What is happiness for you?

@dpk262006 (58673)
Delhi, India
January 21, 2011 1:04am CST
Hi friends! What makes us happy after all? Some people may feel happy when they are among their family members, some people feels happy when they get lots of money and can spend it in their own way, some of us feel happy with they are with their friends, however, if one is not happy from inside, all other happiness fades away, I feel. Do you feel that happiness lies in ourselves, we feel 'happy' only, when we are happy from deep inside us? (and this happiness of ours could be due to any reason). If we feel happy inside us, we feel a kind of satisfaction within us and we start looking at other things from a brighter angle and if we are upset on any account, anything does not please us. What do you say?
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
21 Jan 11
Hi deepak,I too feel that happiness is within ourself. But it is also dependent on many other factors. We are social beings and we need to have certain ingredients like peace of mind which again is derived from a hassle free life, good relationships, lots of love from close ones, a little bit of financial security...it is foolish to say that we will be happy with nothing. Happiness , I feel is a temporary state of mind which may not last for ever so one has to make the most of those snatches of happiness.. all the best deepak
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
29 Jan 11
Hi Kiran! You are right that we cannot be happy when we do not have essential things in our life. In today's fast changing material world financial security and love of others is imperative to make us feel happy. Many thanks for sharing your wonderful views.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
26 Jan 11
Hi Deepak! I feel Happiness lies with in us and the way we see the things.. We ourself are responsible to keep ourself happy or sad and sometimes it depends n our near and dear ones too.. if we expect less then we will be more happy or else we will be disappointed most of the time.. I generally feel happy when my husband is free from his work and takes me out without any previous plans..
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
29 Jan 11
Expecting less or nothing from others will surely make us happy, I agree with you Chaitra. Your hubby giving you company could be one of the sources of happiness for you, sounds great. If he sees your comments, he would be happy to read it.
• United States
23 Jan 11
I used to think happiness wasn't meant for me .I used to cherish every moment I got to be happy like a thief cherishes his/her loot.But last year I gained self worth and these days my happiness is coming from within. I have my guy and some great friends like you so I'm happy.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
21 Jan 11
Hello Deepak, I agree happiness is a mental state and it can change according to the situations. I am a person who becomes happy on small things and can laugh loudly at the same time I may become moody if somebody used any bad words on me. I think that the words we used in day to day life is also plays an important role in making a person happy. Some words can spread more happiness into us. In times of ‘mood outs’ I can smile on listening good words and can share others happiness. I mean, I can be happy even when I am upset if I listen something good.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
24 Jan 11
Hi Sree! I do agree with you that external situation play an important part as far as our happiness is concerned. It is, therefore, I try my best to use positive words so that I could make others smile. I restrain myself from treating harsh words. Have a great day! Deepak
@allknowing (130109)
• India
21 Jan 11
Happiness lies in the ability to look for the brighter side of any situation. For some the glass is half empty and for some it is half full. Those who see the glass half full are the ones who will be perpetually happy and I belong to this category.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
24 Jan 11
It is pleasing to hear that you feel contended with half full glass and do not complain about its emptiness.
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• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Happiness is a state of mind. You can be happy anytime as long as you wanted to be happy. When I committed myself to the lord, my life after that was totally happy internally not just superficially. I am now happy to be able to serve and be of service to others in any way I can.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
22 Jan 11
So your commitment to Lord did help you, it sounds great!
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
A friend often accuses me that my happiness depends on having a man in my life, which is not real happiness at all. However, it's true for me. I have a job I love, good friends, my finances are okay, but when I was single I kept feeling sorry for myself, and so I was unhappy in spite of the good things in my life. Now, I'm with somebody and everything is ten times better for me. I guess happiness for me is the feeling of having someone love me. Sounds selfish, but true.
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
It makes me feel secured, safe, and that I am an okay person. When I was single (and the reason was I got dumped after a four-year relationship) I kept asking 'What's wrong with me?' I was told many times that I should feel happy within myself, and I tried. I tried to focus on the good things in my life, the things that make me happy. And I was okay. Then someone came along, and I was VERY okay.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
22 Jan 11
In other words, the man who came in your life doubled or say increased your happiness. It sounds interesting to hear that you focus on good things to remain happy. Keep smiling! Dpk PS - Your profile picture looks attractive.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
21 Jan 11
Hi Kat! Welcome to my post. You see your contention is not entirely wrong per se. If you find happiness in your lover/partner, there is nothing wrong in it. However, till you feel happy within yourself, the outwardly happiness cannot sustain. I believe you get a feeling of deep satisfaction because of that man in your life and it makes you feel secured and safe?
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Jan 11
Hullo Deepak! Happiness is a state of mind and has to come from within. As far as what happiness is for me , it is having good health,my loved ones happy, healthy and safe. I have adequate money, less expectations from life and can derive joy from my own work.I am thankful to GOd for making me the way I am and for His countless blessings. THis gratitude is happiness for me. Deriving joy out of my own work keeps me free from complaining about anything and this is happiness for me. I have a collection of my favourite books. Reading these, especially sneaking some time to read through when there are are mounds of pending work gives me a peculiar sort of guilty happiness As far as what you have written, I do agree that when we are upset, life tends to be a bit dull.If it is on some major issue then it gets really difficult.On the other hand if it is on soem minor nitty gritty then take heart from the fact that it shall soon pass.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
29 Jan 11
Hi Kala! Welcome to my mylot post after a long time. It is heartening to know that you can drive happiness internally and you feel contended with the blessings God has showered upon you. If you have succeeded in finding out the ways to keep you happy, you can face any kind of challenge in your life. Have a great day!
