Why? Why? Why?

it's even mentioned in the guideline's that the "thanks for your response" comments should not be used and that the responder should to be as descriptive as possible. when i see a response like that, it tells me the person wasn't really interested in my comment and next time i'll think twice before commenting on their discussion.

lilbabycatapillar, I agree with that. Sometimes there is just nothing else to add to a response. And we shouldn't say just 'thanks'. When I comment, it's usually if I have something to add, or if I have questions, or if I disagree with something that was said, and make a point.

I also don't think we need to answer every response we get and for the same reasons you mention here and also if the response nothing to do with the topic. My objection is for those who often post quite a few discussions and yet,there isn't even "one" comment given for his/her respondents.For whatever reason the person may have for not commenting back, i have no idea.

I do sometimes have delays in getting back to my discussions. I have done more lately than I usually do, but I try hard to get back to them. Sometimes when it is a big discussion it takes me a while to get to the late ones.

Hi Hatley:i don't delete them but,i also won't respond to any discussion where i notice the OP has completely ignored his/her responses.why should we take the time to comment on a post? just to have it ignored. IMO,there's no longer an excuse for anyone who's been here for any length of time to continue to post and post and yet never comment back. How many times do they need to be told before they realize how pointless this?plus how they're really not earning anything by not doing this.

GG i understand perfectly how time consuming and difficult it is to be able to comment on our responses all at the same time, especially when there may be so many. ilike you get backed up at times and also sometimes forget i may have left someone out. but, on the other hand,it takes no time at all to at least leave a few responses at a time.Don't others realize many people will skip over their discussion if they see there are no comments from the OP and in turn lose some further responses they may have gotten?

Agree and that's a whole other discussion initself.or how about the ones who have 0 posts but will send a friend request and immediately after you accept, you get a referral link to their online opportunity via a PM? i would say very "self" serving to both of these instances.

Oh, that's horrible! If someone wants me to be a friend I check them out first to see what they post. If I am impressed by their comments and quality discussions, then I add them. I hope other people check me out too and do likewise! Self-servers never interest me!

redmaryjane read t he guidelines mylot amins says do not thank people for responding to your discussoin instead comment back the thanks will not be paid

I agree with Hatley,Mylot does frown on those "thanks for your response" comments whenever i see this i automatically think the person took no interest in my comment and was just trying to be polite, plus this doesn't further the discussion in any way and as you mentioned, just puts an end to it.

Of course I should thank the people who take from their time to answer my discussion. It's not only polite but it shows appreciation. Of course you cannot say only "Thanks for your reply" but you cannot go without "Thank you" as well. That's what my parents thought me when I was young and I won't skip it because myLot is not paying for "thank you".

In my previous comment to Debra, i mentioned that even if someone isn't receiving notifiers to their inbox, wouldn't they automatically visit their discussion now and then to check for responses?, especially if they were asking for advice or a question they felt was important to them. To be fair,new members as you mentioned may not be aware if the in's and out's of Mylot and don't realize that you are not paid for merely starting a discussion,but, i've come across quite a few discussions where the person has been here for quite awhile and yet,do not feel the need to respond to most or any of their posts and this i just don't understand.

moirai if you're literally taking MONTHS to reply to any of your discussions, i doubt very much if anyone is even bothering to check and see if you have finally left a comment to their responses and further doubt if anyone will take the time to leave a comment, since the discussion would most likely be forgotten about and even if by chance someone found your discussion and may be interested in your topic, IMO, they may be reluctant to add a comment, noticing that there are no replies from you, so most likely they may just move on.

