public humiliation and service as punishment?

I think this is a great thing to do. Too many children now a days do what ever the hell they want with out any fear on punishment and thats crap. More parents need to do stuff like this. I hope more parents take initiative and do the same thing.

that is a harsh thing to do. a wrong cannot be made right by another wrong. true, he had made something bad but putting him in shame will not ever solve the problem. i agree that the parents should know the root cause of it all. there must be a reason. and from that, the parents should deal with the boy's misdeeds fair but square. community service can help but the son has to know that there are always consequences. how to go about it is the parent's role.

I'm for it. I could make arguments why I'm for it, but then I'd get responses challenging my reasons, so I'll just say I'm for it. lol

I think that this mom is showing her son that he must take responsibility for his actions. I believe that many criminals should have to be paraded in public like this and they might think before they done something again. We are way too worried in this society about how a punishment will cause the offender to feel. They were the ones who choose to commit the crimes, so they should be willing to accept the punishment. Why do we feel that offenders have rights when their victims were not given rights by them?

I don't think public humiliation is too much if everything else has been tried. Consider what will happen to the child if he's allowed to get away with things because no one can discipline him. If this is what it takes to keep him on the right path, so be it!

I´d say the boy did not learn much. From the story I read, the boy said he stole the i-pod because he did not have one and he wanted one. The punishment he´s getting from his mom is not showing him that there are other ways to obtain what one wants and that sometimes we must accept we can´t have it all. In fact, the punishment (in my eyes) is a mother who is bullying his child. I think that most of the bullying is the result of a new way of child rearing where the children have many rights but not a single duty. And the parents cannot even spank them on the butt without everyone calling the cops. This mother did not teach his child and now thinks that humiliating him will be better. I think that making him work is fine. Moreover, I´d make him do something in favour of the bullied boy.

i don't think it's too much.some of these kids it might give them pause next time before they do something jerky.i'd be mad as hell if i found out my kid was bullying another kid.he'd be lucky if i didn't send him to school in an easter bunny costume.

I think the public humiliation might have gone a bit too far. Not to say that it shouldn't have happened, but I think that maybe it didn't need to be all day and in different locations. As far as the public service, that is valid and should be used in most cases where a violent crime is not involved. With children, knowing that they will have to pay for a mistake should be incentive enough not to repeat the mistake. If the parent wanted to humiliate her child, it should have been for a much more limited time and perhaps instead of standing at a particular street corner, it should have been walking through a mall for an hour or something. There are enough people there that would see it in that amount of time that it should be adequate. That is just my opinion for what it is worth. Thanks for sharing this.

Hi. 3SnuggleBunnies. I think that his mom is doing the right thing to see that her child is punished and suffers the consequences of bullying another student. I just feel that her way of going about doing this is just not right at all. I feel that she should allow him to do community service and leave it at that. But she is his mom, and hey, I guess she feels that she knows best though. But making him look and feel ashamed should not be a punishment that she enjoys inflicting upon her son.

I wouldn't necessarily say it's going too far. I'm sure the child's victims feel justified now that they've seen the bully humiliated. I only wonder how the child will react after the fact. If a child is a bully, there's little chance that humiliating him will make him less of a bully. I think the proper way to handle it would be to get to the root of the problem.. why does he feel the need to hurt other people? Punishments usually only make kids act out more.

this ios a serious problem yes in my view it is a punishment and must be avoided......byee

The one size fits all punishment mode is as effective as using a sieve as a sink stopper. Just as each child is different that every other child so should the punishment. No community service will not help with all children just as a paddling will help with a just a few. Humiliation is never a good idea at any time. But I can see where it might be useful if nothing else matters to the child. The goal of punishment needs to be grow as a natural consequence of the behavior that is being corrected. And the natural consequence must be something that means something to the child. If the boy wearing the sandwich sign takes the public display of his actions as a sign to others how powerful he is, you have reinforced the reason for the bullying.

No No No. A BIG No. It is out of frustration Mom had she made the boy into public humiliation. The child will become wild and repeat the same to parents. Love will take care of children in the proper way. Parents have lot of problems - with the father of the child, with in-laws, with neighbors, with employer, with servants, on financial front etc. etc. This should not be thrown to poor kids.

I saw where a Mom had her daughter stand on the side of the road with a cardboard saying, since I dont want to put effort into school Im practing for my future job. Anything helps, homeless and hungry. I thought it definatly got the point across to the daughter. I think sometimes when you have exhausted all your resources you just try the last thing to hopefully get it into their head. Maybe this kid had a history of being a bully and Mom was just tired of it and so she did the last thing possible, let him show the world who he was. I guess its kind of like the scarlett letter. As long as the child is in no harm and understands this is your punishment, Im not dealing with this anymore than I dont see a problem. I see it as a last resource

It can and it can also be harmful too. I think that the bully would be subject to such ridicule that maybe depending on the level of bullying he is use to doing it might cause the child to get worse. Remind me of when prisoners go to jail that unless they are thoroughly rehabilitated, often times they come out worse. I guess in my opinion it depends on the actual punishment and or the personality of the child to begin with. I say this only because bullies today are quite evil and do not humiliate as easy as we think.