Wondering what guys do when they're heartbroken?

@flower21 (766)
Philippines
June 12, 2011 1:25am CST
Do you wonder what guys do when they are heartbroken. Do they act and feel like some girls. Do they also cry, go alone in the bedroom or reflect or just slumber quietly? If you are a guy, had you already experience being heartbroken? what did you do? what did you feel? Do you go out to drink and hang out in some bars or like other loners just go to your room and sob? well, i know boy and girl have different ways to cope up?
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12 responses
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
lol.. i think guys is more secretive than girls they tend to hide their frustration and loneliness. while a girl could be more expressive about her feelings. some girls and guys could easily accept the situation while some regret. some try to win back their ex and some just find some replacement. while some just proceed with their life as if nothing happen and accept the fact the relationship is already over.
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@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
yes that true and i know many men react the same way. though some are vocal about their sadness most tend to cover up. they afraid to lose their masculinity. i think society mark men as less emotional so throughout the break up they make it appear that they could easily get another replacement and never drawn self to felt more sorrowful.
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@vikeyme (109)
• China
12 Jun 11
When i am very sad , i will just run under the rain, i seem to get crazy but in fact i am not.what i want to do is to forget my sadness.
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@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
yes that is a good escape but just ensure you never get it over done. you may get sick.but that is a nice strategy to forget your misery. the fresh rain would make your mind and body feel calm. though we may experience sadness it would pass by as time goes by to forget it and face a new day with positive outlook.
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• India
12 Jun 11
Ahh! those days...I remember how sad I was when she left town to pursue her career, and left me behind. Irony was that I was her biggest motivator. I used to tell her to chase her dreams, encouraged her whenever self-doubt creeped into her mind, pulled her up when she felt down. Even she was aware that she will have to choose either me or her career. I was settled here and I could not go with her. And if she chose career and left there was no looking back, she will never come back. She will leave for good. There were quite a few times that she cried on my shoulders due to this and I will surreptitiously shed tears hiding them from her. But I still comforted her and used to tell her all crap philosophies like destiny and stuff. And she would feel better, emotional that she was. So one fine day she got admitted to the university. It was one of the most emotional days of both our lives. We felt happy and sad at the same time, laughed one moment cried the next. I won't forget that day ever in my life. And then in a month came the day when we were to seperate. With her family and friends I was also there at the railway station. We didn't speak a single word and just hugged once. Surprisingly not a tear did we shed till we were out of each other's sight. The next few days it did actually feel like my heart was bleeding. I was moving around like a zombie. Quite a few times it felt like it wasn't real, must be a dream. I just couldn't come to terms with the circumstances, couldn't let go of her. But time is a great healer. Slowly I moved on as life went on. Today I haved gotten over her but she still holds a special place in my heart. Its been three and half years. Neither she nor I have been in another relationship yet. We still keep in touch over the phone, emails and IMs. P.S. - I have a feeling the pangs will come back somewhat the day she tells me she has got a boyfriend. And even more the day she tells me she found 'the one' and she is going to get married. Till then...
@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
well that is a very sad story but i guess your so kind to let her go and pursue her career. the good thing you still get connection and even though not so close. there still a hint if destiny permit you could still get back to each other arm again. just think positive and not think low about your self if she still think about you time would tell if your destine with each other. if you already have the same feeling. it is not yet too late to tell her at least even she doesn't bother at least your able to say what you feel about her. through the years you think of her never left a day she not going out of your mind. it takes courage and patience. just hope both you back with each other especially if she still single there still chance. just don;t lose hope. take care.
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@chiyosan (30196)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
Oh that is such a story gyanguru. I believe not allmen are like you - maybe some but those who are capable of love. other men does not seem to have experience loving someone and so they are not hurt as much as a woman was. Tpically when we are not very hurt, then that means we have not loved as much as we should have.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
heartbroken was like the end of the world, as if there is no tomorrow knowing she was out of my life, lol! but that was ages ago when i was in my younger years and looking at it now, well i just realize how foolish i have been, probably stupid, lol! i drank, cried and was awake for three two days without sleep.
@vandana7 (90598)
• India
12 Jun 11
That is so honest. Experience makes us wiser, and makes us understand other's pain as well, isn't it?
@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
yes having someone left us is very hard to accept first but as time passes by we learn to heal the wound of failed relationship. we fall and rise again to become more of a learner and a survivor at the same time. those life experience is a great teacher and we become better to fight any challenges in any form once we experience failure and learn to survive it as part of growing up.