All through your response here, you never once mentioned NOT leaving any responses to your discussions at any time.so, to be fair let me say that you would not be among the people i referred to in my post. You mentioned giving BR's (which i agree, does not need a further comment) this at the very least, tells the person who received it, that you appreciate their comment, and not just that thought it was the best one. You also mentioned you may not have "gotten around" to responding to your comments and this is also fine, since,quite a few or most of us (especially when we receive many responses) are not able,or have the time to answer every single comment we receive all at the same time , or even reply to every single one, but, at the very least we Do eventually comment back. My discussion refers to those who consistently post discussions, ask questions or ask for advice and yet TOTALLY ignore all of their responses and it happens much more often than you would imagine and i am at a loss in understanding why they even bother to post a discussion at all.

jujunme, The thought that I am not among the people this post refers to is reassuring. Thanks! I appreciate that. However, I do have discussions wherein I commented back on only 2 or 3 responses, and that's it (the reason being mainly the a's from my response above). And if we look back at your discussion, you have choice C & D (wherein there is a response once in a while, or leaving 1 or 2 comments) which gave me this idea that even that might be unacceptable. This is what made me think that I might qualify to be among those people. =P So I shared my reasons for doing so. =) I was thinking maybe you are one of those who believe each and every response should be commented back to. There is nothing wrong with that, by the way. That's actually better if you can manage it! =) And good for you! =) We both agree that a BR in itself does not only show that a response was read, it also shows that it was appreciated and even thought to be best, so it may not need further comment. But the thing about a BR is that only one person will be given it in any given discussion. So my target is mainly those people whose responses happen to fall a little short of the BR, or a little late (they responded after the BR was already given). Not getting a comment back still does not automatically mean the response was ignored. About the getting around to commenting back... I was just wondering how long would a delay be acceptable to people? Because I, for one, may take months to reply . And that is one of my worries because some of you mentioned above that you would ignore other discussions made by those people. I would be really sad if I were judged that way... =( And also, I repeat and clarify, there are responses which will never get a comment back (see the a's above for the reasons). But again I say, not getting a comment back at all does not necessarily mean the response was ignored. =) mike197601, Thanks for confirming that. I was starting to think that maybe only responses will earn you anything and discussions won't. And I didn't want to do an experiment just to find out for certain.

Oh, I agree with you completely. I do think some of them try to follow our advice,but we would all like to know if our help was good for them and useful.

Wouldn't we all agree it takes some time and thought to post a discussion?(ok,with the exception of the one liners they're mostly deleted anyway) then for the life of me, i don't understand why someone would take the time to do this and yet not even take a few minutes to respond to at least SOME of their responses. The ones that really baffle me are posted by people who ASK for opinions or advice on a certain topic, yet when they receive what they asked for they don't even bother commenting any longer.so what was the point of asking in the first place?

I wish some others could understand what Mylot is supposed to be about in the ways you do. it really doesn't matter how much you have to say, as long as there is at least something more than just a thank you to the person who took the time responding to your post. Plus, you are also correct,Mylot is a discussion website, so when someone posts a discussion,it should be for the purpose of receiving respondents and when they do, it's only right to acknowledge these comments and further the discussion, i applaud you for knowing this. Best wishes to you as well.

i would agree that some people may not be getting notified.but,wouldn't you think if someone is asking for advice or asking a question they presumably want an answer to they would automatically visit their own discussion to see if anyone may have responded? i know for myself even though i do receive notifiers from those on my friends list,i still visit my discussions to see if any others may have responded. Without a doubt i also dislike if my response is ignored,so what i do is, if i come across a discussion where the OP hasn't left one comment to anyone, i just skip the discussion altogether, since it tells me the person isn't interested in his/her comments so why should i bother to leave a response? just to have it ignored.

But I bet that the people who don't care to comment on responses didn't find the amusement(humor) of your post. It just seem polite to say a few words to the people who also took time to respond to the post.

Without a doubt,but,even though the choices were meant to be humorous,put another way,at least some of the choices would be pretty close to what they're thinking after posting a discussion. Honestly ,when it's all said and done,we're still left with the question as to why anyone would take the time to post a discussion, ask for replies,receive responses and then say goodbye to their own posts. We may be getting paid for our posts,but posting a discussion and then leaving it be,doesn't earn much at all,i guess some people still don't realize this

Although i do agree it does take time responding to our discussions,especially if we receive quite a few responses,to totally ignore every comment one may receive is very impolite to those who took the time to comment. it takes just about the same time to post a discussion, as it would to at least leave a few comments,especially to those who may have been helpful or gave a well thought out response. "This post is amusing!/Do you know you are the first person who saw the humor in my post?i appreciate that. and i did mention i was trying to make light of a subject that tends be a little nerve wracking for me, hence the A,B,C,D choices but who knows? maybe all of them come into play for real.

