what is wrong with people today...

Car in the snow - Automobile stuck in the snow and people do not help.
United States
December 21, 2010 2:06pm CST
This early morning I went to my car, to get some things I left there last night. I see this small car struggling to get out of the parking spot as it was stuck in the snow. As I walked to my car a few feet away, I could not help but notice people, MEN, no loss just walk away. So I went over and tried as hard as I could to help, and saw a baby sitting in the car seat. So after several attempts I ran back into the house and woke up my boyfriend to come out and help this stranger lady out. He did not hesitate and came out, so together he and I helped the lady. My question is what is wrong with people today?? How come no one stopped to help?? It could be your mother, wife, girlfriend and or daughter one day.. Hello...
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60 responses
• United States
21 Dec 10
Those happened to be jerks that walked by. You went and got the only real man in the area. I hate to know about stuff like this going on. The child could have needed to eat adn be changed. I already know you could not just leave them there. Your blessed being you.
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• United States
21 Dec 10
You put a smile on my face as I read your post as truly it was sad to see the baby inside the car and so many uncaring people. Ugh.. what can we do, but as good people we simply try to do the best that we can, as it did not cost us anything. On another note it got me breakfast out with my boyfriend as afterward he said lets go eat. LOL.
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• United States
21 Dec 10
You deserved that and more. The woman is thanking you all now to her friends and family. trust and believe.
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• United States
21 Dec 10
You are such a sweetie and I hope she pays it forward, as so many times many need help and no one bothers.
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@peavey (16980)
• United States
21 Dec 10
I wonder if people are so afraid of each other any more that they won't get involved in even the simplest things? We are a paranoid people and the news we hear and see every day only makes it worse. Neighborliness has turned into isolation as we all sit and live virtually through our computers and TVs.
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• United States
21 Dec 10
Yeah that is a thought, however there were two men walking together and could see me pushing the car, and no one even took a second to ask if we needed help. Wow, amazed me.
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@GardenGerty (136416)
• United States
21 Dec 10
I know we have heard for many years about people faking car trouble in order to hijack or rob others. I do not know if that is what goes through people's minds, or if they are just thinking "let them call AAA". It has become a real assumption that EVERYONE has a cell phone, or EVERYONE has a towing service. Not everyone has either or both. Not everyone has a friend they can call on either. I had friends/acquaintances drive sixty miles on the third of July one time to rescue me. Since I have had help when I needed it, how could I possibly refuse to help others.
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• United States
21 Dec 10
GG as always you are a sweetie.. I know exactly what you mean. As last winter we were all snowed in, so I was unable to go to work. But in the evening a girl friend called me she was stranded near the expressway. She did not have AAA, so I did the best I could and made it there to pick her up. I figured God and the angels above would guide and assist me as I was headed to help her.
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@thesids (22205)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 Dec 10
Hi Hardworking, I am happy that people like you exist and for real. . As you say it was a morning hour thing and also there was snow I feel that many just didnt notice this. Even if some one did, maybe s/he thought it was just their imagination and moved on (it is festive time across the world and I can think some would behave this way after the late night parties). In India, or better at my place, things like these are rare and many avoid getting involved just to save themselves of harassment from the other people. But your action is really worth appreciation and I wish many others follow Regards, theSids.
• United States
21 Dec 10
True, but this poor lady was in and out of her car, and from the sounds of the back and forth movement of her car, no one even bothered to ask. They looked her way, but acted as if this would have been an inconvenienced. Geeze I hope their female loved ones do not go through this really. As if she could not have gotten that car out from the snow, she would have had to take the baby and walk. She was dressed in a professional attire so it appeared she was heading to work. Our world today is getting colder then the weather it seems.
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@peavey (16980)
• United States
21 Dec 10
Can't help but hope just a little that the ones who didn't help find themselves in a similar situation. Not a nice attitude, I know...
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• United States
21 Dec 10
@peavey, I so agree, that sometimes people only learn only and if after experience, what a shame though.
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@terryt52 (245)
• United States
21 Dec 10
Yeah I wonder why no one stopped to help. first I love reading your post and God Bless you and your boyfriend for helping the lady. I do not get it I would help any one that needed help. I open doors for people always smile and say Good Morning etc. I bring my children up to do the same and expect it of them. However people are very rude nowadays and I do not get it.