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• Philippines
23 Jun 11
I think when a guy got heartbroken it is the same as girls, I mean some of the girls. YOu can see some guys having bottle drinking with his peers, this is for them to forgot the painful event. Some do cry when they are drunk. I have a one male friend and he shared that when he is hurt, he go to the gym and workout. Sometimes he go to the basketball court and play alone until he gets tired and sleep. He do cries, according to him. He says he do the drama too.
@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
that very normal thing to do but it seem they like to cover up and most of the time they could easily get bounce to flirt with other girls and replace the previous one. i think guy ang girls have the same experience bu the manner they express their feeling differ since you already say the differences.
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@potrish78 (742)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
Actually I'm not wondering what they do when they're heartbroken, I'm more concerned with how they handle things with grace. Men are socially taught to be tough ever since they were little. They were taught that boys don't cry, that they had to be tough and not show emotions. I know some men who drinks a lot to get over a heartbreak, some who shuts down for a while and bounce back in again. It actually depends on the personality of the person.
@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
yes i observe the same things. i had a cousin who get a divorce and now he is more feel relax even though hs ex wife remarried. he goes to a party with his friends, drink a lot and date many girls. but when his back to home t feel silent again because he got no one to cheer him up. that the time he feel lonely and miserable. though, some think getting over a relationship is even better though lonely than clinging on a relationship which makes them even feel miserable.
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@nezavisima (7410)
• Bulgaria
13 Jun 11
I do not know have never seen men suffer.Apparently men do not show it much.Hide it deep inside.But I know that men suffer but not always reveal their feelings. nice day!
@stephcjh (38702)
• United States
12 Jun 11
I have been heartbroken so many times in my life. It usually causes me to sleep alot and cry alot too.
@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
yes being heartbroken is not a good feeling it makes us think of negative things and make self think or look miserable. but other know to hide there frustration and depression by masking it with other activities such as going to the party, drinking or eating. while other tend to splurge alone in the comfort of their room. whatever means we use to forget the bad feeling. only time could tell and heal the wounds as the time passes by.
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• Philippines
12 Jun 11
Some guys drink if they are heartbroken, cry a little, and joins the company of their friends. But, guys can cope up easier that women. I've seen a lot of my boy friends mend their broken hearts easily, after a month you will see them with another girl.
@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
yes that true and i think even girls do that just to forget the bad feeling but when they wake up they still remember it. only time could heal a wound whatever degree it taught us a lesson and experience is the best teacher. whether that experience is good or bad it make us more as a survivor rather than a failure.
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@umabharti (3973)
• India
12 Jun 11
may be some do think like the same as girls do when break up.However many forget fast and get on track easily.They even try to have another women in their lives very fast.This happens with both girls and boys.Just it depends on how they react with the situation and handle it.
@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
yes that true men tend to get over the miserable relationship and bounce back. while women tend to get more emotional. though both fee the same way and have emotion. men tend to hide it as society makes men think strong and they avoid being call like a sissy girl for crying too loud.
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• Malaysia
12 Jun 11
HAHA! Good Question! Some of my friends will probably musterbat. themselves and you know...it's a guy thing. Well others will probably get over it and find some prositutes to you know... let them relax and everything. Most people will just hangout with friends and the more time they hang out and stop thinking about it they will probably heal by letting time pass through. and most of the guys won't cry in the public but in their bedrooms..haha..hard to say.
@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
lol..your very funny xyberzone..that how other guy do it? that really sounds hilarious as long as they have money in case none. they could do what you suggest..lol..but i agree with what you say time heal the wound. everyone experience it even not in love and out of fall they rise again to become survivor..
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@vandana7 (90598)
• India
12 Jun 11
I for one dont think it is macho to feel nothing. There is difference between sophisticated, sauve, kind, considerate, loving, and affectionate man, and a stud. I think most men would come in the first category. They, however, try to hide their hurt, because traditionally they are supposed to be men, and not cry, and secondly it is an ego issue. That does not mean they dont hurt. They hurt. But with that pain, they also become caring and understanding. So if we are hurt, we are possibly learning how another person feels, felt, or would feel.
@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
yes i agree men are irrational and tend to become more artificial to express their feeling. they are not transparent about their feeling as the society tend to mark them as man who is stronger and less emotional. but same with girls, men experience different emotion such as being sad, happy, excited, lonely or angry. it just that they are less expressive about their feelings.
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