I am wondering should I leave her,I am really afraid of hurting her

you will have to tell her the truth...even if u want to continue or u want to break this relationship...better to tell her clearly in good way ..so that she doesn't feel hurt also...and then later see her reaction...if she is willing to talk to you and continue friendship...she will accept the truth and if u she her going away...u also go away slowly...such things though bitter to accept...but its better to accept...

I think if you don't love her then the relation might work but it will be more like a relation of friends. You should give her a try and I am sure up to some point you both will get satisfied and then you will understand if there is a need to get separated. I remember a girl saying me the same and I was more or less confused like you, then one day I said that I loved her too. It was just a lie because she was asking me the question again and again. Then it all got normal, I don't call her and she don't call me, it is like that and I have another girl friend. The point here to be noted is this that she knew it that I already have another girl friend. May be she wanted this attention from me and when I give her she is satisfied. I am also satisfied, everything is normal now.

To be loved is the greatest thing in your life. Congratulation to you. ha! ha! ha! You should consider seriously. Maybe, you never appreciate of this love because of her initiative to express her love to you. You might regret and jealous once she leave you. I think most of people do agree that we don't love someone by words. We do love someone by our concern and our feeling. Maybe, she is joking with you too by telling everyone that you are her boyfriend. In my suggestion, both of you should sit together and discuss seriously.A Appreciate of what you have presently.

As a man, u have to take responsibility for whatever u say to her, and keep that promise. When it comes to love, there's not a joke on a woman's part because we are serious when it comes to it. There are certain limits that can't be crossed when we are joking as friends. If u really don't want to hurt her badly, tell her the truth now, and not later. It will be even worse if she starts to fall deeper for u and u would be hurting her even more.

hi, just tell to her the true feelings you have that you dont love her, and that message could she realize that she needs to stop loving you, you dont need to leave her but you must tell to her your real feelings on her.

Guy ,Perhaps It's not a quite sensible way to show up your affair in mylot hehe Maybe you could try to develop love with her It's the best way to work out the problem by the way she is looks very suitable for you haha... Okay joke is over now If I were you I would chosen to tell her the truth although It will unavoid to hurt her If you don't do it it'will be a more tricky problem there is a short old saying "You cannot sell the cow and sup the milk' Good luck

You never should have said yes if you didnt mean it. Even if you thought it was a joke. You should have asked her if she was joking, not say yes.

just tell her what exactly happen and hat exactly your feeling. it would be hard for her to accept it, but make sure that you still care for her just as a friend. you don't have to leave her if you don't want to loose her.

It's far too late to avoid hurting her. Further, she bought part of this on herself. You don't form a relationship this important, with a stupid text message over the phone. Here is what I would do: I would ask her to lunch. Go someplace where you can talk. If she asks if this is a date, tell her "no. We are meeting for lunch". LOOK HER IN THE EYES. This is very very important. Be a man, and make yourself direct and to the point. When you are sat down, and have drinks on the table, tell her you want to talk about the 'boyfriend text message'. Explain that you thought she was joking, that you were stupid (say that), and that you jokingly said 'yes'. Say that you love her *as a friend*, but you are not interested in something serious right now. LOOK HER IN THE EYES. This is exactly what I would do, if I were you right now. Next: Learn the lesson. You didn't know this before, and now you do. You... *NEVER* joke about relationship things with women. NEVER. Women get emotional about relationship things. They don't find that funny. You can joke about whatever else you want, but not this. It just doesn't work, and women take that very personally. Now understand. She might get upset, and she might cry. But realize, if you had 'played along' pretending to be her boyfriend when you had no intention to, the truth will come out, and then she'll be even more hurt, and worse, she'll know you toyed around with her. Don't do that. My way is better.

It's better to say goodbye and hurt her than stay and hurt her more when she learns there's no love at all. Tell her honestly how you feel about her, you're just being honest and may be your honesty will put some senses in her mind and let you go with out ill feelings!

i would tell her, but explain to her that you thought she was joking. explain to her as best you can that you love her as a friend only and dont want to lose the friendship.

I feel that you need to tell her that you I have something important to tell her and that you hope that you don't hurt her feelings because you care a lot for her and then tell her the truth from there. You don't want to wait to long to tell her. She will get hurt more telling her later then telling her now while it is new.

yeah, I think you should leave and not really care like don't worry

leave her and don't worry about it

I think you should be honest with her. The truth may hurt but a lie will hurt more, for both of you. Good luck and be a man!

Oops! That seems like an odd situation. I am sorry that you are going through it. The problem is that she will be extremely hurt if she comes to know that you do not wish to be her boyfriend. And I am sure that you too will feel bad to let her know it all. But you really have to let her know the truth. Just tell her that you do not think things will work out between the two of you because you see her like a sister. Also you have to let her know that proposing through a text is actually equivalent to a joke. That is why, you were caught off guard. Really, no one does that.

I don't think that stringing her along and pretending to be in a relationship with her is a good idea at all. She will only get hurt in the end anyway. The best thing to do is to be honest with her. If you cant tell her face to face, write it down in a letter explaining the situation as you have with us here. I am sure she will be upset if she is very sensitive anyway. Some people may think that writing a letter is not a good thing to do, but I am telling you, writing a letter you can get your feelings expressed exactly as you would like and you can tell her everything you want to without interruption or arguing. Tell her how you are sorry and you are not intentionally trying to hurt her etc, explain that you would like to be friends if that is still possible then leave the ball in her court, and let her make the next move.

This is a very tough situation to be in, and no matter what I think you will end up hurting her a little. I think it is best to tell her the truth. If you think of her as a little sister, you cannot think of her as a girlfriend, right? And if you just want to be friends, then you should not feel obligated to try and be her boyfriend. But obviously, she has loved you for awhile, if she told everyone that you said you would be her boyfriend. Likely she was working up to courage to ask you for awhile. So, I think it will be hard, but you should be totally honest with her. Tell her you do not love her in that same way she feels about you, but you value her friendship so much. She may need some time and space to get over her feelings for you. Perhaps, since she told everyone, you should think up a story together so she is not embarassed. Perhaps you could tell your mutual friends that you went on a few dates, but when it came time to kiss you both realized you think of each other as brother and sister, and not lovers! So you realized you should just stay friends. That way she will not have to be humiliated in front of everyone she proudly told that you were her boyfriend. I hope this works out for you, without being too hard.

It's not easy but I'm afraid you have to tell her the truth as soon as possible.She might get hurt and you may lose your best friend for this reason.But if you don't tell her and you can't be sure that you will fall in love with her one day,this embarrassing situation will keep on until she find the truth herself,I am sure she will be hurt much worse.

Cool.. Sit calm,Think well and take your own decision in this. If u think she is perfect for your life partner why can't u accept? True love and caring heart are like mothers care and love and we cant get outside.If u are getting those from her means why u want to tell goodbye? Think well and take your own time.