What Do You try To Convey When You Use Those Banned Words on MyLot

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

9 Mar 11

Hi Sree

I know dear, many of my great friends here at MyLot will never use these kind of words as they are lovable people and know what manners are... And then as you mention - MyLot is not a place to vent out anything that comes to us... it is a social platform and we should respect the society I have a big load of emails to respond in the next two days. Sorry for the delay. It has been the usual power and bad internet connectivity here which seems to have been resolved for now today.

thanks1961

@thanks1961 (7035)

• India

10 Mar 11

Hi Sid/Kul, If everything goes well, there arise no need of such a thinking. Sometime when things goes upside down, people will think rash and goes beyond control with expressions and words. As long as we can express our mood with a nice language and the same can understand the reader nicely, what else is required. As you mentioned, it is some people’s mentality that they will get attracted if use such words. Unfortunately, they don’t realize that they are not getting praised. Thank-s

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Jane

@jaiho2009 (39142)

• Philippines

10 Mar 11

@ sree, hello sis

yspmyl

@yspmyl (3435)

• Malaysia

9 Mar 11

Hi thesids, I believe people who like to use bad words or the banned words in mylot is actually reflect the real side of that person. That mean in the real world, he/she probably will also like to use those words in their real life conversation. For me, people who like to use bad words in their conversation is an uneducated person, they do not know how to respect others and never feel shame to say those word in front of others. I will never respect people who use bad words in their conversation especially when they talk to me. I usually will stop my conversation with them immediately. So, people who use bad/banned words in mylot is actually do not want others to respect them as well.

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@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

10 Mar 11

Hi yspmyl

That is so very true... I have a similar feeling and I too would prefer to cut off the relationship anytime I see that... the vulgar words are bad and should not be used.... Because I feel if one can use it for someone, s/he can use it surely for me too someday... so better to stay away from that

thanks1961

@thanks1961 (7035)

• India

9 Mar 11

Hi Sid, For the last one year time, I got captured 2-3 times with some words. I used certain alternate substituted words at the moment. I know this conversation has relevance in this week after a lengthy conversation end up so sad last 2-3 days back. People had mixed and heart felt and touching discussions on that topic. I know that many are tried to express their relevant feeling to come more closer to the subject. However, depend on the intensity of the topic, we may feel the substitutes or some other pronounce may won't give the exact meaning what we meant. But the blocked words are really can be ignored and the usage of certain words may really make more complicated when it comes associated with typical subjects. It really expressed the same in the previous episode, if you remember. Thank-s

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@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

9 Mar 11

Hi Brother

No No... This is not with reference to any of the discussions in the near past.. It is an observation and even my last discussion has one comment where the responder boasted of how he could get through the checks... He was acting smart and I did respond to him but as usual, he never came back to have a look. Yes, the Intensity of the topic for sure is the one to be blamed but more so, we, make it intense... if all maintain the decency, I dont think there is any reason why anyone would use these words... But still as I said, some will never change and keep putting these because they think it is hip and fun

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Marigiggles

@Marigiggles (82)

• United States

9 Mar 11

Hi thesids, I am fairly new to myLot and have seen some words on here that I was a bit stand off by and worried that some members will swear like to me. I did not accept the mature content for that reason and hope that the members here are nice and will not swear. I do not swear in my personal life and cannot see me swearing online. I think it says something about the persons characther when they do, and I would be afraid to be in a fighting war with someone who uses the language casually. I don't know about the(-) and (!) button you are speaking of but I am new so I will learn the proper way to use it. Thank you for this discussion and have a nice day.

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@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

9 Mar 11

Hi Marigiggles

Welcome to MyLot dear. That is precisely my point and why this discussion. They say as you sow so shall you reap... so why sow the seeds of ugliness and hate. I am sure and can tell you from my small experience here that like every other society there are good people and bad people. Fortunately, due to the GAA (MyLot Admin) and the Rules of the site, you would find that our MyLot Society has a much larger number Great People and you would find their discussions quite healthy and Informative. As a starter - Please Read the Guidelines to know about what you should and should not on MyLot.... Make your self comfortable and at ease here.

inu1711

@inu1711 (5285)

• Romania

9 Mar 11

Hello thesids, I think we should quit trying to understand the reasons of people who are not like us. I try to take them as they are. If this is all that they can, so be it.