• United States
21 Dec 10
Someone above mentioned "Society" and well this is one of the problems today. That so many follow all the paths of "Society" and forget that humanity must always comes first. Thank you so much for our blessing, I so wish you a very Merry and Blessed Christmas with your children.
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@peedielyn (1210)
• United States
21 Dec 10
Some, not all, people are just raised to not care at all. We weren't raised like that when I was a kid. You did what you could to help out and you were rewarded for the job, by doing the job. I am sorry you had to witness that. I have seen all kinds of things by that way. Especially now, this time of year, a few people out there are all about themselves. It's not right but it happens. You did a good deed by helping the best you can, and never mind the men that walked away. They are sure to pay for it later, when they are in trouble and no one will help them. THings like that come full circle.
• United States
21 Dec 10
It is unfortunate that at times people only learn after recalling. It would not have been so tough if two guys would have helped actually. But yes some day they may or may not look back but karma indeed has a tendency to creep.
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@yoniarnon (1081)
• Israel
21 Dec 10
I agree with thesids. And about helping, i don't say i don't help but i just try to answer your Q about: "what is wrong with people today??" I can think about 2 things: 1) "Live and let Die" some people believe in this way, that there is a destany and you shouldenet get envolve, like if you help to some one escape and than you see at the news that he rob a bank.. 2) Mostly in U.S.A they can soawen you on any thing, i heard a story about a Jeep that got stuck in the mod, another Jeep try to help him and got him out of the mod, but he break the stoked jeep Bumper. The guy that was stok on the mod suit the helping jeep cause he broke his Bumper...
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• United States
21 Dec 10
I certainly can respect that some one to protect themselves from perhaps some fictitious situation. Maybe I am so old school where as I see a woman/baby and feel compelled to at least ask if I can help and or loan them my cell phone to call for help. On the flip side if I had heard later that perhaps the woman and baby were injured as the roads were so horrid, then I do not think I could live with my self had I not at least offered to help. So it sure can go both ways.
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• Netherlands
22 Dec 10
I think you did a great job trying to help the lady. I honestly don't understand why all the other people weren't trying to help in any way. People are just lazy these days, and think of theirselves and no-one else anymore. It used to be better.
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• United States
22 Dec 10
I was so upset to see others passing by looking at me trying to push the car and not help. I was so glad my boyfriend and I could her get safely out. My boyfriend and I talked about it after and he said people today are completely consumed with themselves that they do not take a second to contribute, let alone worry about others. Thanks for stopping by have a wonderful holiday.
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• Netherlands
22 Dec 10
Yeah, I understand, I'd get upset over that. You & your boyfriend did a good thing really (: maybe it's just something small but it shows you have a good heart and you care about other people. People are too self-obsesseb these days, I really can't understand it. Same to you!
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• Italy
26 Oct 11
yes, you're really right, it can happen to everybody also to a relative or a close friend. But we (people) think to ourself than to other people so we're very selfish and no care about people near us..
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• United States
26 Oct 11
Hello strawberry and thanks for responding. Yes there are times we must be careful as sometimes it can be a plot testing our vulnerability. So we do have to judge each case by case, but my thought really is that even saying from a far, not to worry that they wold call for help would have been help in itself. Even seeing me, trying to push the car alone at first did not move the people one bit. I was just glad that it happen to be a day when my boyfriend was at home and he immediately came out to help as well. That could have been me and my child and it was really cold.
@megamatt (14314)
• United States
30 Dec 10
I have asked myself this same question for a number of reasons. A lot of them like the example you just said. The thing is that there are just way too many people that are just out for themselves and not going to help other people, even if they were trouble. I remember one time where I saw an old lady fall down in the grocery store parking lot. I was on the other end, with several people who were closer than me but I walked over to help, while other people just walked by, despite the fact that there was an old lady down, who could have been hurt and could have been rolled over by a car. Some people these days, I tell you. It does frustrate you sometimes. Still it does give me some hope to see that there are still a few decent people in this world.
