How do you End the Arguments on the Discussions?

Hello Sids! Honestly,I know how to end arguments with my family especially with my hubby but arguments here in mylot maybe somewhat hard for me to end in a nice way. Usually,it demotivates me from replying if I could sense somewhat not nice to her/his reply. And yes,this leads to no reply at all. Oh my,so I am guilty of it,lol! Now I realized my mistake. It happened to me Sids when I was just 3-4weeks old of being a member here,lol! I happen to reply to her discussion and she replied as if she's angry about what I said! Well,to make it short,I didn't reply at all 'cause I was thinking I'm still a newbie here and I'm not in a position to argue with a senior. I guess,as to your question,I might as well say thank you to his/her for pointing out his/her opinions and I will just say I respect it. See yah my dear friend!

Hello thesids, It could sometimes be hard to end the argument. There is a way to disagree with someone and one has to be polite in doing so. What matters is that the person who disagrees also respects the one who has started the discussion, and not simply pounce on him/her telling they are wrong. Well, unless the discussion was really awkward or obscene. Like sometimes we witness in the relationship or politics interest. The worst thing about arguing is that the person who does it with you just doesn't respond anymore, it is kinda rude to do that. Now, if i argue with someone i am always going to keep checking what others have to say, and when i feel like this is going way too hard then i would try to end it right there. There is no point in arguing when the other person has no respect for your opinion. I guess it's right to ignore people who are unreasonable. A friendly argument is going be enjoyable too.

I prefer to stay away from the arguments because I am person who gets easily hurt.

I like when a responder does not share the same opinion, but many responders are not commenting back at myLot. I have no particular technique. If it is very long and we have really opposite views, I think I would finish by summing up both opinions and say "I wish to speak again with you about this in a future discussion".

If the responder gets confrontational , as if you have said the gravest opinion, i just don't mind it anymore. I don't want to argue with anyone, because we are not here to win but to enjoy and earn.

At times I don't end it. I just leave it for future mylotters who are interested in responding. I also don't choose the best response at once and still waits if there are better reponses to come. :)

I try not to get into arguments but if I did and this would happen I would just say you have your Opinion and I have mine and end it that way

I think that would depend very much on the argument. If it were something that I had said that had been misunderstood I will feel obliged to try and put that right but explaining myself, over and over again if necessary. But if it was two differences of opinion then I would see how the discussion progressed. If it is an argument with sensible points from both side I would continue because sometimes it is interesting to share different opinions and argue back and forth. But if it started to get personal then I would just stop taking part. I'm not here to be personal or unpleasant. I find that people sometimes lose their normal rules of behaviour on the internet, maybe because they have an anonymous screen to hide behind, and things can deteriorate very fast.

Hi sweetie. Having fun without me again? Well, let me see here. I always win the first round. I don't go for seconds. Time consuming and irritating.

Usually when i responded to discussion which is quite sensitive and serious discussion, i will mention this is only my personal opinion. It's true that everyone have their own personal view and we don't have the right to force people to agree us. So, i will said "This is my only my personal opinion and i didn't meant you are wrong."

Well i wouldn't start any arguments over here if you ask me. I would just see the comments i posted and then the replies which they give and if i feel that it's worth replying then i would reply else i wouldn't reply back at all. That's how i would do it. Arguments for me are more vocal than typing. I can't just sit and fight on mylot all day if you ask me. I admire your patience a lot though! Cheers!

I find it so difficult to end an argument and i just tend to ignore it to avoid intensifying the argument. As much as possible i don't like to argue especially when some people are getting too personal. They tend to attack the person and not what has been discussed and worse, they tend to give negative ratings like what someone did to me in here. So i just try to stay away from any arguments as much as possible unless they are constructive ones.

I just don't respond again. I don't really have arguments here on mylot and I actually never had one. I don't really know what your talking about but anyway I think your talking about when people leave and don't come back, if they do taht just don't bother. It's not worth it.