We can't change them. They must be very determined to use those words, as myLot doesn't let us submit a response/comment unless it is free of words that violate the terms. It happened to me twice to receive the red message from myLot: [i]"The following word or words violate myLot's terms of use: xxxx Please reword your submission and try again."[/i] but I had no intention to violate any rule.

Once I tried to write a Romanian translation of a proverb but it seem that the Romanian for "how" was a violation of the terms.

The second time I tried to use a pet name for a friend's nasty dog (something similar to "you, little rascal!") and myLot told me that word was unacceptable.

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@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

9 Mar 11

Hi inu

Yes, it is good that MyLot does prevent us from typing in these words and keep us away from them. Unfortunately sometimes some people get a bit creative and try to sneak through the filter... I too have occasionally faced that kind of problem where they would not allow me to type out some words but I am happy that it is for good of many (if not all)

visavis

@visavis (5934)

• Philippines

9 Mar 11

I never used any bad words here other than: sorry and very rude words for me it is bad because I said sorry to someone becuase I done something wrong to them. then I used the rude if I felt that my wordings are very direct and little bit attached the concern. But those words that even dog and cat unable to eat - NEVER my friend... see you around

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@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

9 Mar 11

Hi visavis

sorry a bad word?

sarahruthbeth22

@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)

• United States

10 Mar 11

Simple! They are part of my vocabulary. I swear like a sailor. I got it from my mom. Both of us are/were accused of being ladies but we are not. I am polite but I'm no lady. If I'm pi$$ed off the swear words flow like water down a stream! I choose my words well and when a swear word is needed , I will use it. It isn't out of frustration, it is my choice.

sarahruthbeth22

@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)

• United States

11 Mar 11

I use thm daily. To me they are a part of my reagular speech. If given a few moments I can edit for the sensitive or if I'm around children but most of the time I say Exactly what I mean! Another Good reason Not to have kids! lol!

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

11 Mar 11

Hi Sarah

Hope that you rarely get the chance to use the swearing words around but yes I accept it is one's choice and a personal preference

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sharra1

@sharra1 (6340)

• Australia

11 Mar 11

There are many alternative words that convey the same meaning. If I use a word that the site says is not allowed then I simply use alternative words to describe the same meaning. It may take more words but the meaning is still clear.

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

11 Mar 11

Hi sharra

I believe that it is a healthy way to go for and also by the time you have searched for alternates of such words, at times the need to use them subsides

sharra1

@sharra1 (6340)

• Australia

13 Mar 11

I have no idea what words you think are so terrible that their meanings or the actions they describe should never be used. Many swear words are ancient and often have quite different meanings to the way they are used today. The word that denotes a female dog is now a swear word, so too the one that denotes a child born out of wedlock. The meanings have been twisted but the words have been in the language for centuries. They are not modern inventions, just used differently. I cannot imagine what words you think are to terrible to use that the action or description cannot be used in normal English. If I was typing something and the word was not allowed then I would just use longer words to describe the person. Such as saying what a nasty person she was and what she did to be described as such. I do not write in anger and I do not slander people but I am suprised and annoyed sometimes when a word I use is not allowed, especially if I think the word is harmless.

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TheRealDawn

@dawnald (85135)

• Shingle Springs, California

9 Mar 11

What I find funny is when I input a perfectly normal word, and the filter doesn't allow it because it also has a second meaning. Once I was talking about a children's poem, "The Owl and the P*ssycat", and the filter didn't like it. But as for using curse words here, I think we are looking at a cultural difference, but some people aren't offended by them, and some people use them for emphasis. I use them very sparingly myself.

TheRealDawn

@dawnald (85135)

• Shingle Springs, California

9 Mar 11

hilarious

TheRealDawn

@dawnald (85135)

• Shingle Springs, California

10 Mar 11

It's funny that a perfectly normal word in Britain, for example, would have a really bad meaning here. Probably vice versa too. And the choices for the filter are sometimes odd, but sometimes it makes for really funny discussions!

K.Rajib G.

