but other times i cant find them. They seem to be lost or them run away leave me alone. and now i cant find my way.
@de_toya (2433)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 10
I do not find any difficulty when searching for discussion those I want to respond. There will be always many discussions to be responded here. I wonder, why do you hard to find good discussions here? What kind of discussion do you want? There are many discussions related with our life. They all are so simple and easy to respond because all we need just share our opinion based on our daily experiences. If you need to discuss about physics, mathematics, or anything else that need special skill, I think they will hard to be found here.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
2 Dec 10
Sorry for that late response. I dont really like to discuss about subjects here. Mylot is a relaxing site for me not a working site. I should be able to come here to relax and not to work. I like relationship discussions, or anything that catches my eye,etc. Sometimes i get bored of relationship discussions and i just have to sit and wait for an interesting discussion to come my way because i have no idea about what kind of discussion to search for. Oh and by the way i like some life discussions, just some.
@sid556 (30987)
• United States
3 Dec 10
Hi Renhard, I have been here for a long time. I will agree that there are times that the place can seem pretty boring and nothing new or good is being posted. That could be because everyone is at work or busy with other things or it could be that all the nonsense posters are on her at the same time. who knows? It could also be that I'm just in a mood and nothing seems interesting to me. I just take a little break from here and later on or next day, it is all different. It's ever changing. Some days are good and others are not. Of course if you are really frustrated with the discussions then you could change it by starting a bunch of new interesting discussions yourself. That way they would at least be in a topic that you enjoy discussing/
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 10
Like i was saying before. I do create discussions but that is only when i have good ideas running through my head. If i dont have any interesting ideas i will not force myself to create any discussions. That's me. but atleast you see what i mean. Sorry for the late reply.
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@sid556 (30987)
• United States
5 Dec 10
I understand.
@Elixiress (3882)
1 Dec 10
If none of the current discussions spark your interest then make more of your own, people may read them and they may inspire them to make similar discussions themselves, which may interest you. The only person that can stop you being bored is yourself.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 10
I create discussions sometimes but only if i have a good idea in my head. If i have nothing in my head i wont force myself to create a discussion. And my head is usually empty when i cant find any interesting discussions. I find it strange that when the mylot population is getting bigger the discussions are getting worst. Discussions were better to me when the mylot population was smaller. Sorry for the late reply.
@Elixiress (3882)
5 Dec 10
I agree with you about the quality of some discussions. I wouldn't post a discussion because I couldn't decide whether to wear red or purple nail varnish that day. But a lot of people seem to make discussions out of the first thing that pops into their mind. I think it might be because discussions make you money while you don't have to do anything. You get paid a little per person that makes a response to your discussions.
@dorannmwin (36648)
• United States
3 Dec 10
Honestly, I've always been very active on here since the day that I discovered the site and I never cease to find something interesting to respond to. I think that the difference lies in the fact that I am genuinely interested in what people have to say and my reason for being a member here isn't all about the money (although I will admit that it is a nice plus). I've made several really good friends and always try to respond to the discussions that they've started.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
5 Dec 10
when i just started i was only concern with the money but after wards i really cared about having fun and meeting new people. I wouldnt even care about the money again(that doesnt mean i am not happy to get it). but mylot is a great place it is just that i t seems like it is getting worst the more people that join. Sorry for the late reply.
• Singapore
1 Dec 10
Hmm...overall from time to time, I will see some discussions which do not stir an interest in me but then the majority of the time, I do find a lot of discussions which interests me a lot. Everytime when I refresh the page, there are quite a lot of discussions which are unique and fun to respond to, at least to me. So I guess it really depends on the individual's perspective regarding this matter. Haha, no need to feel upset because eventually, someone will post an interesting discussion and that stops the boredom.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 10
Yes i guess that will happen eventually. But guess what. It always happen when i am not online so i usually miss those ones and i am only seeing the boring one. You see, I am just bad lucky. Sorry for the late response.
@dpalais (130)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
Renhard you sound like so demanding with your last sentence.I think the thing that makes you feel bored is that you can't find a discussion that arouse your interest. Do you set standards to the discussions you are responding? If yes then try lowering it, because others really does and that's the reason why they can't find interesting discussion.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 10
i really dont know if i actually set standards to it. Its just that if i see a discussion that i have no knowledge of i will not reply or if i am naturally not interested in it. Sorry for the late reply.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
1 Dec 10
I don’t have that problem to be honest because I usually manage to find something interesting to respond to. Sometimes the topic may not be fascinating but if you take a different angle it can turn into something interesting and fun. Why not start some good discussions? If you’re creative enough you may receive a lot of responses and that will keep you busy and earning for ages if you comment back.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
4 Dec 10
You see this is one such discussions. i am finding it so difficult to reply to everyone but i still do not want to let down anyone by not replying because i hate when that happen to me. i cant believe you haven't met up on that though. I am sorry for the late reply. Its because i was busy with school work.
