Being Short Tempered and Impulsive and Regretting Later ?

Hi anil, thanks a lot for your response, hope you had a restful weekend !I agree that it is humanly impossible for anyone to never get angry or lose temper and blow up. But when it becomes a habit and also effects your life and relationships then it is better to cultivate some positive habits like self control and will power...

LOL well said anil, it definitely is bad for health and our general well being as well ! I dont think that short tempered people are liked or popular with others in fact most people avoid them..

Yes every thing is possible with will power. We must be avoid anger. It is not good for health.

Hi celticeagle,Thanks a lot for sharing your views ! I agree that it becomes easier when you go into the root cause of it and know what triggers these temper outbursts.It is also easier to cultivate self control and some disciplinary measures while young and still impressionable...But one can definitely try at any stage of one's life to get out of a harmful habit - all the best and happy mylotting

My grandson has anger issue and he is on medication for it. He is also having lessons by a PSR. The younger you learn the better.

I wish him the very best ! I agree that when they are still young and are able to mould their nature , it is easier to teach self control and other qualities which help them remain calm and collected when they grow up and have to deal with many disturbing and difficult situations in life....

Hi chiyosan, Yes there are such people who are perpetually losing their temper and screaming at people. I personally feel that there is a lot of unhappiness or disturbance in their lives and they are trying to vent out their frustration through such deeds. Thanks a lot for sharing your views, all the best and happy mylotting

Hi marriedman, thanks a lot for your response !I can understand how you must feel.Some people are interfering by nature and it becomes very difficult to get on with them without losing your temper.May be you should have a talk with your better half and tell her exactly how you feel and also try to have as little as you can with your m in law...I mean do not give her a chance to make you feel upset.Also, have you trued being friendly with her and see if it changes her attitude? I dont know, but, people react differently when relationships are strained or not cordial...all the best and have a nice weekend

Hi savypat, I agree with that wholeheartedly and I admire those who are able to handle situations with self control !As you rightly say we need to cultivate it from childhood. But one can try to do it at a later stage too..I try to remain calm most of the times but there are certain things that make me lose my temper....wonder how to overcome that ???

Just keep working at it, when it's all over go over it in your mind and find your trigger point. I am 70 years young and still can loose my temper once in a while, but I know that I am the one that is going to pay the price, either by feeling like a fool or having a terrible headache.

Agreed! I have seen so many relationships breaking and friendships turning sour just because of one single incidence when someone lost their temper and let go...At the same time I guess most people do mellow with age and are able to take most things in our stride except may be a few unfortunate occasions..

I agree ann , that at times it is not easy to be controlled and to stay cool! I have had many such experiences and my mother would always, in fact still advises me to calm down and not let go....It is not easy, but I am trying my level best to do so...As you rightly say we can only learn through mistakes and experiences..

Hi elmiko, thanks a lot for sharing your views I suppose so! however, there are some who dont really care about consequences when they lose their temper and neither do they regret. But in most cases people do feel bad after the outburst..

Hi sreedhar, thanks a lot for your response. No doubt that sometimes we have no control over our temper and we blow up only to regret later - all the best and enjoy your weekend

Hi bhanu, I dont know if cleverness has anything to do with temper. It is a known fact that the more intelligent a person the more impatient he gets with others and likely to lose his/her temper.I feel that it is a weakness to lose temper easily and most people seem to have it except a few who are able to remain calm...thanks a lot bhanu for your response and have a nice weekend

Hi katie, I agree that when a person is young and immature one tends to lose temper at the slightest reason and also get back to normal as quickly. ..All in all it is better to cultivate the habit of staying calm and face adverse situations in a mature manner without letting go of your self..

Hi polaris, thats really a wise thing to do.My mother always tells me that counting 10 helps in becoming calmer and I agree with her.I agree that some people can really become violent and abusive when they lose their temper, only to regret later when the damage is done....As you rightly say such people need some counselling and help to get over it - thanks a lot for sharing your views and all the best

Hi naija,Once a person is determined and makes up his/her mind to stay calm and not lose his/her temper it is easy to tackle such situations without really losing temper or becoming emotionally disturbed...what is needed is the will power to do so

Hi thatgirl, same here .I am normally controlled but there are certain issues which bring out the worst in me. I am trying my level best to control myself and not lose my cool.I understand how you feel after the outburst, but as you say one can't help it !