What do you think of people who don't respond

Canada
December 23, 2010 7:12am CST
How many of you have had the following experience: You send someone an email that obviously requires a response, such as perhaps you are asking the person a favor or asking a question. You wait and wait and no response. And it's not because they didn't get your email, or because they didn't check their email. It is because they were not comfortable responding. So they just ignored it. Now don't ask me how you can know they ignored it. Let's just say that maybe if you asked them about it, they just told you they chose not to answer- or maybe you mention to them that you sent them an email, and they say "Oh really?" and you can TELL by their tone and that look in their eye, that they are lying through their teeth. What do you think of this? Personally i think it's very rude not to respond to someone that you have any relationship with. Okay, of course, nobody has to respond to spam. But if you have a friend or even acquaintance, what kind of business is it to just ignore the person?? If you can't do someone a favor, or you'd rather not discuss the subject they bring up, i think you should just tell them that nicely. So what's your opinion? And do you ever intentionally not respond to emails?
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12 responses
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
23 Dec 10
I personally think this as very rude and i have seen such persons doing this and stating that they are busy..They will give an answer " I been busy amigo" will get back to you soon... This happens not only in email or web , this happens in mobile phones too... When somebody calls, they just use the silent mode in their mobile not disconnecting the phone and not answering it... This is also very rude, the other person who called might be in need to talk to you... Infact this is a very bad habit
• Canada
23 Dec 10
yes, i wonder why there are people who think this kind of behavior is okay. Saying "been busy Amigo will get back to you soon' is better than just ignoring, even if they never get around to getting back. Okay, it's not great, but at least they acknowledged your email.
• Canada
23 Dec 10
The behavior is ok, because communicating by email is very time consuming compared to some other way, like on the phone. If I decide that I have a lot of questions for someone and can't be bothered to phone them, but instead send a bunch of emails that will take that person a while to respond to, then it isn't fair to that person. What if they are busy at work, or with their family. Lets say you spend 10 minutes responding to an email. You can communicate the same amount of information on the phone, and in a more personal way, in about 1 minutes. Speaking is way more efficient that typing. If someone is getting many email (which tends to happen these days), they may simply not have the time for such an inefficient mode of communication. Just because you decided to send an email doesn't mean you deserve a response. If it's that important, then show them it's important by calling them or seeing them in person. Talk to each other! It builds more meaningful connections.
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
Its rude. They should have answered me even if they do not like it. Tell it to me honestly, do not just ignore me as I do not know what your "not replying means" it could mean a lot of things and I do not want to assume as it might not be the one they want to imply. I would rather have an answer even if they will disagree with me. Just answer. Its the right thing to do.
• Canada
26 Dec 10
yeah, that's one of the annoying things-you just don't know why they didn't respond.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
24 Dec 10
Emails are such a 'gray zone'. I wouldn't ask someone a serious favor through an email, first of all. If it was that important to me, I would call them or ask them in their face.
• Canada
26 Dec 10
Sounds like a good policy, what with people ignoring emails...
• United States
24 Dec 10
I do not find it rude at all. If someone does not want to respond to and e-mail it's their choice and their business. I can see maybe if the e-mail was important then I would get upset.. but if it wasn't I see no problem with not responding.
• Canada
26 Dec 10
Yeah, okay if it's not important. You don't have to respond to en email that says something like 'took the kids to the zoo today-had a good time'- i mean i guess you don't have to respond if all you can think to say is 'that's nice.' But any email that is asking for a response-such as an email that is asking you a question-or asking you for feedback-those kinds of emails, i think it's very rude not to respond.
• Netherlands
23 Dec 10
The internet makes it too easy for people to just walk away from things. If you'd ask them something in real life, they would have to answer or else it would look weird. Therefore I think some questions which you really want an honest answer on, shouldn't at all be asked by e-amil. Just save your question for the next time you see the person in real life, so you can ask them then, and they'll have to give an honest answer.
