Feeling like the world's worst parent right now

Braces hurt, every time they are tightened they hurt, some people are more sensitive to pain but the fact is it hurts everyone. I spent three years in the darn things and the best pain reliever I found was hot salt water rinses. Just remind her how far she has come and that the goal is in sight. You might even try seting up a calendar and having her cross off each month. All those little tricks to focus the mind on the goal.

Awwh sorry she is in such pain and that you feeling bad. Don't be though you are placing a judgment call and concerned about her school. You may get a call to pick her and doing so she will understand your reasoning. It can appear at times in the medical profession that some would not want to go over the contracted agreement and I also feel that sometimes orthodontist's although they have heard it all really do not fully understand painful teeth sometimes, because of the stories of others. They need to realize no tooth pain is quite the same. I hope she finally feels better soon.

Dawnald, going to school may actually take her mind off her sore mouth. It is a distraction, after all. I do not understand about braces, no one in my family ever needed them. You are not a bad parent, but I am sure it helps to be told that. She has permission to call, so she will, and she knows you will come for her. That is really good. I have known parents who would not do a thing for their kids and not allow them to call.

Well you're not the world's worst mother.. that's forsure. Can you go back to get the braces loosened just a smidge? I know what it's like to have so much pain in your mouth.. it's horrible! I can certainly sympathize with her. Hope she feels better soon.

Hi dawnald My grandfather always used to tell me (whenever he was tough on me)(though later) - "I have to be cruel to you to be kind to you". I did not understand much of his words at that age, but today I realize what he precisely meant. I think right now, you have to bear this and play the role of a good mom. You are a great lady (I have been reading through your discussions so what I find me incapable to reply but that is another discussion). I know that you would NOT do anything which would harm your kids in the long run. But your feeling the pain right now is justified too... At times, you have to trust the docs and there is no better way out... Take care

I've never had braces, but my brother and my sister did, and when they were tightened, they were miserable. Hopefully, Dearra will be able to hang in there. Maybe after she gets to school and starts talking to friends, the pain won't be so bad... Sounds like she could use another science teacher too. Too bad it's so late in the school year, or I'd be looking for another teacher.

You did the right thing Dawn, I know it how you are feeling, as we do feel that way but sometimes we have to do it Why did he tighten them like that, I would phone and tell them in how much discomfort or even Pain she is and I would make them loosen them she should not have to go through Pain like that

poor baby yupwill probably get that call

hi dawn you know what it does not get much easier when they grow up and are in trouble as I worry so much about myson and him not having a job. but seeing your child hurting it sure does get to you. You know you may be onto something seriously the orethodontist just might not want to go over. I was chucked out of the rehab just two days before my insurance coverage was up and went home still limping a nd still having to take pain pills.these medical people really watch it.I could wish for her and your sake this had been done when she did not have the pressure of school on her shoulders. poor Dearra thats got to be painful.Is it because her adult teeth are crowding her mou th.I know i Had a hideous time when my darned wiseom teeth came in, had to have them all pulled and was so darned painful. surely now in this modern age why cannot dentists make teeth pulling not painful. really I am serious. I just hate going to a dentist because of the pain factor.If so many kids are making up from that one teacher I am going to wonder why, is the teacher not really teaching. science can be a fun course with a good teacher or a horrid course with a dry as bones teacher.

That is exactly what I was thinking. Why did the darn orthodontist have to tighten her braces so much. I have never had braces, and I thank my parents for that. But, I really don't think that they need to be tightened so much. Aren't they supposed to be done alittle at a time. Maybe orthodontists were torturers in another life. Hmmm.

We all feel this way at times but it is just being a good parent. I do not know why it should hurt so much though. Can't she go back and get it slackened? Have you had a call yet?

That is actually kind of funny because when I was in high school it was also a science class that I was in trouble with due to time that I missed from school because I was having dental issues. Actually, I suffer from TMJ and that was what was causing me pain. That said, you are not the world's worst parent because if she is having problems in that particular class then she really doesn't need to miss any more time in that class and will probably thank you later. I'm sorry to hear that she is struggling.

