My mother has no manners

@tessa9 (1085)
Philippines
June 4, 2011 9:32pm CST
I love my mother first of all but sometimes it gets really annoying. I find it hard to bring her to parties because of what she does. She does not act like a lady. She does not cross her legs or at least close them when she is wearing a dress. She burps so loud and do this weird faces. I know its really harsh and mean for me to say this but I just want her to be more respected.
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19 responses
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Aw let momma be the person she is. If she doesn't cross her legs or burps out loud, what harm does it truly do? Focus on those things that she does good like being a mother to you. I wish my mom was alive today doing what you say your mom does. I would be the happiest man on earth.
@rhejans (191)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
I touch with this message. Wonderful. .
• United States
5 Jun 11
Your a gem to be this honest about your mother. I think she is like many I know. I wish soon she will get told this so she can change for herself and for you.
@tiffnkeat (1675)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
The issue is she told us, but did she tell her mom that? @Tessa, your mom is what is inside her that made her look after you while you grow up. Do not be annoyed by her actions. I am sure when you were younger and less conscious, you didn't mind any of it. If you love her, exercise patience to hint to her. If she is slow in learning, forgive her (although forgive is not really the right word). if she doesn't cross her leg, cover a shawl over her lap. If she make faces, make faces with her and laugh with her. I am sure she makes those faces for a purpose. If she burps out loud, that could be her way to compliment the cook? Look at each of these and come up with reasons to love her more. I am a man, but if I were a woman and YOUR MOTHER, I would love for you to be more considerate. I am sure she will want that too, Tessa.
@twistzao (71)
• Portugal
6 Jun 11
yeah, your mother is like that. You can't really do anything to change it... Talk to her, told her what you told us... I think that is the only thing you can do. Tell her you don't want to bring her to any party because of her behaviour. If she understands it, she will control herself.
@DummyBlog (379)
• Pakistan
5 Jun 11
Hey!! "My mother has no manners"
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
I understand how you fell. You are like stuck in the middle. Maybe you could talk to your mother sincerely and ask her to behave herself when you go out with her. Im sure your mother would not hold it against you.
@anklesmash (1413)
5 Jun 11
That sounds just like my nan she does all those things and embarrasses us all however we still love her because she is a good person who loves her familly and has done a lot for us.When your mother embarrasses you remember that if it wasn't for her you wouldn't be around and she deserves your love and respect.
5 Jun 11
Hi ,I suggest you could remind her when she acts impudently.I don't think that it is wrong to rectify you mom's rude actions in the public.
@swtpareek (650)
• United States
5 Jun 11
You should tell your mother gently that Mumma it doesn't suit you when you burp out loud in the party and being the best mother out there I want no one to point fingers at you about anything. I guess she might understand what you want to convey this way.
@yspmyl (3436)
• Malaysia
5 Jun 11
I think what you need to do is just tell your mother about it, at least you need to tell her what she should not do and why she shouldn't do it in the party. Communication will really help to solve the problem instead of you keep it by yourself and she definitely will not know about it.
@dong88 (795)
• China
5 Jun 11
In fact,your mather,it appears she not artificial,her real cute.Really!my suggestion is that you can communicate with your mom,please her later pay attention to their own image,if she did not want to change,then in the next similar activities,you don't take her to attend.
@laydee (12807)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
I think there are a lot of mothers or even sisters or friends like that. But that doesn't mean that they can't really change - I think they would be conscious once you tell them. However, telling them is the toughest part in all of this, you cannot tell anyone this type of comment without hurting them. However, perhaps you could try saying it subtly or jokingly. Try to do it when you're alone with her. Like when eating, then she starts to burp, perhaps you could comment like "whoah that was a big one, felt like a boat is coming!". Yes, there will be a laugh about it but perhaps if you keep on watching out for those burps she'll soon realize or be conscious that she's doing it and she will eventually mind them and soon it'll be gone. Another one is, if you think she doesn't know how to keep her legs shut when wearing dresses, then why don't you allow her to wear pants instead? Same goes with the making faces, perhaps you should tell her about it and wait and see. Until you feel you're confident enough to bring her to parties, I think it'll be best if you didn't. For sure she won't be comfortable in your parties either. But of course, once in a while, just let her do her thing afterall she has grown that way and indeed it's difficult to teach old dogs new tricks. Do give more respect to your mother, even if she's that way. Have a great MyLot experience!
@sjvg1976 (31135)
• Delhi, India
5 Jun 11
Hi tessa really you have the guts to talk on this topic publically.Really you need to talk to your mother sometimes we need to advice our elders so that they may feel what the etiquettes is??? You should discuss it with your mother politely & teach her to how to act in parties/publically.
@misterMR (797)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
The title is kind of negative but the description is rich in content. I really love that. I thought it was kind of a negative topic but it seems that you wanted to help your mother to be a better person. People who care about others are actually cared back two folds. You can help her change to the better. There are times when people really do not want to change because they are who they are. It's easier to accept people, whether bad or good, when they themselves accepts who they are and does not pretend so much.
@greenpeas (998)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
Maybe that is her way of saying she does not like parties at all. Some people when they get nervous they do all sort of things which you may misinterpret as obnoxious when what she means is "hey I dont like here, please let us go". She probably just forces herself to your partes because she loves you and she does not want to turn you down, so take that also into consideration.
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
i think you better talk to her about this. ask her why she's like that and if she's willing, talk about how she can change these things/
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
Try to talk to her and tell her what you feel. Since she is your mother for sure she'll understand your point. Good luck.
@tiina05 (2318)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
hello, Why don't you tell her about it and try to open it to her. alright? I know it is really hard to change what those things that use to do but I think with your help your mom will change little by little. But the most important here is we must still learned how to respect our mom..
• United States
5 Jun 11
Oh tessa I am sorry you are still having problems with your mothers behavior. Sadly she will not like being told what to do, I am sad she can't understand that you too should be respected because this is dis-respectable to you.
@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
5 Jun 11
I suppose it depends on the circumstances to a degree. If the parties are just casual social gatherings, I don't think it's a huge problem. Sure, it's irritating and not very classy for your mother to behave that way, but if that's who she is then there probably isn't much point to starting a conflict trying to change it. If it's something that is actually hurting your reputation, though, I don't think there would be anything wrong with saying "Mom, I love you and I really like having you along, but I would appreciate it if you would be more polite about certain things when we're in public." If she's not willing to be polite, then you could simply not invite her to parties in the future.