Would a mother's past mistake affects a child mentality?
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
June 18, 2011 11:37pm CST
I don't know if my title is appropriate for this discussion. My friend's daughter has made many mistakes in the past as she told me, and from others. Her daughter had gone through abortion once, and she also used illegal drugs before. Now she has a 2 year son with her boyfriend, I guess that her boyfriend has abandoned her already, since I don't them together for while. Sometimes, my friend has to babysit her grandson while her daughter has go to work (her job wasn't stable too), I would like to play with this little kid, since he is fun to play with, and he is smart. I just thought that, since this little boy is so innocent, and he is so friendly with everyone too, he should deserve better in everything in the future. I just wonder would his mother's past mistakes might affect him at all. Because my friend's daughter has many failure relationship, and I hope that she will meet a good man instead of someone who is irresponsible like all others before.
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11 responses
@edb225112 (124)
• United States
20 Jun 11
Our children learn from their parents and their mother beginning in the womb. Eveything the mother does before the baby is born, affects the baby. All of the behavior the baby sees once born changes the babies view of the world and how to behave in it. So, yes, I believe all of the mother's mistakes change the mother and affects the baby. Her current behavior affects the baby. From your description, this child has two stikes against him to have a good life. What a sad story. Give the child as much love as you can. No child can have to little positive love in his life.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
it is not only the child's mentality that could be affected by the past mistakes, it is his well-being, only if the mother keeps on doing these faults and mistakes in life. if she cares enough for the child, she will try to have a different life for her child, and that could lead to a possible change. it's all up to her.
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@walking2010 (1009)
• United States
19 Jun 11
In some cases yes a mother's choice sometime can effect the child mentaly such as drinking to not taking care of her body, because as the child grows there are things that, the child takes on for health, their bodies develop different. not only that let's just say that the mother has to be a stripper, just to make inz meat for her children then that is how the streets will remember her, and as the child age they begin to hear their mother name in the streets about who she was and what she did, so yes sometime it does affect the child.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Anything that the child doesn't know will not affect him. Whatever is the past of the mother should be kept from him.
What is important is that he should be raised well, and be loved by everyone in the family. With that , the child will grow into a good man.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
hi,
i think it will vary depending to the mind of the chi8ld and on how the mother explain it to the child,we all know that it will really affect the mentality of a child but it can be resolve it by the mother also,molding to the child is also needed to that situation.
@lazybug (273)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
It will have a negative effect on him (the baby) if his environment keep on insinuating the mistakes his mother made and that he'll grow just like her. But if the environment, the people he is with, treats him like any normal kid and accepts him for who he is then you have nothing to worry.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
19 Jun 11
Well, I think it is only natural to feel this way, and want to be there to help. I do hope somehow that the situation that this woman has had to endure will not affect the child in anyway and that the child can get thru all of this and be a Good person. Unfortunately with all the expectations and peer pressure and wanting someone to succeed out there this woman has a hard time ahead of her, but if she continues to have others Love and support her it will help out for sure.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
19 Jun 11
Yes friend this true mother's past mistake will affects on a child and his/her mentality. I heard most of the time Dr. ask the patient this decease is also to your mother. Ohhhh no this is very sad really for all this event mother is responsible. When child is going in wrong way all people says ohhhhh his/her mother is not good so her child is also not good. Friend parents works as a teacher for their child.
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
21 Jun 11
Hi kingsparker,
A child learns from the person he/she is closed too by birth & children do learn quickly as compared to an adult.If their mother is doing anything wrong they will catch it up and do that only. 
I have experienced it because i have two small kids & they mostly do all things in the style my wife used to do.Though they have not started speaking fluently but whatever they speak in their language are the words which my wife speaks.
So definitely mother has great role in affecting a child's mentality. They can become good if their mother wants them or teaches good things or they can go on the bad ways if they see their mother going on it.
I have experienced it because i have two small kids & they mostly do all things in the style my wife used to do.Though they have not started speaking fluently but whatever they speak in their language are the words which my wife speaks.
So definitely mother has great role in affecting a child's mentality. They can become good if their mother wants them or teaches good things or they can go on the bad ways if they see their mother going on it. @yoga23302 (28)
• Australia
19 Jun 11
I think whatever you do while you are with your kid or expecting one will affect your child in the future. If you meet many people , your child would be like to meet many people in the future. you have to be careful with your kids.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Jun 11
I think it can affect him if she doesn't change her ways soon. I think there's still a chance that he might not be affected. For example my older sister and brother have seen a lot of really horrible things when they were younger because of their father but when they were 8 & 6 years old he left for good and my mom found my dad and their life was normal again.
Now, my sis and brother are both doing great for themselves and they don't have any bad emotional scars from their childhood. I think it depends on the child.
They have the mentality that they don't want to be anything like their biological father so they vowed to do way better than him. And they have. =)
So, it can go either way I think. Hopefully she will do better soon for her sake and her son's sake. =)
