Infatuation and fantasy and lovely matters.

I think I've had this same thing happen, though, without the ten years thing. I've often thought I liked people, but in all reality, I was only building some perceived image of them in my mind. This can be dangerous to do because then you think you like someone and you maybe get with them and they could be a really amazing person, but they aren't at all like you thought in your head and expected. I've done this a few times, whether it be an interest in someone romantically or just a friend. I still think I do it a lot because I've just started hanging out with this girl and at first I imagined that she'd have loads of similar interests and we'd go out like every weekend and hit the town.. but no she's nearly as big of a homebody as I am. With all that said, I think what you really have to do is keep them in your head as either day dreams or just dumb thoughts. Getting to know the person is key. If they annoyed you (I'm presuming they did with the way you described them), then it's probably best to just drop it all together. This is a really great discussion. Thanks for posting :D

All of us have many sides to our personalities, maybe what you are feeling is just another side of that person, if so why not enjoy and let the rest slip by. If you are looking for a long close relationship it is best to look at the whole package and make sure you can accept it all. It is always an illusion to feel you can change another, many of us take a long time to learn that lesson.

Your heart is saying what young children say about their parents. They always see their parents in a positive and good way. Why? Because they need to. They need their parents to be special and even put them on a pedestal at times. Love can get confusing when it leaves reality. People are only human and not always what we make them out to be. Your heart and your brain sometimes comes from opposite postitions.

I have always heard that opposites attract and that has been the case for me too. Me and my b/f don't have many things in common at all. We don't even think the same way about things that other people might consider very important. I think that you are so right about the creation of someone in our heads. People see what they want..or better yet..focus on what attracts them somwtimes. Most of the time the things that bug them are pushed aside and thought of as "oh well..not a big deal" It's usually after a lot of time together that the little things that bugged one before are amplified later. Sometimes it is the idea of being with someone more than it is wanting to really be with them. I hope it works out for you whatever you decide.