is my girlfriend cheating on me?

Philippines
February 25, 2011 3:35am CST
i have a girlfriend and we've been together for almost 2 years now. we seldom see each other twice a month and send text messages 5 times a day. lately i received a poem through an email from her with the topic of letting go. and she's been so cold lately i can't hear her saying i love you to me anymore and on her facebook account there is one particular guy of which she exchanged comments with so sweetly. do you think she's cheating on me and it's better to stop the relationship i have with her??
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21 responses
@dreamnishu (1249)
• China
25 Feb 11
Hello friend! i don't think so that your girlfriend cheating on you.this is not enough proof for indicate that she is doing cheating on you.if you have doubt then you can ask her and solved all problem as soon as possible.it is good for your relation.so do it and do not stop a relation with out any cause. thanks a lot.
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
thanx a lot appreciated it
25 Feb 11
Probably you are right that your girlfriend is cheating on you or maybe she's not, she was just amazed with this sweet guy. I suggest you to stay calm and relax, Do you still love her? If yes is the answer, What you need to do is to keep her fall in love with you, maybe both of you need to spice up your relationship. You can invite her for a romantic dinner, you can go for an out of town trip, or even an adventurous out of town activities like mountain climbing. Maybe she was just overwhelmed by the new guy's attention. If my suggestions above doesn't work, then now is the time to ask her if she's still in love with you.
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
i'll take it wenni thanx
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
I have to agree with the previous comments. You have to talk to her and clear things out. Long distance relationship don't always work. I mean 95% of it. See, even married couples experience infidelity with husbands or wives working from a distance. Perhaps it is time to prepare yourself for the worse.
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
i bet i should there was a history of her linked to an australian after we dcided to cool off for a moment and it was confirmed by someone close to her. i'm just afraid to confront her.
@Jotomy (6334)
• India
28 Feb 11
Hi wallygator, i think you are feeling jealous, she may be having friends on face book and she might wrote on his wall but not that she may be loving that person, she may be having affection or like on that friend, you may be misunderstanding her. Try to talk to her and know about her fully, don't take harsh decisions with knowing fully. I have a friend online we will chat over cell and online too exchanges messages, he has many girl friends for that i can't blame him, friends are friends thats all. He will share everything with me and i will share with him everything though we never saw each other nor we know personally each other. I can say it is real friendship or true friendship. You don't misunderstand her talk to her. Have a wonderful days ahead. God bless you.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
As long as you do not have a proof that she's cheating on you, please do not judge her so easily. Maybe she's trying to send a message across through her poem. The only way to know is to talk to her and tell her that you need to know what is going on. This may fix things.
• India
26 Feb 11
May be there is a chance for something like that to happen. I think she is thinking of leaving you, at the same time she doesn't want to hurt you. so you must show her how much you love her, and not let her go. Otherwise if you don't like her doing stuff like this, you should act fast dump her before she does. This is wat i will do. But remember , this is not about me, it is about you. Two years is a long commitment so it is better you put a huge thinking over this.
@chiyosan (30207)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
you cannot say really, since you are not seeing each other often.. she may be looking for an attention from someone else who has time for her more.. i think the best you can do is ask her and clarify about this.. would you give up that easily? will you just let her go and be taken away from you?
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
A long distance relationship seldom works. I don't really know if you are in one but couples who only see their partner rarely is bound to fail if the foundation of the relationship is week. You said you have been with her for almost 2 years so you should be able to decode her actions. If there is doubt in a relationship, more often than not, there is something there. It's best to talk to her. Ask her if she still loves you and make it a point that it will be unfair to both of you if you will stay in a relationship that has no substance. Good luck.
@madteaparty (2757)
• Japan
26 Feb 11
Well, the poem thing seems a little silly, to tell you the truth. I can't really tell if your girlfriend is cheating on you or not, but maybe you should ask her straight. There's a 99% of possibilities that if she's doing so she will say "no", but you can still have that 1% possibility
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
Hello wallygator22, Their are so many reason why our g/f find a another guy who is make them happy maybe the problem is you we don't know what is the situation between of you maybe she are not happy together with you and she realize that she never be happy with you so she trying to find another guy that she think should gave her a happiness. My advice to you is talk to her first and ask her if she is happy to you're relationship and if she say no accept it I know it's difficult to accept that but the most important is set you're self and be prepare to move on and gave her a time. And if she say yes ask her what is in you're mind to clear you're thoughts. Good luck and God Bless..
• Norway
26 Feb 11
You dont really have to be in a rush to stop it if you really love her just give it some more time and see what happends
@celticeagle (124657)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Feb 11
Have you ask her? It doesn't sound like you have much of a relationship going on. Think how hard it would be if you were seeing her everyday and being with her. SHe could very well be cheating and you need to speak to her and perhaps end it now before you are hurt worse than you seem to be now.
• United States
26 Feb 11
I also think that you should talk to her. If there's a problem you guys need to work out, you guys NEED to work it out. And that other guy might be a really close friend. But when you talk to her, don't accuse her of cheating on you. That might make things worse. Pay more attention to her, and make sure you're the guy she fell for. Don't just change because you guys are going out. I personally hate that in guys.
@cream97 (29146)
• United States
26 Feb 11
Hi. wallygator22. You should talk to her and tell her how you are feeling. I think that it is very strange that she is acting so cold towards you. She should be honest with you when you ask her too. You are not stupid, you know that something is not right between the two of you. If there is something going on that is making her unfaithful or soon to be unfaithful, she should tell you. There is no use in her holding onto you when she may be interested into someone else.
• Romania
25 Feb 11
Comunication is best ! Talk with her and confess your thoughts.If she love you, there should no be a problem.Good luck man
@nj_1022 (251)
25 Feb 11
Talk to your girlfriend about this. It is better to be open than hurting each other more. Your girlfriend might be having affair with others who knows, you only see once or twice a month
@piya84 (2586)
• India
25 Feb 11
There are n number of possibilities.She may not cheating but may have fallen out of love with you.
@tiina05 (2318)
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
hello, Well, I don't really like to say that your girlfriend is really cheating on you I don't really want to judge her. but what you see and what you feel is honestly true. I have boyfriend and we also been together almost 2 years and we still the same and nothing change at all. We never been so cold to each other and I am so afraid for you. But before you make a decision try to ask her first before any moves because maybe you are just mistaken. good luck
• China
25 Feb 11
It doesn't proof that your girl friend try to cheat with you. The guys whom you mention that could be her friend only. Batter you ask her what's going on. Make one relation is hard and take long time but break any relation need short time and which is easy. I think you should trust your girlfriend.
@swissheart (6481)
• Romania
25 Feb 11
why don't you try to talk to her. it's better like this. and it's better that you know the truth in stead of making yourself ilussions over this relationship :) good luck