Women should get out those abusive relationship

By reading your discussion, I have much respect for you as a man. A lot of women get caught in abusive relationships, but from being women, we are by nature smaller then men and we are dominated by them. We are by nature are afraid of men and what control they have over us. Some women are strong enough to hold their own, but most just let themselves be dominated and by consequence sometimes get hurt or killed. I believe that there should be support groups all over the world that will find and help these women, because chances are an abused woman will not walk into a building and scream for help. They fear they will be caught and get hurt. We need to help them and get them away from their abusers and counsel them to find the right men that will not hurt them but love them for who they are as a woman and not take advantage of the gender.

I agree with you totally on this. I am trying my best to get my daughter out of hers at the moment. She is married and pregnant and now lives with me again.

there are many reasons why a woman can't leave as is the case of my 2 sisters. both my sisters lost their jobs because of a need to be there for their children while their partners do not support fully and are abusing them verbally and physically. the lack of economic power is one of the reasons why a woman cannot stay out of the relationship. also, these weak women comfort themselves that at least their children have fathers. but what kind of partner, and a father, is a man who abuses a helpless woman?

I've heard about women in those relationships but, ever heard of the phrase,love is blind?" They sure are blind because their love made them ignore all the bad things being done to them. Someone should wake them up from their "deep sleep." It will be good if women from this kind of relationship have their friends or family close by to advice them on what to do if their boyfriends get abusive.

Behind those issues there's a reason. Whatever it is seems to be wrong. They don't have to use their hands just to correct and let their love ones know that they are wrong. If this is the case don't think but to get out of the relationship. Its nothing healthy at all. They have to do that before worst thing to happen in them. They have their choice to stand on their own and live away those people. Good day! God bless!

Some women could not get out of the abusive relationship because they are dependent upon their partners financially. That is why, they are lucky if their kins are just nearby because they can seek their support (be it financial, psychological, or otherwise) while looking for employment. Nowadays, when then are already womens' desk that check the sad plight of women who are being abused, it is much easier to ask for assistance. More so, because the society promotes gender-responsive programs which are pro-women because the women groups are sometimes at the disadvantaged position. But I think, this is not true in other countries, it will now depend which country has a society that promoted womens' welfare.

Easier said than done. It is very easy to say what one should do or what we would do if we were in that situation, but you'll find that if you really are in such a position, things are not so clear-cut. Something that many fail to realize is that many of these women (or men) don't realize or admit to themselves that they are a victim. The abuser brainwashes the victims into thinking that it is the victim's fault, that they are overreacting, that this is normal, that they are not abusive, that this is how love is, etc. It's hard to stand up for yourself when you don't understand the situation. On top of that, even if a victim is alone for long enough to tell someone about it or to try to run away, a restraining order won't always be enough to stop them from coming after them. If they try to tell the police, they might not have enough proof to convict, and even if the abuser is convicted, imagine the dangers when they get out of jail. Just getting out of the relationship is not always enough to keep them safe. The victims know and fear the consequences could be worse than if they stay in the relationship. If the couple has children, that further complicates things. They may feel guilty or obligated to keep the family together. In addition, we have to remember that abusers are often sweet-talkers. They often will call the police on the victim and make things up, turning the situation around back on the victim. Many victims fear that they will not get custody of the children and they obviously cannot leave the children alone in such an environment. This is especially a possibility if the male is the victim since women are more likely to gain custody.

It's easy to say they should get out of it standing from the outside, but on the inside it's not so clear. Sketch said it better than me... but most women in abusive relationships don't think of themselves as a victim and how they need to get out. Some of them that do know they're in trouble don't know how to get out and feel trapped. I think we need to do more than just say women in abusive relationships need to stand up for themselves. You've got to watch out for your friends and sisters, and if you suspect they might be in a bad relationship then you've got to investigate. If it's true, then you can't just tell them to stand up for themselves... you've got to help them stand up for themselves and support them.

Hello.:-) Sometimes , we ,women, can tolerate abuse especially when we love our partners too much that we think we can endure anything and everything hoping that one day they will change and treat us right... But, once a finger is laid on me, I can and never will allow myself to dwell in such a relationship. What for? At the expense of my life? It is pathetic that sometimes women are too scared to get out in an abusive relationship thinking that they have nowhere to go after leaving their abusive partners or they are so blinded with the idea that they are in love. Sometimes, too scared to get out of such relationship for the fear that their partners will still haunt them down. It isn't right. You are right. We must need to stand up for ourselves because if we can't , who will?

This is indeed a sad state. I have read accounts of abused womenn and have come to understand it's not at all easy to walk away. The women who end up in abusive situations are not very strong to begin with and often do not have the skills to take care of themselves and their children. Then the emotional wear and tear from an abusive husband further hurts them.

Only foolish women stay in those relationships. Love can be an illusion to others and can easily fool them. Especially women desperate to hear the words, " i love you". Once that first strike occurs, that should be the first sign to leave IMMEDIATELY. Does not matter if you require him for financial support, you life is endangered. For those who are still in this relationship, be brave, get inspiration from the movie "enough" starring Jennifer Lopez. Remember, you are much more safe asking people for help, than keeping your situations secret.