What do you your children to become...?
By chayapathys
@chayapathys (2111)
India
December 22, 2010 7:24pm CST
When we beget children and as they grow... parents wish that their children should not only be happy after they become adults but also become something special.Some do not get such ideas.But now a days parents are particular that their children should make a mark in their lives and towarda that goal they prepare their children by providing right atmosphere and traing for them .Movie actors want their children to become great heros and heroines, professionals want their children to make a mark in their profession and politicians want their children to become politicians and occupy positions of power and so on.As for me I wanted my children to be educated and enlightened members of the society.To some extent I was successfu.What do you want your children to become when they grow to be adults...?
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10 responses
@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
23 Dec 10
Well what I want my children to become!!! Hmmmn let them become what they wish to. Yes, this is my philosophy like the one my father had for himself.
My parents never pressurized upon me that I have to become so and so like people. They said do what interests you and you will see where you are after you have traveled all the way.
I have a son and he would be nine next March 13 and he says he would be a scientist and all. I am telling him to do the best whatsoever you take over.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Dec 10
You are very ideal parent.Let children decide what they want to be.Why should the parents choose.If parents choose the line and insist on children to take profession or anything of their choice and they may have to regret later if children fail in the chosen field.I have seen few diappointed parents as they chose the line for their children..
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
23 Dec 10
I, of course, want my children to be healthy first and happy as well. Secondly, I want them to be whatever they want to be. If Christian wants to be an author, than I wish him much success. If Amanda wants to interpret languages for some government agency, then I hope that is what she gets to do. If Chelsea is Happy with photography or being a film director than that's what I want for her. If Ashley and Christopher decide they want to be nurses, then I will say "go for it!" I want all of my kids to be happy doing what they love the most. I want them to be able to go to work and feel like they haven't worked all day. That is true happiness in a job.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
23 Dec 10
So you want your children to be happy and allow them freedom in choosing their career.It is good.Therefore you do not want to impose your views on them.But some parents insist that her or his son should become a doctor but the son or daughter has no interest in medical field.Thus there is clash of interest and ultimately the outcome will not be good...
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
23 Dec 10
i don't have any children yet at the moment... but when i do have one in the future, my wish is very simple... i want my children to have fear of God and obey Him in their whole lives... i will surrender their lives to Him and let Him guide them to be the person that He wanted them to become... He is the Creator and He is our Heavenly Father... therefore, i believe whole-heartedly that He knows what is best for His children... take care and have a nice day...
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Dec 10
Your wish for your children is excellent.You appeat to be very religious and noble.As you rightly say let us leave every in God's hands.He is our creator and He knows what is good for us.He may be prepared to shower many favors but why whould we limit His grace by deciding ourselves.We all pray that you beget children soon who will fulfill you desires.May God bless you...
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
31 Dec 10
I actually don't have anything specific that I want for my children to become. I do know that I would like for both of them to be able to fulfill the goals that they set out for their own lives. As of right now my eight-year-old says that she wants to be a vet and that is what I want her to be able to achieve. My four-year-old says that he wants to be a doctor and if he continues to have that desire, then he has my full support as well.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
31 Dec 10
You have right attitude towards life and children.It is for children as to how they want to live and the profession they want to choose.But many parents unnecessarily interfere in their lives and insist on them in choosing a line of professsion they may not be interested.If the children do not do well then parents regret later for their interference...HAPPY NEW YEAR..
@commonground (367)
• United States
24 Dec 10
First I would want my daughter to lead a godly life, walking close to God. And that, I can see every day, she is doing.
I would want her to be happy and content with her life, whatever she chooses to do. I would hope that she serves God, her church and her community with a good heart. All of these things I can already see in her life.
I would want her to be a willing servant of the Lord, following His lead in her life. If she can do this then she will be happy and content.
Other than that I would want her to be healthy. Following this there is nothing more I could hope for. The rest will take care of itself, according to God's plan for her.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Dec 10
You are religious and noble and that is why you do not have high expections from your daughter.You want her to be noble like you.It is an excellent wish.Don't worry she will fulfill your desires.Why should parent interfere in every thing.It is enough if they guide them properly by leading a disciplined life by themselves.The parents should set an example to their children.So you are leaving everything to God who knows what is good for you and your daughter..
@gordonng04 (7)
• Hong Kong
23 Dec 10
First of all, of course, different people have different aspirations, I think that you can let your children choose their own ways. But most important thing is that their jobs should be legit. Otherwise, the result will be grave though they get a lot of benefits illegally.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Dec 10
What you say is correct.Let children choose their fields and why should parents insist on any particular field.I have seen some parents in their anxiety to do good insist on their children to choose a particular profession in which children are not interested.Ultimately neither the parents nor the children are happy because chidren fail to come up to the expected level.
@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 10
I'm sure that all parents wish the best thing for their children.In my principle, the best people is who the useful for other. So, I hope, my son can achieve his dream and as parents, my husband and I just plant our principle in his self so who the way he is, hope he useful in goodness for other.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Dec 10
You have very good hope for your son.He should achieve his dream and at the same time you want him to be useful to the society.Excellent wish.What more can parents expect from their children.I pray that your wish comes true.May God bless you..
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
23 Dec 10
You know i am a professor i wanted one of my sons to be a professor, so he did his masters degree in chemisty, followed by PhD in industrial chemistry, next his MTech, worked as lecturer for 2 years, next joined an aluminium plant, switched to copper plant, now he is manager in a government of india research lab
Well i am happy all my kids are highly qualified, am proud of them..
Thank you so much for this discussion.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
Merry Christmas
HAPPY NEW YEAR
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
23 Dec 10
So you wanted your children to be highly qualified and you have successfully reached your goals. Congratulations.I can say you are one of the few parents who realise their dreams.I am very happy about it.Many parents aspire high and entertain high hopes about their children but fail for various reasons.We have to pity such parents.What else can we do...
@urlstring (62)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 10
my desire may sound ordinary, i want my kids someday be useful for both parents, useful for the community, state and nation. i try to instill positive values in my children
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
24 Dec 10
You are an ideal parent.What is the use of entertaining high hopes about children?If they raise to the level of your hope..well and good, if not you get disappointed.All hopes of a parent are in your wish in nutshell.If the children become useful members of the society what more a parent wants? I wish every parent has similar wish...
@cssiduyz (1053)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 10
yes, every parent would want the best for their children and want to see their children grow up properly. let alone the child can give a reply to the parent, it really can be happy parents and make parents shed tears. because her son could be a dutiful son to his parents.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
23 Dec 10
You say that every parent wants her or his child to be the best and in turn expect love and care from them.Even though the children make a mark in their field the parents still feel unhappy if children do not care for them.Sometimes children forget how much sacrifice the parents have made to bring them up and it is unfortunate..