• India
21 Jan 11
happiness for me is when all my family member get together and have chit chat. I love sharing all my talks with family members. One cup of coffee and their smile works wonder to boost my confidence for life. I feel positive and fresh. In winters sitting under Sun and sharing the past moments is only thing i die for.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
24 Jan 11
Hi anjali! It means presence of family members makes you feel secure and happy and when you are alone, you may not feel happy. Sitting under the sunlight and getting nostalgic could be wonderful. Thanks for sharing. PS - How is your job going on?
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
hello dpk, Happiness for me is seeing people around me happy. Making my loved ones happy, and every one in my family is happy. Happiness is when you are contented with the kind of life that you have and not asking for more. Happiness is when you can manage to smile and hug your loved one even if you are facing problem,because you don't want them to feel worried if they see you sad. Happiness is when you are always ready to forgive and love your enemy. Have a great weekend
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
29 Jan 11
Hi Jai! It means you give importance to happiness of those who are closely connected with you. And you will see smile on their face and will do anything for them? It is correct that when our loved ones are happy and are smiling, we feel happy inside us. Thanks for sharing your views. Have a great evening! Deepak
@vandana7 (98190)
• India
22 Jan 11
It differs from time to time I guess. I feel happy with the knowledge that a friend remembered me. :) Then - I enjoy cleaning so everytime I look at the clean fan, I feel good. :) And then I feel happy that I can take it easy today. And that I can sing all those songs that men sing - today is that special day because my throat is so hoarse. In general - life is good, if we try to look for good in it. I have a blanket that I can use for covering, I have a bed I can sleep on. My maid doesn't have that. She has to slog - so comparisons are right in front of us if we want to look for them. :)
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
29 Jan 11
Hi Vandana! There are various things which could make you happy either it be your friend remembering you or you humming your favourite song. It is right that we need to feel contended we should look at those, who have less than us. Thanks for joining and sharing.
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Greetings! The secret to happiness is contentment. If we're contented with what we are, what we have, then, we feel happiness. Even though we're simple or facing a problem, we must look at the good side of the things we do. In that way, we'll feel happy especially in our daily life. Work, school and so many stressing things. All we have to do is to be understanding. Look at the bright side of things and be contented. In that way, you'll feel happiness that starts from within you. :)
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
28 Jan 11
You have said it rightly, contentment is very important. Those who do not remain contentended with their lives and achievements, would not feel happy.
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Happiness for me is when all the discrimination is over, racism, and all that nonsense. When everyone treats others with respect.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
21 Jan 11
Are you asking for too much and too unrealistic...........(please do not take it otherwise, I wish your wishes could come true!)
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
22 Jan 11
All the best!
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
I'm not gonna take it back. That's what I really want.
@maxen07 (882)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
When I was a little girl, I get excited when a classmate would hand over a slum book for me to fill-out. I would always write these in perfect order in the 3 wishes section:1)finish my studies;2)get a good paying job and;3)marry and have kids. I wasn't able to finish college so I worked instead as a production worker. I had a child out of wedlock and currently falling in and out of love like before. Happiness sometimes is not found in the things we want. There will always be other options that will be thrown our way while living our lives day-by-day. It's by learning to sort out those options that we realize that there is more to life than what you write in a slum book. We need to find peace and contentment within ourselves and for the lives of the people we love.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
24 Jan 11
You mean to say for you defination of happiness changed from time to time. If we find contentment in ourselves, it would be better than all the happiness, which is brought by external factors. Thanks for joining and sharing.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jan 11
Happiness for me is not only earning alot of money. I agree, you will feel happiness if it's come from inside you heart not only a temporary happiness like having alot of money. If we talk about inside happiness it deals alot of things, of course it includes having stable job, high salary or good earning source from any business and the most of all you are living with your family. The most important things is the family and friends. Even if you don't have money but you have a loving family and friends you will felt happiness.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
24 Jan 11
It is certainly a choice to be happy. I recently talked about this to my nine year old daughter in order to teach her about gratitude. I told her to make the choice to be content, that it starts from within and that practicing gratitude is a great place to start. I think a big part of it is focusing on all the good that we do have instead of what we don’t have.
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
I believe that happiness comes from within. A person should not based his/her happiness from other people or things. I agree with you that looking at the brighter side even at times when things seem dark makes the difference.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
22 Jan 11
Many thanks for agreeing with my views and am sure you look for your own happiness within yourself, whenever you feel like.
• China
25 Jan 11
I think that happiness consists in content.money is mere worldly possessions,keeping fit and feeling happy and gay are important.
• India
21 Jan 11
Yes happiness always comes from within. If your not happy for some reason or other, you will never enjoy what you are doing. Different people find happiness with different things. What i feel is satisfaction brings happiness. If you are not satisfied with anything you will never be happy. So be contended with what you have and you will always be happy!
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
21 Jan 11
Hello! Many thanks for kick starting the discussion. You are very right that our satisfaction is connected with our happiness and if we are dissatisfied, we cannot be happy. Thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
29 Jan 11
Being HAPPY is the key of all POSITIVE being.. if you are HAPPY Many Blessing and good idea, response and blessing will come. do you know the key of happiness mostly comes from MONEY... Agree??