@krajibg (11923)

• Guwahati, India

10 Mar 11

Hi thesids, Mylot banned words or not approved ones are still used in a style. The answer to why they use them could be what you have written. Anger, irritation, frustration and many other moods. Actually I do not use those words which I have to replace with some other words but sometime it passes through without your knowledge. Several times I happened to write "Tom, d1c and harry', and in our day to day discourse this is not vulgar but mylot has some other connotation fr it which is why they do not let you use that name. And on such cases if people adopt the method I have just now there is nothing wrong I guess but others are not.

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K.Rajib G.

@krajibg (11923)

• Guwahati, India

10 Mar 11

No, no vulgarity in using language.

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

10 Mar 11

hi rajib

I can understand your point here. The Mylot script responsible to check these words should be more effective in terms that it should also take into account the context if not then we are left with other options to try and find a replacement word for it or use the cheat code to pass through... But the straight forward vulgar words should not be allowed even though anyone tries and applies the cheat codes

shibham

@shibham (16977)

• India

9 Mar 11

Hi sids... I never use such words which are banned here in mylot. I never show my anger or frustration here with words. We have some emoticons already provided to establish our mental status... so i never search for a secondary one. I am always try to be polite here as much as possible and try to communicate myself with a positive approach. Have a nice day.

shibham

@shibham (16977)

• India

11 Mar 11

Mamu is affected with hugs..

mamu

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

12 Apr 11

Here is why I gave the BR to my friend - He rightly points out that if one needs to show his/her disagrements on a discussion it is better to use these Emoticons rather than use those hurting words... Sometimes these little Pictures do convey things much better

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

10 Mar 11

Hi Mamu

Wait... Before I answer to your response... something off-topic - Mamu cannot get the hugs as the mamu thing (from the point where it started between us) gets the

... So I will avoid it in the future discussions... suggest me on this Ok, now the response - Yes, that is the best answer that I could get... we have emoticons and why not use them instead of the words that are hurting

Jane

@jaiho2009 (39142)

• Philippines

9 Mar 11

hello dear...

Keep your cool okay (peace) I can say that i am naughty and a little b*tchy sometimes,but... I am sure that i never said a single bad word to anybody here...not a single word. I know how to fight and debate,express myself and my principles on my own way (war)

but...never ever i wrote a single bad word here.

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Jane

@jaiho2009 (39142)

• Philippines

9 Mar 11

Even in real life,i know how to finish a discussion without saying a bad word, but i make sure that my words leave marks,confusing and bit of puzzle

how's your health dear

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

9 Mar 11

I love your discussions and the responses... I also feel comfy replying to you in the way I like without having to think twice and this does speak of the closeness we share.

Health is somewhat as usual... not quite much happening but I am looking forward to go to hyderabad for my medical checkups... My wife's interviews are scattered all over till April 8th and so it will be after that

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@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

9 Mar 11

Hi jaiho

I am cool as ice and rarely get angry though at times I feel low and hurt but they are a part of life... I know you will not say those words and war is the last option that you would think of... I know you use a couple of these words for fun purposes and not on the darker shades...

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rebel_woman06

@SIMPLYD (90722)

• Philippines

10 Mar 11

Twice i encountered a response to my discussion that was banned. The first one, i never get to read it because i opened it thru Mylot . But the other one, i get to view the response because i opened it in my email's inbox. I came to know that it was banned because when i opened it at Mylot, it was signed as so. So, that was it, i read it in my inbox and i find nothing offensive in his answer. He was banned maybe, because it wasn't in his interests or preferences, just as sometimes i was warned whenever i have to submit a response. Then i will edit it according to what they like it to be, then it will be okay and sent.

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

10 Mar 11

Hi SimplyD

Yes, if GAA comes to know that you are into tricking the script or even a regular user of these Banned words, the account may be closed... But that is an indication that rules are for all and we should comply with them... Also a good thing at MyLot

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

11 Mar 11

@SIMPLYD:

narendra2n

@narendra2n (445)

• India

10 Mar 11

Hello Sid, If I am using banned words I am trying to convey: that I am voluntarily not following guidelines. that I can't stop myself using those words. It's my habit. that how wast and deep my dictionary is. that my level of conversation is revolving around those words. that I love creating nuisance whatever I do. etc. I think it is a social site to enjoy in many ways. Those who want to be here and enjoy maximum will never use such words. Those who are not serious and are just fake will use and enjoy that type of language in serious discussions.

