Marriage season
@Professor2010 (20162)
India
May 18, 2011 7:04am CST
This morning I was talking to a friend in UK, I told him, ‘This is marriage season for us, Indian Hindus’; he could not get me, so I had to explain him in details.
I think it might be useful for others; hence I share here, for information of mylot members.
Our marriages are arranged marriages mostly by parents and usually boys marry girls of their caste. The horoscopes of the boy and girl are examined by an astrologer, several points are examined and if the match is above 60%, the marriage is finalized.
In our almanac, one can find dates of marriages; the marriage is performed on one such date. The ceremony has many rituals, if done, it takes a week, on the last day there is a reception feast.
Many do it in just one day.
I always did for full 8 days for my kids, observing all rituals.
Yesterday I attended a one day, ‘mass marriage’, there were 111 pairs, their marriage was solemnized in a temple here, they paid a token money of just Rs.100 each, and rest was borne by the temple trust.
Great work done, I am sure.
[b]So how the selection is done at your place?
Are the marriage dates fixed?
Please respond and share your valued opinion,
Thanks in advance.[/b]
Professor ‘*Bhuwan*’. .
Cheers have a lucky day ahead.
Yesterday I attended a one day, ‘mass marriage’, there were 111 pairs, their marriage was solemnized in a temple here, they paid a token money of just Rs.100 each, and rest was borne by the temple trust.
Great work done, I am sure.
[b]So how the selection is done at your place?
Are the marriage dates fixed?
Please respond and share your valued opinion,
Thanks in advance.[/b]
Professor ‘*Bhuwan*’. .
Cheers have a lucky day ahead.
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21 responses
@speedytypist (572)
• United States
18 May 11
June is wedding month or season here in the Philippines. Are people in India still practice the arrange marriage? I am just wondering. God bless
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@anees_aks143 (114)
• India
18 May 11
Yes, people in India still practice arrange marriages. However, the minority in India would not check for those horoscopes by astrologers (especially Muslims). However, I do think that there are more than 25% of Muslims in India. However, the survey has been claimed as 15%.
@pradoz (404)
• India
19 May 11
dear please don't start a war on the numbers of your religion so quickly.Its a good thing your people generally don't follow horoscopes.But there are muslims who consult astrologers.It depends upon the individual.I was bought up not to believe in horoscopes .But on reading more about horoscopes,i began to think there was something in it that works,but it was never conclusive and horoscopes still continue to be vague.So my present decision is not to dabble in astrology
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
I told about hindu marriages, yes most of them do a 'match-making' based on horoscopes, i don't know about people of other religion.
Thank you for sharing your opinions.Enjoy life to fullest.
Professor ‘*^Bhuwan^*’. .
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
20 May 11
Great information, friend. I appreciate your post.
Well, in our place. Marriage can be settled with will of the two lovers. If they agree to enter into marriage. There must be a meeting between parents of both parties to finalize the marriage. If they are agree about the date, venue, and other parts of the ceremony. Marriage can be done...
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
Thanks for sharing your opinion friend
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
Lakota madam
How are you?
Thanks for response
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
19 May 11
Here in the States marriages are love matches , mostly. Some marry for money but they are not arranged. June is the month that most brides choice to marry in. Here a wedding is the bride's day. For many girls her wedding day is a day she has been dreaming of all her life. So when she Finally finds the guy she plans the wedding. Weddings can be as simple as a trip to the justice of the peace, meaning a non religious very basic ceremony. to A elaborate showcase, something similar to he royal wedding! But How the couple comes together is love based most of the time. There are marriages being performed Every day of the year.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
In our place the divorce rate is almost nil my friend..
Thank you for sharing the information.
Enjoy life to fullest.
Professor ‘*^Bhuwan^*’. .
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
22 May 11
I for one am one of the either lucky or smart. I married someone from the same type of background, neighborhood, and financial status. We both enjoyed most of the same things, of the same faith, etc.etc. I'm incredibly analytical and used it to choose the man I would marry 27 years ago. If he were gone tomorrow I wouldn't know how to go on with that major piece of my life missing!
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
hi,
in my country,there is a fix time for the marriage of each couple,whether in church or in municipal.i had never seen here in my place a marriage for many couples but i know that there is,for those who cant avail the marriage in municipal and church.and they called it marriage season for every couple and this is for free.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
4 Jun 11
Glad to know this, thanks for sharing
Are you married?