It is not so. Some time there may not be enough time to respond and also , the power problem in Tamilnadu in India may also be the reason.With the time available to sit near the computer is limited for some. So, keeping all these myLotters wanted to acknowledge the resaponse of myLotters so give thanks within the available shortest time.

Correction " response instead of resaponse"

I think it's fine to thank someone for commenting and even to say "Happy Mylotting'" as long as there's at least a comment before this.since, just saying thanks may make the one who commented on your post, think you really weren't too interested in their comment.

I've been asking that question for quite a while and still haven't come up with the answer.it just makes no sense to me especially since it has been explained hundreds of times that merely posting a discussion does not earn you anything, but, it seems to be falling on deaf ears.

Of course if we feel we won't be able to contribute to a discussion with anything of value,we do just skip over it. You are doing exactly what you should be and that's great to learn. it's nice to thank the person for their response at the end of your comment, but when it's just that and nothing more,it just tells us the person really didn't care whether we responded or not

BTW,love your light bulb avatar, very cool. Yes,i have also seen many discussions like the ones you mentioned and i have also stopped responding to them as well. Why should anyone take the time to comment on a post? just to be ignored Yes,we do receive points for starting a discussion and we get paid for doing this as well even though i don't know exactly how much, but just think of ho much more we would earn if we took the time to respond to our posts and perhaps receive a lot more responses as well.

Thanks for the BR jujunme.

Yes, it can be very aggravating,we want to be helpful to a problem someone may be having or really take an interest in their discussion, only to realize that they really weren't interested in our opinions. That's why i tend to search for my friends discussions first, knowing by experience, they will respond to their comments.

At one time or another,we all have legitimate reasons for not being able to comment or respond to our discussions and in your case, this is perfectly understandable and let me add that i am very sympathetic to your plight and hope all goes well for you and your family "it was only this week that I started my first discussion since that time and I've been "diligent" about responding to those people" There is a big difference in what you've stated here and the type of situations i speak about in my post.There are those who on a consistent basis, "never" come back to their discussions and the proof of this is how long the discussions remain open and ones that are started one right after another without a word from the OP. yes, we all know we are paid for whatever we type here and maybe for some it's enough to just start a discussion and leave it alone afterward, but,for those of us who take the time to comment and then never hear another word from the OP, it can become quite nerve wracking and a waste of our time and effort.

Hi starsailover: What really bothers me are people who ask questions or ask for advice in their post and then leave the discussion and don't even bother commenting back to any of their replies. I always think,why even bother starting a discussion at all? if you're going to end up ignoring your replies. As you mentioned if they were truly interested in receiving replies and taking the discussion further, they would at least leave a few comments to show the post wasn't only made to make a few cents.

I agree it may be laziness,but, if they can find the energy to post a discussion, why can't they find it to at least respond to some of their comments? and as far as getting senseless responses,i can understand skipping those, but when people are taking the time to give well thought out comments and they're just ignored, there's really no good excuse for this. Anyway good for you for commenting and answering your responders i also enjoy doing this as well and this is really what Mylot is all about.

Mike is correct, you will earn a certain amount of cents for posting a quality discussion but not one cent more if you do not respond to any of your comments.It's really quite simple,you earn for what YOU type,not for what others type.

You are a great example of someone who is fairly new to Mylot and yet realize what it's all about.That's what makes it so hard for me to understand why even those who have been here for a good while, continue to ignore their own discussions,it's just mind boggling.

Thank you for the compliment Juju! Well, you know they are only in it for the money then. Having peeked in on various discussions, I realise that there are a lot of people around the globe who do make a living on all the online payers available! Personally, I couldn't be bothered spending my time on those sites! I love communicating and learning as I go!