Desperate HOUSEWIFE
@allknowing (153529)
India
June 5, 2011 12:55am CST
They spent a week with us for which I had planned everything well in advance. No diet problems they told us but that was not the case.No sooner they landed there was a litany of no no's. "Nothing cold from the fridge", "We don't eat eggs", "Oh we hate hotel food" and all this when everything was already in place - ice cream, jelly, iced fruit, eggs stored, eating out one one day, etc. etc. But guests have to be treated with respect and to do that I had to do trapeze acts as my maid was not regular too! They were three of them and so I made sleeping arrangements in two separate rooms but the one who slept alone (Yes. an adult!) got frightened and came to the room where the other two were sleeping - making arrangements once again was not that easy.
I wonder if I will ever invite them again.
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8 responses
@GardenGerty (169530)
• United States
17 Sep 15
If you invite them again you will know ahead of time what is not good for them. It will have to depend on how much you enjoyed them whether you invite them back.
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@allknowing (153529)
• India
18 Sep 15
No thank you. And yes. I also remembered their water consumption. They did not like bottled water but boiled at home. 
@sjvg1976 (42727)
• Delhi, India
5 Jun 11
Hi allknowing,
I do not like guests at all but we have to welcome them because also be a guest somewhere.This happens to all the housewives as they have to do some extra work apart from their own work and daily routines almost get disturbed but what to do as guest are guest you have to be the host for them.
If i have been at your place i would also be equally annoyed but there are somethings which we should accept nothing much you can't do for it.
I do not like guests at all but we have to welcome them because also be a guest somewhere.This happens to all the housewives as they have to do some extra work apart from their own work and daily routines almost get disturbed but what to do as guest are guest you have to be the host for them.
If i have been at your place i would also be equally annoyed but there are somethings which we should accept nothing much you can't do for it.
@allknowing (153529)
• India
5 Jun 11
The worst is when they offer help! Having to 'grope in the dark' they seek help at every stage which is worse than doing the job yourself
@allknowing (153529)
• India
5 Jun 11
Being the 'glass is half full' type I did enjoy their stay. But I would have done a better job if I had known in advance that they had problems with their diet.
But i also feel it would have been better!!!!
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
5 Jun 11
"Maids, water supply and current supply have an extra sixth sense if guests arrive." This was a pertinent observation made by one of my old aunts and I have also found it valid. If guests are finicky it becomes really difficult. As we grow older , it is worse still because work overwhelms us.
@allknowing (153529)
• India
5 Jun 11
You are so right kala. Yes my pump conked out just two days before they arrived and this pump has been working for years without any problem.Thankfully I have guys who rushed and set it right but not before I had to ask my guests to use my bathroom as the tank that connects to their room was empty! My diligent maid had real problems and so she stayed away. I was preparing breakfast and just realised that I did not have corriander leaves which were essential for whatever I was preparing. It was desperately hilarious I say!
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
5 Jun 11
I am with you that behaviour and conduct of guests was not as it should have been. They should have realised the limitations of the host and would have tried to adjust as much as possible. Causing trouble for host is not a good attitude and you are right, next time you would think twice before inviting them.
Your avatar is beautiful and it has different shades, I liked it.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
5 Jun 11
I can understand that it hurts when guests do not appreciate your hard work and planning and do not adjust in the given environment. I understand you would have done the best possible arrangements for them.
You have so many beautiful flowers in your garden and by using the animation software, you showed us many of them.
@allknowing (153529)
• India
5 Jun 11
I never could upload this until someone here in myLot mentioned that the size should only be 60x40. I can now have variations with other flowers and hope to work on it and upload them here.
@allknowing (153529)
• India
5 Jun 11
I am a perfectionist when it comes to entertaining and I hate doing last minute changes. Today's generation I get the feeling are not so thoughtful.
The avatar that you see here is the images of flowers from my garden. I have an animation software which I used to create this avatar. Thanks for your appreciation.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
More often than not, your plans won't go as expected so it's better having a plan b or a plan c. I've had something kind of the same and it also had cut backs. I had to think of ways to pull everything back into place by thinking of workarounds. I'm also never doing that again.
@allknowing (153529)
• India
5 Jun 11
I make a trunk call and particularly ask about their diet but did not expect that they would suddenly make their demands. Nice people but a bit insensitive I think. I did express my displeasure about this and I am sure they will not repeat this wherever they go in the future.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
If they got the hint then I'm sure they won't repeat it. Come to think of it, it's easier to be insensitive than the other way around and most of the time it happens when you're nervous but want to calm instantly. Maybe they were in that state during the affair.
@allknowing (153529)
• India
5 Jun 11
Problem arises when the host believes in treating the guests well and these last minute changes do disturb the apple cart so to say. I just do not like to work that way. I plan my hours and get ample time to relax if everything goes as per plan.
@polaris77 (2039)
• Bacau, Romania
5 Jun 11
If I had guests with so many problems and demands I would probably not invite them to my house.I think some guests don't realize that they cross the line sometimes and bring their hosts close to despair.I guess they should also be in the position of hosts and see what it's like to have such visitors,and I suppose they will change their attitude.
@allknowing (153529)
• India
6 Jun 11
It is a nice feeling when there are house guests. I enjoy the hustle and bustle but in an organised way. Least did I expect that there would be demands. Nowadays I know having house guests is not a done thing but I am different. I have enough space and all facilities but what I do not like is when my plans get upset and that's what happened with these guests.
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
16 Sep 11
Wow!! This would not be a Good experience nor a Fun one, and if it was me would definately make me think twice before ever wanting someone like that around for very long again. Personally you would think when someone comes to visit they would take into consideration this is not their place, and they should be thankful but in your case it looks like too much had to be changed.
@julianmac (396)
• Malaysia
5 Jun 11
Hi,
This is awful. I had a similar experience once. It was so tiring working myself to the bone. I even had leg cramps at night probably due to too much of walking. My relatives simply ignore my health condition and expects me to prepare everything for them. Just like in your case no outside food, not spicy enough, its too oily and many more complaints. Don't invite them over and save yourself a lot of trouble. In my case, I am doomed for life because my relatives would still show up in my doorstep uninvited.
@allknowing (153529)
• India
5 Jun 11
I will never entertain anyone uninvited because I just cannot cope. I need time to plan. I enjoy entertaining actually but this sudden announcement that they don't eat this or that after telling me that there is no problem with their diet it did put me off but I somehow managed.
