How to face the person you hate

China
June 5, 2011 7:56am CST
In life ,especially in the workplace, unavoidably will encounter hates man ,he always make indiscreet remarks or criticisms in front of you ,like before in leadership gossip .but because of all sorts of reasons and you have to deal with him ,in the fact of such person or thing, what would you do? How to embrace you hate but must face? How to deal with such relationships
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20 responses
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
Hi! This is true with me in my work place. There is someone I hate and unfortunately, it's our boss. She's a meddling hag, a hypocrite beeyotch, a backstabbing pig, and all sorts of bad things you can imagine. She always use every opportunity to stop my promotion at work and I really hate her for it. She's always starting gossip and she believes in other gossip so easily and use that against someone. Many people actually don't like her at the office and she's really got no professionalism in her. She's a lousy boss and we're afraid our company will no longer prosper if she became our permanent boss.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
I'm sorry I forgot. To answer the question, although my insides are boiling with hate, I don't have a choice but to face her with a fake smile and a lousy friendly pat on the back. She is our boss and to spite her in a straightforward is like quitting our job.
• China
11 Jun 11
Oh, that's really unfortunate, there is such a bad boss,I can understand you feelings, now I would treat such people when he does not exist.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
10 Jun 11
Hi! If there are such a person in my company, I will probably only deal with him about the work and not more than that. I will not talk to him about personal matter or anything not related to work. But to overcome this kind of people, sometime we should raise our voice whenever necessary, they will keep quiet if they know that you are not the right person that they can be bully.
• China
10 Jun 11
Well, I agree with you, talk as little as possible with such people.
@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Do it with a smile! Don't let it get to you. These types of situations or relationships are all around us and honestly when people see you smile, then you win! They don't want you to smile and be happy, so do it in spite! :)
• China
6 Jun 11
Thanks for your advice,yes,smile is the best way,both for others to yourself.
• India
6 Jun 11
There will always be annoying characters to deal with at your workplace. My idea of dealing with such relations is to keep it cold. Be cold while involving in conversations with him or in his presence. This might probably help you not worsen the situation and yet find a way to face him. Being diplomatic, another thing you can do is forget & forgive, but there are certain limitations to implement this. If you have specific instances of him insulting you, you can report it to your higher official. Hope these help..
• China
6 Jun 11
May be a good way, thanks!
6 Jun 11
Hi,It is difficult for me to face the persons I hate,but in somethimes we have to face them,and communicate with them,even we need to smile to them.Beacuse we,employees,have no chioce but facing them,we need the job and we don't want to get fire.Those persons are disagreeable,but get over it.Have a nice day!
• China
6 Jun 11
thanks ,Have a great day !
@sjvg1976 (41134)
• Delhi, India
5 Jun 11
hI WZM, This is really a difficult situation to face a person you hate specially at workplace.Most of the person hate their bosses so do i. I always hate my boss because of his short temperateness.But i need to talk to him regarding work at least 4~5 times which is a need as you cannot neglect your boss. Has he not been my boss i would have run away whenever he would have come to me for some work. Personally also the people i hate i do intend to avoid them. I always try my best not face him.
• China
6 Jun 11
thanks,Have a great day!
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
7 Jun 11
I just try to ignore anyone that makes me feel bad. I avoid them at all costs. And if I must interact with them I just keep everything really short and specific. I usually will prepare myself for what I will say. I tend to get very upset and shake even if the relation is really bad. So because I dont deal with adversity well I do my best to avoid it. Thats why I work at home LOL!! I cant stand jerky people at work and usually I am in a higher position but not the top and so I get to much turmoil from others. Besides the fact that I am a strong opinionated person. I am not mean at all and I am very accepting of the individual but I take my job seriously and am not afraid to direct. And that can make people really mad especially ones that have been there longer than me.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Even if the person is being hated in what he is did to your or to others. We need to respect when we face him in unavoidable circumstances...Just talk to him normally as we did to someone else that we don't hate...
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
For me just ignore it the happening in your life and think the first you've known them then continue to do so every aspect in your life and forget the pain inside you both.
@Fireheart (683)
• India
5 Jun 11
Where there is love there will also be hate, like having there is light at the same time darkness cant be avoided. Hate often lead to disaster and end up going nowhere, where as love has many possibility and it does not hurt . Keeping loving the people who hurt you thats my way of life. giving hatred can only give hate. so in fact you must embrace the love of others and never hate and understand its the ignorance of them to do such thing.
• China
5 Jun 11
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me ! best wishes
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
5 Jun 11
I think all of us have this one person we don't like. i do have people I'm not really fond of. The thing I do is not care what they do and just avoid them. I think that's the best thing. Just be who you are and minding your own business.
• China
5 Jun 11
Thanks for you words ,Have a great day!
@ludyvel04 (311)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
Its really hard to do so when you really hate that person. There is no way to avoid him. Best thing is to be professional by talking things concerning about your work and do not go beyond personal things.
• China
5 Jun 11
Hi wzm1022: That's a problem which annoies me much. You know, with a straight face,I have to talk to the one that I hate when I encounter, which make the situation much embarrassed. In my opinion, if you are close colleagues. Please forgive their shortcomings that you hate and try you best to embrace him.
• China
5 Jun 11
Thanks for your advance, good night!
@sentshan (40)
• Jamaica
6 Jun 11
I think the best way is to always remind youreself why you are there in the first place and think happy thoughts. dont let anyone steel your joy.
5 Jun 11
Tell me about it. I go through that everyday. THis guy at work unbearably painful to look at or even talk. ANd the first thing I see when I go to work is his face. And it's like OMG there goes another day with him! I just give a half wry smile and hope never to see him again for the rest of the day or ever. It's just a case of hoping to not see that person.
@Jiabsa (511)
• India
6 Jun 11
"Smooth roads never make good driver, Clear sky never makes good pilots, Problem free life never make a good person, Life is a challenge, face it." In life there are people who will hurt us and cause us pain, but we must learn to forgive and forget and not hold grudges.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
I will never allow anybody to make indiscreet remarks or criticisms about me. I will right away, ask him but not in a confrontational manner, why he is doing it to me. Then, if he still persist in doing it, i would file a formal complaint to our Human Resources Department, so that such actuation shall be dealt with accordingly.
@ashter27 (10)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
You have to control yourself and deal nicely to that person. In the end the credit and benefit are yours.
@sanijas83 (270)
• Latvia
6 Jun 11
I had to stand an acting director in my workplace. I pretended as I have no objections to work with, but it was hard to start to negotiate with that person. One could understand I had to pluck up my spirit to be able to behave normally, and collaboration was not really successful. That person was nervous as there was not experience how to manage a company.
5 Jun 11
Yes friend we have to face many people like this in our whole life. this is how we have to face many problems like this but i dont notice that small things but for the work we have to do this In my life i face many persons like this.