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• United States
30 Dec 10
Wow that is awful that a little old lady is on the ground and no one thinks to help in anyway. People today do not even ask if someone needs help. Shame as simply asking if they can help is free. My faith that there are good strengthens daily, each time I hear of people going out their way to help others. We are not so unhuman that a simple hand can't be helped. I just wonder how the ones who do not help feel when their loved ones need assistance and no one helps them. It is a great sense of accomplishment to be able to see a person be grateful to a certain extent. I think about it being me or someone I loved being stranded with no help from others.
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@mythociate (19283)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
30 Dec 10
I'm pretty sure mythriddler is right about this, and my answer would be exactly what he/she/it/they/we/I said there. lol
• United States
30 Dec 10
OMG is this myth.. my buddie and pal oh no yo left the other acct, and signed up again. Now I am honored to see you are back and replying to my post. I want to welcome you to myLot as it is my usual gretting and hoping you a successful membership. LOL I am laughing so unbelievably hard you have no idea how honored I feel
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22 Dec 10
I agree fully with you. In this weather there are many people that do get stuck, especially with the fact that there was a baby in the car, how heartless are these people to just stand there and do nothing? Surely they could have gone over and helped get them moving again, especially as they were stuck and it is so cold. Some people can be so nasty. There have been a few cars here that have been stuck and i have helped them out,it is just a natural reaction, we don't want to see people stuck or having to abandon their cars as they can't get home. This was very decent of you and your boyfriend also, as you say it could be someone close to us, maybe if it was someone that the men knew then they may have helped them out then. What has happened to their christmas spirit in helping others out?
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• United States
22 Dec 10
Especially because it is Christmas you have to wonder, but unfortunately holiday or no holiday people are simply non-caring. It would have been much faster the more who had helped and the feeling of satisfaction of helping others would have lingered on the entire day. Some day perhaps they will recall all the times they did not lend a hand and perhaps that will get them to think at time when they sure need the help themselves.
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@derek_a (10891)
22 Dec 10
I have noticed this too, and it is a sign of the times that people will often just ignore people who are in trouble. I always try to help if I can if I see people with problems. It has always been my nature to do so I guess. I don't see myself as being particularly good in any way, as I know many people I have grown up with that will always help out when they can. I have also noticed myself that people have helped me, so that are people around who will help and that tends to renew my faith in the world. I remember I got my car stuck on a very foggy night on a grassy verge - there were no markings on the road as I drove along and I couldn't see where the road ended and the grass verge began. The wheels just spun and sank into the mud. Then I heard a vehicle coming along and the guy stopped. He was a local farmer and he had some ropes in his car. He took the time to hitch up to my car and pulled me out of the mud. He didn't have to do that, but he chose to take the time. I wanted to give him some money at least for using his time and fuel, but he would not hear of it. He just unhitched the cars and drove off telling to me take care on these roads because of the thick fog and lack of markings. People like this make the world a much better place, and I believe if I can do things like this, I will make a contribution to happiness also. Every cloud has a silver lining - if you know what I mean. _Derek
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• United States
22 Dec 10
I do know what you mean, as if the world today, just one at a time; continued to contribute where help is need, this world would absolutely be a friendly place. However it seems people only worry about one self, unfortunately people do not even think about perhaps their loved ones some day.
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@moyo175 (48)
• Canada
21 Dec 10
that would be kinda akward and your right what is up with the people today
• United States
21 Dec 10
Yes that was my first thought at lest stop and ask if all is okay, even if you can't help. Geez..
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@GardenGerty (136416)
• United States
21 Dec 10
I have always been fortunate to get help when I have needed it, and I try to always make sure that others get help when they need it. It is pretty unusual actually to see people not helping around here.
• United States
21 Dec 10
In this big city it seems every man for themselves. It is unfortunate really as people could see my tiny self pushing that car with the woman sort of standing outside steering the wheel. Here it seems that people only care about themselves and pretty sad if one day they hear of a loved one not being helped.
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@aerous (13452)
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
I think people nowadays is more selfish due to greed thinking. I appreciate how kindness you are and your boyfriend. You are great and have a big heart and ready to help others...
