I will not be able to sing my solo at the Spring Concert this year

@suspenseful (40193)
Canada
April 9, 2011 3:51pm CST
For one thing they bumped up the date to this Sunday instead of leaving it to May as they originally intended and the piano player lady said I was not ready. She says that me and her are choir singers and not solo singers. Now had I known that singing in the choir would make my voice not good for solo singing I would not have joined the choir. The trouble is that they say that once you reach 70 your chance to be a soloist goes to zero. And that is what I do not want to get happen, so I am feeling bad very depressed right now. I am taking singing lessons and have a bit of difficulty making my voice go forward. But last nightt I recorded my voice and I sounded better then I did. It is so depressing because I feel everything is going against me.My chipped knee cap and my right leg in a cast is the least of my worries.
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@GardenGerty (157027)
• United States
9 Apr 11
I am so sorry, I know that this is a big disappointment to you. I even heard that choir singer vs solo singer when I was in college, but not about me. Now I am not a soloist in my large home church, but the church where my brother is the pastor always wants me to sing. It is a smaller venue, and a different group of listeners.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
10 Apr 11
I needed a bit more practice and would have been ready for May, but in December it will have snow on the gorund and will be slippery. I did not know about the difference between choir and solo singers an went through the internet to find out the difference and the only solos iln our church who succeeded although they were in the choir were those who took singing lessons from a vocal teacher. They do not want you to make yourself known in the choir. why I am the one who waves around and moves and they probably do not like that, but how am I to get noticed? And how much time do I have before my voice starts to get old?
@ElicBxn (63194)
• United States
10 Apr 11
That's sad! I'm glad your voice is doing better, but I think the lady might be a bit of her own opinion, and it might not be right. and know that the leg in a cast, so long as you can stand on it, is no reason not to do things... my sister walked across her high school graduation with her leg in a cast!
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
10 Apr 11
Last time, she said I was not ready, but then I went on. And there is not that much going on in my life that wold deter me except because of my leg hurting and me feeling depressed, I gave in. I know that I cannot stand that long, but if I could not stand that long, why did the conductor of the choir want us to practice one song again and again?
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
10 Apr 11
I figured that might be part of it, but why am I still allowed to sing in the choir and we are standing up. The conductor did not write me an email saying, "maybe you should not sing this time since you may have trouble getting around,": but I am one of the few high sopranos who can reach the very high notes -well in choir singing anyway.
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@ElicBxn (63194)
• United States
10 Apr 11
No idea, I think the moving the date up is more affected by your leg than your singing. If it had been in May, your leg might've been better enough, but now it isn't...
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
10 Apr 11
I am so sorry to hear that. You poor thing. I hope things will start to change back around for you. sometimes it does not matter what we do, things sometimes turn to the downside before going back up again.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
10 Apr 11
I thought I could do it, but the piano lady said i would only need a couple of practices. I think I needed more. The other girls get more practice, but they come from musical families and also take music at university. Me I am on my own and hae to ask. I asked my friend Rikki to play for me, but she is good at the piece I wanted to sing. And the other ones were too busy. I just hope things get better. The only chance I have to sing solo is if my singng teacher has a concert, but even then it is usually in May and I have not been a student that long.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
10 Apr 11
I have heard some remarkable solos from vocalists over 70, where in the world did that woman get her information?! Is there anyone else that you can go to or does she have the last word? It's a shame to deprive the congregation of a lovely voice just because one person thinks you're too old to share your gift. Please don't be depressed. Everything happens for a reason and I'm sure it will turn out for the best. Is there anyone else that has a say in the program and the performers?
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
10 Apr 11
She does not have the last word, but my friend who is a singer is the only other one available and the piece is a bit to complicated for her to play. In fact, because of this rumor that once you reach a certain age, you cannot sing is the reason I never took singing lessons until now. I noticed that the pianist had a bit difficulty with the piece and I should have given the book to her sooner and practiced more. It still made me rather upset.
• United States
9 Apr 11
Suspenseful- That is a load of rubhish!! Bother my grandmother and mother sing in the choir as well as do solos! And my mother is a music teacher! I know how much you were looking forward to this and I'm very sorry they treated you with such disrespect. I wish you healing on your knee and leg! Namaste-Anora
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
10 Apr 11
I get very confused. I am told to sing louder, but then I do and I sound like a fishwife. I try to sing forward, but to me it does not sound like I am singing loud enough and when I am told I have a choir voice, t is not my fault that I could not take singing lessons until later.