Hi Sid, How are you doing? I read somewhere, "Discussion is an exchange of knowledge; an argument, an exchange of ignorance." Long time back when northern people were speaking bad words for southern people during the Civil War, Abraham Lincoln replied, "Don't criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances." So, I think each and everyone has a different personality and therefore a different point of view. We should respect their beliefs and views. Another important thing is perspective -- the point of view. Yes it is true that we can never know for sure what things look like from other people's point of view. They have entirely different experience of life and thus their views can be entirely different. People hold their views with as much self-righteousness as we hold ours. Furthermore, they think that they are right just as we think that we are, or at least they feel in a way that justifies their position and point of view. Anybody who is good at discussions has the ability to look at things from other peoples' points of view. When we are really putting ourselves in other person's shoes, we are not only developing our discussion skills but also improving our ability to create and maintain a relationship which will ultimately make us a good person. I always enter in a discussion here at myLot with an intention of listening and learning new things. When other person's responses to our discussion are entirely different, and he/she is not ready to listen to me and is not willing to understand my point of view what I would reply is -- "Yes, dear I agree with you; I agree to disagree with you." I think there is no other better way to end the argument in a discussion than to agree that we have both have two views and they are opposing views. This will show that we have respect for the other person, we are thankful for his/her responses, but at the same time we cannot change our beliefs and therefore we are not in agreement with hims/her.

Hi my little namesake, I would never just say "Opinions Differ" and leave it so abruptly but I would find a way to end the the conversation when it becomes obvious that it isn't going anywhere. There was one older man that used to challenge me on homosexuality and gay rights constantly. I'd get so so annoyed and yet he prompted me to do some research to back up my opinions. At times our conversations got really heated but I did have to thank him for the challenge and respect it as well. One has to reach a point where you realize the argument is senseless as it is not going anywhere and just say, "look I respect your opinion and I've enjoyed the debating but we are never going to agree." Just end it on a peaceful note if at all possible.

Time to agree to disagree. I will always believe _______________ and you will always believe __________________. Esp. if personal experience, life experience, or religious beliefs dictate that that is that for each person. That's the best that can happen. Sometimes, in some cases, you have to unfriend them.

Not everyone will agree with you, nor will you with them. Therefore...you might want to consider a simple basic truth. "The more you fight AGAINST something, the more you RE-ENFORCE its reality." True. Everyone's entitled to their own opinion...but that doesn't mean that they're always correct. Ask yourself this the next time when you find yourself stalemated during an argument. "Is there any point in continuing?" If your answer is; "No." ...then the best thing that you can do is, let it go. You won't win. To be a "leader"...one must get AHEAD of the crowd and say: "Hey. Follow me." Once they follow, then change your direction. If you find that they dis-agree with you? Then tell them that they're right...and then change the subject. You will always be ahead of the argument. Cheers; commanderxo

Hi Sid for me, it depends on the topic, if i love the argument, i just linger. but if it is not, i just leave it. make it simple for you Sid. but most of time i don't like to make any argument.

Hi dear, Normally it happens when the topic is sensitive or 'hot', hot in the sense, which has highly preferred influence. If such subjects come up and when it is getting debated, of course, there may be difference of opinion and it may go for several rounds of discussions and debates. Unfortunately, we have here now few and normal chit-chats and sweet worded chattings instead of meaningful discussions. That is why it goes off at several times. I know you used to come with nice suggestions and discussions, and at most times it ignores or get out of the place unattended. I know whenever we expect a response level to it, sometimes never comes back with the people's comments. Sad it is, but when people consider these talks are just for some earning, the meaning and purpose of the debate becomes frozen. Thank-s

My favorite way is to end any debate or argument is to simply respond with, " i guess we will agree to disagree" You learn very quickly about those who no matter what you say or how logical your argument is, will disagree with you. i'm not here to get into a long and drawn out debate with anyone even though i have some very strong opinions on various subjects.Plus, i can't say i've been in very many debates or arguments, simply because they are a waste of time and effort.Although i do agree a debate can be healthy and worthwhile, but that totally depends on who and what the argument is about and if both parties are willing to be openminded.