More attached to whom?

India
May 18, 2011 7:07am CST
In a family, we find that the kids have more attachment to father or mother, generally, the sons are more attached to the father and the daughters to the mother; I think it is so because they can talk freely, ventilate the feelings. But in some family, the boys are more attached to the mom and the gals to the dad. Well in my family, my daughter and two sons, all grown up now, they were equally attached to me and my wife Kalyani; even now the situation remains same. [i][b]What is the scene in your family? Please respond and share your valued opinion, Thanks in advance. [/b][/i] Professor ‘*Bhuwan*’. . Cheers have a lucky day ahead.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
22 May 11
Hello Professor. I don't have daughters, but two sons. It seems that they are more attached to their mom. It is mainly because their mom stays with them the most of the time. And I think that it is very natural for sons to be more attached to their moms. When I was a child, it was the same case with me and even now I love to chat more with my mother though my father is talkative. hehe. Have a good day, Professor.
• Philippines
21 May 11
hello Professor, In my family I am more attached to my Mom and my sister she is more attached with dad though she loves mom more maybe because they have the same attitude thats why. happy mylotting
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
18 May 11
I have only one precious child and that is a boy. He is equally attached to both of us .Irrespecive of gender we can relate to him.
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
19 May 11
In my case, i was more attached to my mom at my early age. When I grew up, I am more attahced to my dad. Now I think it's equal. Probably the reason is dad is always the one who does't know how to express the love to kids. While we grow up, we start to understadn dad's part and then dad earn his point. Yet, no matter what, we love our parents. Enjoy your day, professor
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
19 May 11
hi professor, i am both close to my mom and dad. i am their eldest daughter. my mom pampered me with care while my father was the strict one but was concerned with responsibility and it was him who taught me how to be responsible for myself and to be independent. i have seen my cousins even the males are still very dependent on their parents. that - my father didnt want. he said he is there to help but always insisted that we learn how to be independent and i guess i can never thank him enough for that. my mom, taught us how to love one another and not to fight about things and to share. i learned a real great deal from them and i love them both equally. ann
• China
19 May 11
My son who is only child gets along well with his mother .It seems that he always gives me a wide berth and seldom has heart to heart talk with me.I make a introspection,I think that the reason why he does so is that I always talk down to him apart from I am serious in speech and manner generally.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
18 May 11
I was daddies girl my daughter was daddies girl and my grnad daughter is daddies girl. alth Grand daughter shares most of her feeling equal between daddy mommy and me grandmawmaw. She doesnt show that affection to her other grandma when she is here living with us. SHe has never slept with other grandma and she does with me when other grandma has grand daughters bed. COUld be as I have helped raise her from birth huh?
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
18 May 11
Hi Professor, I have only a single son. He liked to be with both of my husband and me too during his childhood and teenage. now he is a grown up adult and he tends to attach to me. He works and stays in another state. He calls me and we have lots to share on the phone most of the time. May be his dad is rather nagging. Anyway his amiable dad enjoys listening to our pleasant chitchat on the phone. Yeah, he could get what we are talking about form my talk, but most of the time he engrosses in his chinese calligraphy writing or wash painting work. If so I usually would like to share some of our conversation with him then Happy posting
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
18 May 11
hi professor oh my husband and our little brain damaged daughter were nuts about each other. He loved her totally and I delighted to see how gentle and patient he was with our LIsa Rose. she was prettu as a picture and loved everyone. a sweetie evn if she was a bit behind outher children. now my son and I were su per close as his dad sor tof turned his back on him. shen I remonstrated with him for not being a father to his own son he said our son was too attached to me, well for goodness sakes a child needs his parents and when one parent just turnd his back the other parent is forced to step up. I wanted and needed for him to bond wijth his own son.A father has things that only a father can give to his own son. He had often remarked and I had thought he was joking that his son bore no resemblance to him. well that sure did not mean that our son was not his father's child. Our son actually looked like my own grandpa Richey when he was a youngster which was okay or so I thought. since then years later I have often wondered if my husbaqn thought maybe I had not been faithful at some point and our son was not his son. this was totally false as I loved my husband an had never even looked at any other man vor would I have ever cheated oln him.Ropbbie was his son whether or not he believed it.As Robbie entered his teens he looked a lot more like his dad. b ut then when he finally tried to bond with his own son , Robbie was too angry and hurt for it to be much success.He again turned to me. I felt like I was in a perpetual tug of war between my son and myhusband as I tried to be the peace maker for bo th of them, I loved them both and wanted them to love each other as fahter and son. it never happened and I lost hope finally.I just learned to live with the fact that my husband did not seem to like his own son and his own son was cold and distant with him too.When my son moved out on his own my husband seemed more himself with me and our little girl. I had felt as if he thought our son was a failure in some way.
@marguicha (215837)
• Chile
18 May 11
I was the eldest child and by personality, I think, I was a lot more attached to my father than to my mother. Later on, when I married and had 2 daughters, I think that each of us had different relations with our daughters. I was the one to teach them and my husband played with them. But when something more important came up, the last word was said by him and there was no arguing. I taught them to read and cook and sew, my husband took them to the zoo. We both picniced with them and went to museums together.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
18 May 11
dear dada, I am more attached to my grandfather ,as i was raised by my grandparents. I am not so close to our father,but i do love him ..it's just that i am not that close to him. Blessings from you dear dada and regards to maa and shubee
• United States
18 May 11
Hi Professor I have a daughter and son of which I raised completely on my own. I am very proud and honored that the both of them are very attached to me. Sadly their father excited their lives and never looked back. Therefore, I compensated by making sure they were raised properly, honestly, and very caring. They are grown now and very happy to say they have turned out well and to date are both very attached to mommy. They still call me mommy.
• Philippines
18 May 11
I would admit that I am more attached to my mother. This is because me father had to worked abroad for our family. I am 19 years old and my father is working abroad for more than 20 years. But since I am all grown-up, I am trying to be attached with my father. Every time he comes home and every time we are talking on phone, I am always trying my best to make him feel that I am so close to him even he's far away.