Option of sending a short message with a friend request?

Hi Jen Now this is odd because once a member did request me and I have no idea how he did this but he requested with a message that said my pigtails are cute. I though huh? how did the member know how to send a short message with the request. I searched and searched and am still puzzled on how he did this?? But yes it would be nice and I will tell you why. I get many, many requests for friends daily. While I do not know how to say no, I have well over 700 almost 800 friends now. I do not mind friending anyone because I came here with absolutely none. Though I never requested anyone the requests came pouring in. But recently I have taken a back as to who to accept right away. Reason is that many who do request have never interacted with me at all, while I cannot understand why request if they have no idea what I am like. After viewing their activity, I have recently left them in pending to see what they interaction is like because I have way too many already who NEVER comment back on their numerous discussions. So yes I would love to have that option as well because this way I too can reply back and say how come? lol

I think that's a real good idea, Jen. I have gotten leary of accepting new friends. i always look at their profile. I don't accept as many as i use to. If i do select them & they start out w/whatever i just go right back & delete them. Hope u have a great weekend. Hugs.

Hi, Jen That sounds like a good suggestion, why not, if myLot is willing to place in that kind of feature. I often wait and see if someone who requests friendship also contributes to the discussions and shows their motive to be here. If the motive is spamming, maybe they don´t start any discussions at all and I am very reluctant to approving their friendship. In cases like this, it may help to learn a little about the person who wants to be your friend.

Some sites let you set up your personal security so that people who aren't on your friends list cannot send you personal messages. And alot of people don't state what they are really about anyway so even if they could could send a message with the FR wouldn't do much good. I really don't feel that in alot of situations it would clear this up.

Hi JenInTN That is an awesome idea and this is the way it should have been - in real world too when we start off with a friendship we at least ask "Hi, How are you?" instead of handing a message - which is plain and blank and appears on the mailbox with my icon. I would love to have this feature. Spammers will always exist on the Internet and I know this might make things some better for them - They can attach the report feature on the PMs too to make life easier for all of us who dislike spam, but then they are just a few in Number here and there are many more who would catch the appreciation and help in making great friends. When I would send out a FR I would definitely love to PM the "WHY" and also love recieving the same with the FR.

I was planning to clean up my friend's list now. Because I keep receiving messages on from some people who needs referrals. I don't say it's bad. I do send referral links but not without the person's consent. And Well, I merely hang around with mylot because of the discussions that are so entertaining. Not much on online earning section though. I love discussions about life and relationships most. Well, it's a tip for me to check the profiles first before approving the friend request. What you're suggesting would also be helpful though. Thanks.

A time or two I have had that box pop up for a short message, or I have received one. So obviously there is a potential there. Not sure where they came from or why they are not always an option.

I think that's a GREAT idea - after my second "friend" turned out to be a spammer, I have always checked profiles... yes, I deleted him

I think that's a very good idea...I know most times you are chosen by someone new if you have alot of responses etc...it would be nice to hear why they chose you!

I think it's a great idea. It might make it easier to decide whether to accept or not...

If they were looking for referrals? Referrals for where? We're already members so it couldn't be a referral to myLot? I, too, have often wished for a message box for requesting friends. Most all of the other sites have this. I think it has been proposed before but obviously not acted upon by the administration.

If I send a request and they accept I will often send them a short note about my reasons for asking them to accept me, and thank them.

It isn’t a bad idea Jen. Of course right now we cannot send a message to anyone unless they are a friend. I too have encountered spammers when I accepted their request for friendship; it is so disappointing to discover that all the other member wants is your money! I stopped accepting every request a long, long time ago. I always check profiles carefully before accepting.

i understand what you mean^^ like in facebook when we invite someone to be friends with us. we can add a little message. well here in mylot that could happen also. anyway about me i really didnt get much messages for referrals or spam. mostly people that invited me wanted to really be friends^^ so im happy that here in mylot i received such good advises when i needed it^^ that way i know that when i have a problem and need a lot of advises i can expose my problem here and will get help^^

I second that Jen. I think, it is a good idea. A lot of things get clear through communication before actually accepting the request.

Hi Jen, after reading a few of your responses, I see there is a way to send a short message with a friend request!! Wow!! So cool! I learned something new today so my day wasn't a total loss after all!! So I'd like to thank you for starting this discussion! Yay!! LOL

i sure think that might help. but you would likely still get some that would spam you. i always look at the profile and i just recently got one i ok'd only to have them spam me TWICE! the next day maybe you got the same request? of course their not my friend now.

I was half-expecting mysD to be already in here. I see what you're saying. The same as in FB, where you could include a short message. I think that's a great idea. It would help weed out the spammers from those that really are good friends here.

I think that's a good idea, Jen! Very good! So, people don't think you just want to be friends to get more referrals! That is annoying!

I didn't know that people would send friend requests just for the sole purpose of sending referral links. But it would really be great if we could send,say a 140 character message stating what we would want out of our friendship here at mylot. So far, I'm perfectly fine with the friends I got since they really start great discussions I can relate to and learn from.