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

10 Mar 11

Hi narendra

that I love creating nuisance whatever I do.

But yes, they are the ones who make a misuse of the platform... and I have not a good opinion about them... the right to express may be fine but still... I dont appreciate them

narendra2n

@narendra2n (445)

• India

10 Mar 11

Right to express is entirely different thing. We are discussing about way of expressing. Everyone has right to express but no one has right of the way to express.

eshaan

@eshaan (6188)

• India

11 Mar 11

hibhai...i dont know about others ...but whenever i come to mylot i come in a good mood...if i have something that has spoiled my mood in real life, i can't come and write here...its my nature ...even if i am in a bit stress with my forex deals ...then too i don't come...as far as writing in discussions...i don't know what is the list and what words are included in them...i have never gone through them....very rarely it happened that when i wrote the discussion...there was some word which was not allowed and i was warned before posting...i don't know how they are allowed to others...but yes one thing i fully agree with you is that...such words should not be used it is not good for healthy discussion here...thanx for diverting attention on this point

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

12 Mar 11

Hi didi

Some people have been using some cheat code kind of things like inserting * or even a - or any other character in between these words and get through. But still the meaning is conveyed. Neither a healthy idea nor a healthy sign

skysuccess

@skysuccess (8858)

• Singapore

11 Mar 11

thesids, Other than obscenity, I have to say that there's really no such thing as banned words here. Literally, I think you would have already experienced that there are certain words that are automatically disallowed in myLot - so I think this is helpful to letting discussions from swaying negatively. However, I must say that perception is really a funny thing amongst us where it could easily stir up things when one party takes certain word(s) out of context. Or, misread an intention when there wasn't to be. So this is really not just individual but personal as well, where even when you try to convey your well intention. For me, I would not try that hard to convince when there's clear indication that the other party is adamant.

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

12 Mar 11

Hi skysuccess

You are correct that perception matters and when there are many cultures and many countries involved, there should be some constraints as words may convey negative meanings to different people.

commanderxo

@commanderxo (1494)

• Canada

9 Mar 11

I totally agree. It's better to "cool off" first before coming here to descriptively rant & rave. Why not just get it "out of their system", then tell us of the experience when they're in a much better frame of mind? Empathetic solace can be sought at that time, without the need of harsh words. Cheers; commanderxo

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

9 Mar 11

Hi commanderxo

That is a great sum up of what I wanted to convey - Empathetic solace can be sought at that time, without the need of harsh words

It just takes a second to build a healthy relation ship or turn off a relationship - one word and that does the difference... From my little experience - I one was eying to make a Friendship request to a Lotter and as normal me, I was following some of the places that had his discussions, responses... Unfortunately I found that this lotter was playing different roles at different times... on the started discussions... quite polite and fun loving but on a few instances, when the responses started turning into arguments, he nearly lost control of his cool... I felt hurt at the start but then I realized, it was good that I had not yet sent the Friendship request. We are here for fun and peace and why to risk those chances and friends?

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commanderxo

@commanderxo (1494)

• Canada

10 Mar 11

I have no enemies; only friends I have yet to meet. cdrxo

Ifamous

@ifa225 (14364)

• Indonesia

11 Mar 11

i also don't understand it Sid, i came here to get relax, but when i see those - i prefer to say that it rude words- i don't deny that sometimes i get affected and get annoy. so i just loose my goal to visit this site. i love to read those discussion with cool and calm words and maybe sometime a silly words that can hep me to laugh and relax

convey

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

12 Mar 11

Hi ifa

That is the point dear... many of us are here because we want some happiness and have some fun... so why spoil it using the words that can convey bad stuff to others... we can always find words that would add to the interest and fun here

zralte

@zralte (4178)

• India

9 Mar 11

Oh oh....I am caught red handed

....I think. Best employ my best strategy, 'when got caught, deny all charges'. thesids, it was not me, it must be my alter ego or someone impersonating me.

I admit to having used some bad words, camouflaged, of course, but still understandable. I used them when I feel strongly about it and have no other words to expressed my anger or my feelings. Before you shoot me, I used them very very rarely.