Would you receive bad gift or not to get a gift at all?

@flower21 (765)
Philippines
June 12, 2011 1:14am CST
Gifts represent what the giver thinks of you and it is so good to think that he or she found time to pick something out. So every time i receive a gift, I really feel warm inside. So no matter what kinds of gift I receive whether it is bad or good. Still, I appreciate it. Do you appreciate whatever gift is given to you or you would return it or in some case just accept it and give it away afterward?
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8 responses
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
it depends i the gift is insulting or so very expensive. i would only mean the person who give it to me like to embarrass me or in terms of very expensive if he is a suitor. it look like she is buying me and for his love to me that should not be compare to expensive item. i would send it back to the giver with an explanation. if he insist and i feel so good. i would accept it and thanks him fully for remembering me on my special day.
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@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
i do the same things if i form no strong connection i would also return the gifts since i find it with other meaning associated with it. like what your saying n the case of having a rich suitor. they give costly gifts just an equivalent of buying your love which s not good in the long run. for a girl who like expensive gifts t would cost their reputation of being call as gold digger which i do not like to experience.
• United States
12 Jun 11
I'm not really fond of gifts. Seeing as every birthday I get a new rosary (I'm not even religious) and other nonsense that I will never use. I do agree that a gift is something that you should be thankful for, but gifts don't always need to be tangible.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
oh, i see and those who gives you gifts maybe think your a very devout christian. likewise, those are the same item i see too that people tend to gift since when they give you such gift some say it is just sort of protection against evil. it symbolize concern that they think and care about you and also for spiritual growth. yes, gifts do not need to be an item even the presence of the person during special occasions is also sweet reminder he think of you.
@AmbiePam (85423)
• United States
16 Jun 11
Like you, I appreciate the gift, even if it is something worthless. I think it really is the thought that counts. And if someone put enough thought into something to actually give me a gift, then I will always thank them with heartfelt thanks. If it is something I cannot use, but know someone else can, I will give it away. But never to a person that might know the original gift giver.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
yes i agree with you it is the thoughts that count and if the person who gives s genuinely give it to you without asking any favor of gifts in return. i even appreciate those simple gifts and not the expensive one. there are events in my life such as birthday where i do appreciate more the presence of people who attend rather that the gifts their presence is what make me feel happy the most.
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
I appreciate every gift I received. What I value is that they remember me on this day, maybe today is my birthday. They had proven to me that I am important too. If the gift does not fit my personality, I just keep it. I still appreciate it because it is given by my friends or family. Mostly my family do not give bad gifts. They either give in the form of cash or food or cosmetic so all of it are used by me. My friends knows what I want too so all of the gifts i received from them, I use it.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
yes that very true being remember by the person whom you never expected is a great joy. even without a gifts a real presence of greeting you personally is a best gifts one could share. gifts that comes in boxes is just a material symbol and just like other say it is the thoughts that counts. I still counting and believe on that saying it never fail.
@vandana7 (98778)
• India
12 Jun 11
Hi flower, I hate costly gifts. And I hate gifts that are not well thought out, you know, mechanical..go to the shop and pick something within a budget becoz its is birthday or something. I want people to remember my birthday, and not feel, I have this impending expenditure. Moreover, gifts are always reciprocal stuff. I go to the shop, and I restrict myself to a budget, buy somebody a gift that they do not like, and they do that to me as well. Why cant we all keep our monies and buy ourselves things that we like instead of buying something within budget? Instead, if I know somebody likes writing, I could on impulse buy him or her a beautiful book, or pen, not too expensive, but just as a thought. Or somebody who likes gardening, I could buy him or her some flower pot. It need not be on the day such a gift should be given. It can be on any day I spot. Sad..that art of gifting should have become what it should have not.
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@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
me too. i am more of the thought and if the gifter really meant to give it to me whole kindheartedly without looking for me to return it. and just a simple thanks would suffice. in my case i am not really on the side of buying gifts and more i ask the person whom i plan to give what item she or like so i would have an idea and he would not get disappointed with the gifts i give to him. your ideas for a gift s awesome and not only focus on material or cost of the thing as very expensive but something which the receiver would appreciate truly.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
true it is. the gifts should be given heatedly and not in a demanding ways, your friend really know you well and also you. as she get a surprise or something you give is very good keepsake. as a sign of friendship gift giving is voluntary and not forcibly. even simple item manifest good intention when the receiver show a lot of appreciation. gifts need not be expensive but should be a meaningful one.
@vandana7 (98778)
• India
5 Oct 11
I dont ask flower. I mean, if I ask, obviously the person is going to say "do you have to buy" or "You dont have to buy to be my friend" blah blah. I tend to observe the person in depth. Based on my observations, I decide what he or she would appreciate. Sometimes, they dont even know such a thing exists. So they are extremely delighted when they see the gift I take for them. I am lucky I have friends who can appreciate even smallest gifts. I once visited a temple with my friends. On the way back, there were a few shops. I bought my friend a small laughing Buddha, barely an inch and a half large. Cost was almost a dollar. My friend wanted to go abroad, and she'd been trying for almost 5 years for visa. Coincidentally she got her visa that week. So she was ecstatic. She still says that was the best gift she'd ever received. :) So it is how we look at things I think. :)
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
17 Jun 11
"People always feel indebted to those who give things can be enjoyed when they receive something without giving anything in return. Have you ever wondered though, Cornelius, they do not understand and notes that most precious gift a man can do another man is time? for who you will ever return fraction of your time you spend feeling and trying to wipe tears friend? "Seneca I just happened to get something to feel "grateful" and I'm not sure that he felt it. Often we think only the material in time for speed is not feeling, in fact, the things that really matter. Too few times I think the most precious thing we have, namely, time. Is not it time the most beautiful gift that we could make one? And if that someone does appreciate the time you offer us? I always hit this question. But I learned, and maybe it was better not, as a glimpse of how little time a person takes. And can cost too much to be wasted. However, I would waste, not one, but all moments of my time ...
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
yes time or having a time to visit a friend during birthday or to make his sick days feel better s the greatest gift one could give. it is the gift of self or being presence to an important occasion and a gift is only a material symbols. gifts come n many forms and some make it more sentimental. a real gifts comes from a genuine heart with absence of pretension.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
12 Jun 11
I appreciate the gift that is given to me but I do not always keep it. Sometimes I ask the person who gave it to me if it would be okay to exchange it for something else.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
Same with me and sometimes receive gifts i do not like but i never tell it to the person who give gifts so i would not hurt their feelings. but if i really like the gifts i always remember the person the most and when have enough budget i would also give him gifts just for sake of gratitude and for the spirit of friendship. the best gifts actually comes from the heart whenever their is celebration in my home the actual presence of the person is also meant to me as a gift.
@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
15 Jun 11
If the ones who give the gift have put a lot of thought into the gifts, then I'll just accept, whether I like it or not. I appreciate the feelings in them. Of course there are gifts that left untouched until today but I still keep them. Bad or not, nothing can compare to a gift. Even if we can buy something better.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
yes, accepting gifts whatever shapes, styles or cost or whoever gft s a good attitude in this way you become not selective of gifts but instead appreciate them . the giver would surely be happy upon knowing such attitude n you. to accept gift whether one dislike is good and the cost of the gift does not matter but it also mean the receiver think of you. in other words it s the thoughts that counts.