• Canada
26 Dec 10
ha ha-i just said something similar in my comment above :)
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
i guess it would depend on who sent the email. If it was just a random email, then i probably wont open it if it was someone i dnt know. You really have to be careful these days especially on the viruses coming in from emails. There are also trash emails masquerading as legitimate emails w/c i have a lot of. Thats why sometimes i feel tired if a open my email and see emails that i don't recognize.
• Canada
26 Dec 10
Well i'm not talking about emails that you don't recognize. I'm talking about emails from family and friends. Seems there are people who ignore emails from family and friends as well.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
24 Dec 10
i think it is plain rude to do that... especially to the people that you know... even though you are busy or you don't want to discuss about the topic, you can just tell the person honestly rather than just ignoring him/her... i think it is more polite like that and that is an adult behaviour... take care and have a nice day...
@Celanith (2327)
• United States
23 Dec 10
The ones that bug me most is when I have posted an item to sell like on Craigslist or something and they ask me questions which usually means they did not even read the description. I might not be home and so when I get home and see their email I respond. Then hear nothing further from them. Like they ask do you still have this item and if so when can I come get it or give me an address. I do this and hear nothing further. I mean if you asked me and i tell you the least you can do is let me know you got my response and let me know if you want the item asap because I might have 2-3 others asking. I usually send a second email and if still no response after a few hours I go to the next person in line. One person got mad cause she never answered for a week. But she said she just put it off and ignored the email back. She was mad cause I sold it to another person. Well excuse me but she chose to ignore me when she asked me about it in the first place. So ignoring emails is stupid most the time. There usually is not reason other than selfishness or laziness. On the other hand people have mad when I never emailed back. For example I went to town and stopped by to visit and they ask if I read the email. Uh no I was not home to read it. I was in town and then came to visit why are you mad? I can't read something if I am not home to get it. Oh btw I don't have the new fangled phones with those gadget things and never want one. Just want a phone to make calls and get calls no voice mail or other junk to clutter my life and no texting I can't even see to do that. To old for those contratptions
@josga2008 (320)
• Canada
23 Dec 10
You feelings about this tell me that you see emails as being in the same category of interacting with a person as face to face talking. It seem to be how many people these days view emails. If you asked a someone you know a question that you feel is important enough to require a response, then maybe you should contact that person and talk on the phone or face to face. Communicating by email is not very personal, and just because you decided to spend you time to type out in text for 10 minutes what would have taken only 1 minute to do by phone, then it isn't fair to automatically expect that other person to spend time as well. The most high tech., efficient and more personal way we have to communicate, other than face to face, is by phone. You actually hear their voice, communicate more intimately. If what you asked your friend is so important, then communicate more meaningfully with them to let them know you care. If all you do is send an email, then why should they think you put a lot of importance on it. Talk to each other. That builds bonds more than sending text in isolation.
• Canada
26 Dec 10
I don't know that just because someone chooses to say something over email that it's less important than on the phone. And no, the person does not have to respond with email-the person can respond over the phone if that would be easier. The point is, when you have a relationship with someone, you don't just ignore the person. I've noticed that the internet in general brings out the worst in people. Especially in places where people can post messages behind a screen name and be anonymous-they say things they'd never say in a place where everyone could see who they are. If someone were speaking to us in person, most of us would never just turn our face away and not respond. But somehow this is okay in email-so many people seem to think.
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
well you can never know what is running to other people's head!! i agree with you that its really annoying being on that situation but sometimes people has their own reasons and sometimes you have no choice but accept it!! but then again it really sucks but that's human nature!!=)) merry Christmas=))
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
hi, i think they are not only interested to that topic, or they cant relate their self on the topic. i think also it's very rude not to respond to someone even its your friend or what ever.
@greet123 (44)
24 Dec 10
Of course it is a bit rude if an email is not replied to, but I personally would not take it very seriously and let it bother me much, I would try to call up the person in case the message is very important otherwise I would just ignore the whole thing but make sure I would not email the person again untill I get a reply to the previous one.