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• United States
16 Oct 11
This is true my friend and although we must be careful with hijackers and such we still should be a bit on the caring side. I understand that at times people are scared that lending a hand might cause them danger but watching me come out and try to help this women alone, the least they could do is ask if we needed help. I just hope that they do not have a loved one, one day stranded and then hear that no one helped her. I often believe that if we help someone then that person will help somone to pay it forward. Makes for a happier world.
@aerous (13452)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
We don't understand the mind of the people today. I observe that more and more people being infected of doing evils than doing good... Good samaritan like is a few and hope you still continue doing such thing, friend. I know there's a time that God bless you in such a kind a you did...
• United States
20 Oct 11
Yes I am always happy to help where ever I can, as I know we live a life that we just won't know if that could be us who needs the help as well.
@louievill (28400)
• Philippines
22 Dec 10
It's so different in the Philippines cause we pride ourselves with the "Bayanihan Spirit", it's an ancient tradition of literally helping your neighbor carry his or her house in your shoulders if for some reason they need to move out (they were bamboo and nipa huts then), this spirit was more or less incorporated into our daily lives, so we macho men hehe ahem, still pride our selves to be the knight in shinning armor ready to help a damsel in distress
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• United States
22 Dec 10
That is nice that in Philippines many feel this way really, here in US so many are solely thinking of themselves.. Sadly but the world will continue this way, if not worst.
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• United States
23 Oct 11
It sure is and although I am hopeful that not everyone becomes un-helping. I continue to think that if I help one, that one helps another and maybe life could be a bit different. *hopeful* lol
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• India
19 Oct 11
Hi daughter I can feel what you are ventilating here in this discussion people are becoming so selfish day by day, more self centred, they forget that they may need help one day or other.. It is nice to hear, you helped her with your bf, god will reward you for this Thanks for sharing Best of luck. Professor
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• United States
20 Oct 11
Hello Papa! Yes people are amazing me more and more by the day. I am especially proud of anyone who is willing to help. A few kind words can go a very long way. There are times that I can get very disappointed with the actions of others and rely it in the hands in God. I am a firm believe that things happen for a reason and am always willing to learn through all experiences. Thank you for your kind response.
@jujunme (2514)
• United States
19 Jan 11
Why didn't they stop to help her? Because it just might have taken time out of their precious lives to help someone in need,because it wasn't a relative, friend or co-worker, because they don't care and it's not important enough to do so.All of these things are lame and heartless excuses, but, unfortunately, it's exactly the way some people are and the only way they realize how wrong it is to be this way, is when something happens to them and no one is there to help them.
• United States
19 Jan 11
They knew very well that the woman needed help and yet took no time to even ask if they could even help. They saw me struggling and instead of lending a hand they looked our way for a few seconds and then turned around on their way. I do hope someday they do not have a family member in need of help and get any any, as I although I would not wish that onto others it certainly is something that we should remember.
@Nadinest1 (2021)
• Canada
30 Dec 10
..because people are not brought up the way we were. We were taught(and we are teaching our children) to help our neighbors and friends....no questions asked. It's a crazy world we live in today. Would rather stand and watch then help someone.
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• United States
30 Dec 10
Is that something as I have seen on many videos of people being beat up and or abused in really bad ways and the crowds from watching and no one gives in to help. My thinking of course if there is any form of danger the least they can do is call the police. I agree with you that the world is crazy but imagine what it is going to be like several years from. Kinda scary. Happy New years to you and all yours. Thanks so much for stopping by.
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@MsTickle (25214)
• Australia
28 Dec 10
Fear drives people to ignore those sort of situations; fear and distrust. They worry that they will be scammed somehow, that they are walking into a trap. Or they worry about getting too involved and getting caught up in the person's misfortune. Happily, there are people like you who just walk in and take over. Sadly, there are not too many like you. Good on you sweety.
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• United States
28 Dec 10
Absolutely there are times, and I have heard some instances where as people fake needing the help. It was quite logical, that the woman needed help as the car was dug deeply into the snow. I am glad I help and hind sight would do so again, I am perhaps a very too trusting of a person, but I always figure that no good deed goes unpunished.
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