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
20 May 11
I couldn't imagine someone else deciding who I had to marry (not that I would ever want to). In America, most people choose their own partners as far as I know. What you describe sounds interesting as far as the rituals, but it also sounds scary since it is unfamiliar. Some people (like me) never get married. I think in my case, the fact that I have trouble living with people contributes to that. I have been to a few weddings here and most of them are just an hour or less and then a reception. Some people just go off somewhere and get married by a judge with no guests. Have a great day!!!
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
Wish you should witness one of our wedding festivals.
Thanks
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
20 May 11
In the US, arranged marriages are rare. Those that are are eith er immigrants to this country who are following the customs of their native country, or th ey are a business arrangement. The usual system is for the young people to make their own decision to marry. When a big wedding is planned, the bride's parents foot most of the expense. However, with many waiting until both the man and the woman are well established in their careers before they marry, the couple may take care of the expense themselves. Traditionally, June is the month for weddings. The weather is warm but not usually opressively hot, and most important, School is out, and hopefully, at least one member of the couple to be married has graduated. Marriages can and do take place at any time of year. I don't know if the custom of mass marriages happens anywhere in the country, but in San Antonio, Texas, there is a judge who performs mass marriage ceremonies on the steps of the couny court house on Valentine's Day, February 14th. This has become so popular that he has to do it more than once during the day. This is a civil ceremony but is just as binding as a religious one.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
I am aware of this, i have a friend in USA, his daughter married the man , after having 2 kids, they lived together for several years, only when she was pregnant with the 3rd baby, they married.
Thanks for detailed response
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
19 May 11
We do not have arranged marriages here, we choose out partners ourselves. Of course family often has an opinion about potential mates. Depending on the people involved depends on the power their family's opinion holds for their choice.
There is no particular season here for marriage either. There are preferred times and that is usually based on the weather and the desired memory of the couple.
Thanks so much for sharing your culture. I have actually did some research on arranged marriages and there is a very small if any divorce rate involved. That is very impressive.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
Let me tell you Jen, the divorce rate is almost zero, quarreling is rare, ofcourse exceptions are there always.
Thanks for sharing your valued opinion.
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
19 May 11
That's an interesting fact. Well, here the couple plans on when and where their wedding will take place and plan it then on. That's how simple it could get. The planning process though, as far as I know, is complicated.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
Planning process takes time friend.
Thanks for response
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@anil02 (24688)
• India
19 May 11
hello sir today is time of short cut so very few people like to complete all ritals. in these moreover marriage are arranged in marriage places so it is not possible to complete all rituals. In India trend of mass marriage increasing. It is good for parents who cannot afford exp. of marriage specially of daughters.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
You are right Anil
Marriages of girls is so costly these days, mass marrige helps.
Thanks for sharing
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 May 11
Here in the Philippines, we marry the person we like. There maybe parents who arrange the marriage of their son or daughter, but usually they would go against it and instead elope with the ones they like.
June is the most popular time to marry here in the Philippines. We call the bride "June bride", when the marriage is done on that month.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
I know Dina about things in your place, i attended some weddings in Davao.
Thanks for details
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@babychane (39)
•
19 May 11
Yeap, I do have lots of online Indian friends and they say that in your country it is really based on the horoscopes of each couple. But what if they don't love each other? Is love didn't consider in your country sir? Thanks anyways! Be Blessed!
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
Hello baby welcome to mylot, there is no pre-marital love affairs, the love comes after marriage and goes deeper day by day..
Are you marrying an indian?
Thanks for response
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@feeltheirie (301)
• Philippines
22 May 11
In our country, women or men have the right to pick who they marry. The parents can give their opinions, but in the end it is still the person marrying who picks his bride/groom. There are some families who arrange marriage for their daughters/sons but that is only because they want the family to be of the same status as them. This rarely happens anymore though.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
4 Jun 11
Thanks for sharing dear, they differ from place to place, culture to culture
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
18 May 11
Hi Professor, Thanks for enlightening us on the way marriages are performed in your religion and culture. It's important that we understand each other's way of doing things. Arranged marriages are not common in my country but young people choose their partner themselves, and it is considered inappropriate for the parents to interfere. I am sure that there are good points in both. Another difference is 'mass marriage', which doesn't occur here either. Sometimes there will be a double wedding ceremony but only when the couples are friends, in most cases there is just one man and one woman. Blessings to you my friend.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
Dude
Mass marriage has many advantages, i am happy you like my discussions, i will always try to share.