I hope Dearra and her braces are feeling a little better now. Or at least that she has gotten used to the tightness that it isn't as painful anymore. I had similar feelings with my son this past few days. He's been feeling lethargic and did not want to do anything, even school. He's been sleeping in the afternoons which he doesn't normally do. I know that there must be something wrong with him, maybe viral, but I still pushed him to go to school. And even do his after school activities. Of course, as guys, I pretend that these things do not affect us. And I was trying to set an example.

Hi dawnald. I feel for ya as a fellow mom. I know you don't want to see your daughter in pain. Speaking from experience, the pain will ease up. I remember feeling like my teeth were about to fall out of my head when I would leave the doc but it does go away. Have you tried aspirin or something to ease the pressure? Good luck! And you are not a bad mom! :)

Aww the poor girl. I had braces when I was 20. They werent that bad though. I remember my sister being in so much pain with hers 10 years before that she couldnt eat anything but baby food and I would pick on her and make her cry. Well when my turn came around I was like oh my gosh I can still eat its not that bad that I would have to eat baby food. But my teeth were straight they just needed to be brough out because of a deep bite I had they were kind of messed up and leaning towards the back of my mouth instead of slightly outward. I wonder why he adjusted them so much that she is in that much pain. Hopefully the pain meds will help.

Hi. dawnald. You are not the only one that feel as if you are not a good parent. I feel this way at times too. When I turned down the offer of letting my three year old youngest daughter attend Head Start, I felt like I did something so wrong. I know that I had my special reasons as to why I did not let her go this year. I still felt bad like I have done the wrong thing! Today I had to get two fillings in my mouth for two cavities that I have. My teeth were not bothering me but the dentist discovered these cavities at an general cleaning check up. Then in January, my youngest daughter had to get four fillings on her teeth for tiny cavities. The dentist associate assured me that it was nothing major at all. She also told me that no matter how hard I may try to make sure that she does not get cavities, it can happen. I make sure that her teeth are constantly cleaned. And she does not eat a lot of sweets and candies. I felt like I was a bad mother. I felt like since I have gotten four cavities and she has too, then I must be a bad mother! I know how your daughter feels when wearing braces, when I wore mines, they were painful when I first got them in. I also had to get four teeth removed, two on each sides of my mouth. My braces had to fit. Even with the rubber bands, my teeth were sore from the pulling and what not. I hope that your daughter will feel better soon. As she gets used to wearing braces, her mouth will become less sore. It is just going to take some time for her teeth to get adjusted the right way too. I have many days when I feel like I am not a good parent at all. I try to just keep my cool so that I can do the best that I can. It will be okay, dawnald.

geesh! he needs to loosen them braces. sounds like her teeth are going to break under those. i dont know much about that but i know you are a good mother from all you've said here. so i'd be inclined to blame that darn dentist for not being a careing dentist.

Hey dawny~ Feeling really bad for Dearra. Maybe you should have a talk with her Orthodontist. Maybe he is rushing her along? I honestly don't know a thing about Ortho so don't want to intrude, but would ask just the same. She's had a really tough time of it, hasn't she. I kind of know how she feels, but no one ever knew what my issues were so I got no sympathy and was just kind of ignored. For me it was just the beginning of my "phucked up life" thanks to my parents. At least you know that you are a good mom and are aware of what's going on with your kids. I give you so much credit for how well you parent your kids and no matter what's going on how you deal with them and stay aware of their feelings. Wish you were my mommy~

Hi, Dawnald, don't feel guilty, you did the right thing. But I think that the work of the orthdontist is another story. It's not normal to tighten the braces this much so they hurt. My daughter had braces too, they were the old type, with a palate and bringing the jaws together because she needed a correction of their positions. So she only was sleeping with the braces but she was feeling uncomfortable. But at least she didn't feel pain. Maybe you should speak with this ortdontist... But anyway, I think that you are a wonderful mother. I have only one kid and I've had so many trouble to raise her and you manage to rase all your children with so many care. This is really impressive.

It's difficult to be a human and also difficult to be a parent. Because every action has it opposite. The truth and false is only seperated in thin layer. When ew think right other may think wrong