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• United States
1 Dec 10
I'm having problems finding interesting discussions to post in, but I still try to find topics that interest me.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
3 Dec 10
Sorry for the late response. you see i find it difficult to search for good discussions via the search bar because simply i dont know what to actually type in that search bar to find something interesting. I just cant figure of any idea to write down in that search bar. Also i would like to say that i hate when responders respond with one liner. I find it quite disrespectful, i dont know why. Maybe its just because i am weird???
@Hatley (164154)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 10
renhard I have not seen the discussions that bad, but remember we have some new people who really do not care about how good they make their discussions, they just think that if they post 25 every day they will make a mint as they believe that our responses are going to make them a mint. wrong as they do not get paid one cent for our responses. we did the typing we posted so we get paid. then they have no time to comment back on our discussions, end up bitc@ing about how little they made, and finally just quit. also they seldom read any of the rules of discussion so a lot of their discussions just get deleted.So yes we have a lot of one line discussions that simply are too too simple. they give nobody anything to discuss. To make better discussions anyone should make fewer ones and really care about what they are writing. Take time to word it to draw our attention and get us to respond.Also do not be quite so picky as there are a lot of discussions out there and some are excellent too.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
2 Dec 10
Sorry for the late response. You know what my problem is. I find it hard to respond to past discussions because i feel if i respond the creator will not respond. And that mean the conversation wont continue and that is what i am trying to avoid.And like what a earlier mylotter said before, it seems like the worst discussions are drowning out the good ones. And that really seem to be true.
• United States
1 Dec 10
The problem is not mylot or us it is all you. Your the one looking to find the worlds greatest posts to interest you. If you took the time to start the very posts tht interest you and respond to the people who respond to you. Then you will find your self seeing things differently. I found a lot to respond to over the last few hours. I chose the ones I wanted and passed the rest. I have joined plenty of sites and mylot is the best darn site on the net that pays on time everytime. Please don't bring this bad news post to our site. it is not wanted or needed. I have been here 5 years and the interesting posts are made by interesting people. So,if your looking for the greatness start making it happen from your end. Take care..
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
2 Dec 10
Sorry for the late response. I accept your view. But i did not mean that mylot is a bad site. Mylot is still my one and only and even best site. Its not that i am searching for special discussions to respond to, its just that if i meet up on a discussion that i have no knowledge about i cant respond to. And if i do respond to that discussion that mean i will be responding pure rubbish if you get what i mean. But relatively speaking and please look in this and ask your self, is mylot better or worst than how it was before? Be honest.
• Canada
1 Dec 10
After 4 years here, nothing has changed for me. There are days that are better than others, and that's the way it will continue to be. Unless you sit here online all day every day, you're never going to find any interesting discussions. But no one has that kind of time, so you'll miss some of those interesting discussions because they've come and gone. But yes, sometimes your friends will start interesting discussions, and you'll find something to talk about, but sometimes that's not always the case.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 10
Sorry i took so long to respond. So tell me how am i always missing those good discussions. You know i have met up on some good discussions before but i have no knowledge of what they are talking about but you can still see that the discussion is interesting. In times like these i wish i was one of the most knowledgeable persons in the world.
• United States
1 Dec 10
I haven't had a hard time finding discussions to reply to. Thing is I don't stay on here all day waiting. There are many different topics you can choose from. Is it not the topics you would like to respond to? Then you will need to start some discussions of the content you would like discussed, it could grow from there. There are days I come here and do not find anything I am interested in responding to, to be able to add good content to. What I do is then go to the news to comment on the news of the day. I have noticed there hasn't been as many discussions started as there are replies. Could be that, to do this one needs to make sure to take the time to answer the responses and many do not have that kind of time. Looks like you have been able to start some good discussions with several replies, that is good. Check all interests you may find more to respond to.. is all I can suggest.
@Renhard (3474)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 10
Sorry for the late response i was so busy with school work. Anyway i guess what you are saying is true. I really did not see it that way that there are more discussions being replied to than created. Maybe its even that causing the problem. If everybody is switching to replying rather than creating i guess the process will start to go slow. i guess I am going to have to be one of the few that is going to make a difference.