Frenemy
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
United States
March 29, 2011 4:59pm CST
I've ranted about this person before, but this was before we got back to being friends. I have this one friend that I call my sister, she's like my best friend. However, sometimes I have to wonder why I call her my best friend. I know it's odd that I'm friends with someone I have to wonder about that with.
Part of me feels guilty about even ranting about this here, but hey I need the money and you guys can't deny that the rant type discussions usually get the most exposure.
This friend recently got into a fight with another friend. Why? Because a month ago she wrote the friend's bf and told him that she has a cute friend. She claims she thought she knew this guy from somewhere, I believe that to be a lie. I can't even remember the whole details of the fight the other day, but I was thinking the whole time that she's lying to cover her butt.
She is so childish, I don't really understand why. Let me clarify by saying that my two friends are NOT friends themselves, they used to be years ago but I don't think that lasted very long.
I wanted to tell my friend off because it was just wrong that she even tried that, just because you don't like the girl doesn't mean you need to try and get her broken up with her bf, that she happens to have a child with and is pregnant with another one with.
What do you guys think? I know I didn't share a lot of details here, but I'm curious to know if anyone else has a friend like this.
8 responses
@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Mar 11
She may have been a good friend at onetime but like relationships with men sometimes we grow away from people. By that I mean sometimes one person grows up and matures and the other person doesn't. And I think some women will go to any lengths to get a guy they think is cute and sometimes they even try to start something with a guy even if he is married. SOme women just have no scruples and will do anything. Narcissism comes to mind. A psychological disorder.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
30 Mar 11
She was a really good friend before and now she's not so much. I mean I guess before I would put up with her behavior but now I've got the gall to not, and well It wouldn't bother me if she never texted me again. I love her because she is like a sister but she does need to grow up. She wasn't the "cute girl" she was actually trying to break my other friend and her bf up even more then they were because they were separated at that time.
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Mar 11
To me a good friend is one that follows my same moral character and we have history and alot incommon. If a friend does something unethical then I really have to rethink my friendship. And I think a person can be friends with someone and not hang out all the time.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
That's one destructive friend if you ask me. I stay away from people like that. She has to resolve her issues first before socializing.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
30 Mar 11
I have known her since I was in high school, and she's been like that really since graduation. I was not her friend for say three years, and now Im thinking maybe she should wake up and smell the coffee before I socalize with her again.
@GardenGerty (169448)
• United States
30 Mar 11
Nope, people like that do not last long with me. I think I would get rid of both of them as there is just too much drama in this situation. I know, friend #2, who has the kid and the boyfriend probably did not do anything wrong, but it does not sound like it is a very good situation for you to end up in the middle of anyway.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
30 Mar 11
Well I'm not in the middle of it anymore, it didn't last very long. My best friend hasn't contacted me since the fight though, she doesn't actually know I disagree with her unless she's guessed I have. It doesn't concern me much, I don't need her in my life, though I would miss her.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
29 Mar 11
Yeah well this is true, though Im not sure if it's brought them closer together or not. That is really childish and well I haven't actually talked to the friend I am mentioning since she did that day before yesterday. Don't plan to talk to her until she talks to me IF she talks to me.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
1 Apr 11
I don't have any friends like that but I have known people that were. I really try to separate myself from people that I know who thrive on drama and causing problems. Sometimes I have found it's better to avoid such people. They always try to find a way to drag in whoever they can. I know you've heard the saying that "misery loves company." It's sad to say but sometimes your closest friends can be the worst thing for you. The good thing is that you realize it now. Some people don't realize it until it is too late.
@danitykane (3183)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
hi somecowgirl,
I do have a friend that I am having trouble with because of her attitude and silliness. I sometimes wonder how on earth we ended as being best friend. She loves making up stories that aren't true and she usually like what I don't like. We had a fight before and have not spoken for about a year. I can somewhat relate to your story, having a frenemy is so hard. Having a love-hate relationship is truly crazy.
Happy Lotting!
@HansonFan (1653)
• United States
30 Mar 11
I hear ya! I have a friend and I love her dearly. But she is trying to split up me and our other friend. They were friends first and then C met me in college and I eventually met A. A and I went to Disney World last year...C couldn't go because of a wedding and work. I absolutely loved it and decided to move there. Offered to room with A and C if either or both wanted to come. A immediately said yes, but she has to graduate college first. C eventually said yes too and also after she graduated. However, C graduates this summer...A will be who knows how long. She has completed 6 classes in 4 years!!! I don't know whats wrong with her but C and I are leaving this summer for Florida and A keeps trying to sabotage our friendship and our move. I am sorry that we have to leave her behind...but I am not going to waste my life here waiting on her to get her act together and finally finish school. And on top of that she lives off of her savings and hasn't had a job in three years!! I don't know what to do with her!!
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
That's one destructive friend if you ask me. I stay away from people like that. She has to resolve her issues first before socializing.