Thank you for response
Enjoy life to fullest.
Professor ‘*^Bhuwan^*’. .
@leateagee (3667)
• China
18 May 11
Hello Professor. Thank you for sharing this marriage culture you have in India. I am from the Philippines too. I'm not really sure about rituals or other details people who wants to get married do. I am not married yet. From what I have observed, no one arranges us to whom we will marry. When the couple in a relationship have decided to get married, they schedule it, prepare for a "church wedding" -- Catholics --- religion. After an hour of church ceremony, a feast is held. Sometimes, there is a party the night before the wedding. I am not sure if most of my countrymen still follow this.
In some cases, we also have what you call a "mass wedding". I like to be wed. I don't like only registered. As a woman, I want to wear a wedding gown. 
It doesn't have to be a big feast, just enough for family members.
I am from the Philippines too. I'm not really sure about rituals or other details people who wants to get married do. I am not married yet. From what I have observed, no one arranges us to whom we will marry. When the couple in a relationship have decided to get married, they schedule it, prepare for a "church wedding" -- Catholics --- religion. After an hour of church ceremony, a feast is held. Sometimes, there is a party the night before the wedding. I am not sure if most of my countrymen still follow this.
In some cases, we also have what you call a "mass wedding". I like to be wed. I don't like only registered. As a woman, I want to wear a wedding gown. It doesn't have to be a big feast, just enough for family members. 1 person likes this
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
Here we have peoples from China, good friends of mine, they do attend our marriages always.
Thank you for sharing
Enjoy life to fullest.
Professor ‘*^Bhuwan^*’. .
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
18 May 11
dear dada,
Wedding season here in either June or December.
The wedding preparation takes months,but usually the event only run for a day (whole day)
The wedding preparation usually takes a a month or even 6 months before the wedding date,there's a lot of preparation to be need for a grand wedding.
But the event only will last for a whole day...but it's worth the preparation indeed.
So,i hope to have my wedding to be prepared soon by my dada (hahaha)
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
Jai beta
Just tell me, when 'he' is ready, i assure i will arrange every thing , it will be done 'hindu style. I and maa will give your hands to him, we call it 'kanyadan', be blessed
Thanks for sharing about marriages in Philippines.
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@allknowing (130066)
• India
18 May 11
Mine was a proposed one in that I was being observed and watched and finally a meeting was arranged at a mutual friend's place. We courted for six months before saying "I do"
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
Six months was a long time friend!!
Thank you for sharing
Enjoy life to fullest.
Professor ‘*^Bhuwan^*’. .
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 May 11
Hi Professor
Weddings are always a joyous event - happy to hear several are taking place.
I was aware that some cultures have arranged marriages but was not aware of how the different agreements evolved to finalize the marriages. Seems like very careful and organized thought goes into your arranged marriages.
Though my culture is from Puerto Rico, I was born and raised in the US with both customs and traditions. We do not arrange marriages here and have not heard of anyone in our family to have arranged their marriages.
Thank you for sharing a part of your custom and traditions about the arranged marriages.
Weddings are always a joyous event - happy to hear several are taking place.
I was aware that some cultures have arranged marriages but was not aware of how the different agreements evolved to finalize the marriages. Seems like very careful and organized thought goes into your arranged marriages.
Though my culture is from Puerto Rico, I was born and raised in the US with both customs and traditions. We do not arrange marriages here and have not heard of anyone in our family to have arranged their marriages.
Thank you for sharing a part of your custom and traditions about the arranged marriages. @Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
Hi gurl, this is the charm of my lot, we learn so many things here.
Thank you for sharing your views
Enjoy life to fullest.
Professor ‘*^Bhuwan^*’. .
@denikurniadi (317)
• Indonesia
18 May 11
In my place there is no particularly selectiön. most important they love each other. and their parents are agree marrige them. it's ok.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 May 11
So they need approval of parents!!
Thanks for sharing
WELCOME TO MYLOT.
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
