Have You Ever Had an Affair?

United States
July 8, 2011 5:02pm CST
Have you ever had an affair? If so how did it make you feel? Did you tell you partner? I had an affair when I was married the first time. The reason I do it is because my husband had cheated on me. I felt terrible after words. I felt I had degraded myself,stooped to his level. I told him about it and it did not seem to bother him which made me feel even worse. If you are thinking about getting revenge think long and hard before you do it. Have a Blessed Day
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@ifta11 (22)
8 Jul 11
I believe it is very bad to have an affair even if it is before weeding or after weeding because when you are having an affair you are cheating the other person.and a true human being feel guilty when they cheat on others. before weeding if you have an affair you are cheating on to your parents they do so much for you how can one think even to cheat on them. and after weeding it s family which you will damage.you have a husband and kids.if do something wrong you will destroy your whole family so it depends upon you so should not do this.
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• United States
8 Jul 11
Thanks for the post
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@choybel (5046)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
Probably meant smoking w33d. Orson, you're killing me. No offence intended here. Just wanted to share some laughs, that's all.
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• United States
9 Jul 11
No offense taking. I guess I have to what my wording more careful. Thanks for the post
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@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
Hi, there! I feel sorry for your situation right now. What can I say is that maybe your husband don't have feelings for you anymore because he doesn't care about your past affair at all. It would have affected him since it can ruin his trust on you. I think, you should talk to him about it. I hope you can make your situation better.
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• United States
9 Jul 11
This is my past husband. My husband now is great. I would never thing of having an affair on him. Thanks for the kind words. Have a Blessed Day
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@Hatley (164014)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Jul 11
emilyhn I am so glad for you as theres nothing like being married to a man who really truly loves you. God Bless. hugs from hatley
@Orson_Kart (5617)
• United Kingdom
8 Jul 11
"After words"? You mean afterwards, surely? Anyways......I think long and hard every day. It's beginning to work less and less as I get older. Now I seem to be only thinking. About what I forget. :$
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• United States
8 Jul 11
Yes I meant afterwards. Thanks for the post
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• United Kingdom
8 Jul 11
I know, I was just be pedantic. Sorry You have a good day!
@biby89 (215)
• Serbia And Montenegro
9 Jul 11
I hope my future husband will not cheat on me, so that I have to cheat on him also. lol Anyway, I have never cheated and I do not know why people do that, it's like cheating yourself. I don't want to be with any other person when I am in relationship and if I feel that wish, then I must break up first. I don't even let people flirt with me, I am not single, I do not want to let someone flirt with me, I don't need that. Ps. I am sorry you felt bad after that, but maybe it's a good way to learn, we learn whole our life, right?
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• United States
9 Jul 11
so very true.
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@nosyme (6)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
I've never had one and will never have one regardless of any seemingly valid reason. I have one rule regarding this: Don't cheat no matter what. If there's something wrong with your relationship, cheating is never the solution. It only makes the problem worse.
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• United States
9 Jul 11
This is very true. I have learned from my mistake. I would never do something like that again. For one thing I think more of myself than that. Have a Blessed Day
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• India
9 Jul 11
Your husbnd cheated with you and for taking revange u also did that.then whats the diffrence between u and him?don.t u think u have fallen urself much down to show urself up and to bow ur husbnd?finaly the loss is just your.he was not loyal and after this,he will never be ur.and its a worst having affair after merriege.i have been in affair but when i was not serious for anybody.when i comitted to my love,i am just loyal to her.
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• United States
9 Jul 11
I know it was very wrong. I never should have stooped to that level. I should have thought more of myself and him. Two wrongs do not make a right. Have a blessed Day
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
9 Jul 11
I think it is not good if you are married or committed but if you are single like me then you can have many affairs at a time. i love this freedom and I love myself for being single. I work and can't take the load of the commitment to a single girl. I am true to the person with whomever I have an affair. My motto is to never lie to anyone and always tell the truth.
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• United States
9 Jul 11
Just be careful and use protection or you will end up with lots of babies lol Have a Blessed Day
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@ebuscat (5939)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
For me no because it is a big sin to Jehovah God he would make angry if you do it it is wrong in his eyes because it is fornication.
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• United States
9 Jul 11
It is a sin to my god too. I just was no thinking straight. I believe god has forgiven me. He knows we are only human and make mistakes. Have a Blessed Day
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@EdnaReyes (2624)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
Thanks God I still remain loyal and faithful to my husband. I don't think I can have an affair because I fear God and I respect myself and the family I have. As much as possible I don't want to hurt the people that I love and I always pray that I will be guided each day and stay away from temptations!
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• United States
9 Jul 11
I wish I had kept my head level and had thought that way. I have many times ask god to for give me. Hopefully he has. Have a Blessed Day
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9 Jul 11
I haven't had an affair and even though I would plan not to ever do that I know that it's possible. It doesn't necessarily make you a bad person as there are reasons for it. That's not to condone those people who have affairs and don't seem to care about their wife or husband.
• United States
9 Jul 11
Thanks for your post.
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@dfollin (21847)
• United States
8 Jul 11
My husband and I were together for 10 years and married 7 and a half of them.I never had an affair,or even thought of it.In my life I have never had an affair when I was in a relationship with anyone. It has been 6 and a half years since he has been gone and I still will not have an affair.
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• United States
8 Jul 11
Good for you and god bless.
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@GemmaR (8517)
9 Jul 11
I have never had an affair in my entire life, and know that I would never be able to either. The thing about a relationship is that you have to be able to trust the person that you're in a relationship with, and if they shouldn't be able to trust you then there isn't any point of being in that relationship in my opinion. If anyone were to cheat on me, I know that I wouldn't be able to forgive them for doing that, so I wouldn't be able to expect other people to be able to forgive me for doing the same thing that I wouldn't be able to forgive.
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• Leesburg, Georgia
9 Jul 11
I have not had an affair while being married but I did cheat one time on a boyfriend. It broke my heart and I felt so guilty. I could never do it again, not a million dollars. It is not worth the pain you feel and it causes!
@agapakia (22)
• Canada
17 Aug 11
no and i am not willing to have
@Hatley (164014)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Jul 11
hi emilyn No I never have and I do thank goodness as it sounds really unhappy and sort of degrading. I never had live ins either as I waited till I found the man I loved, married and had a long happy marriage. that was in the days before everyone quit getting married and just had a bunch of live in boy friends and girl friends. I am glad I never got into that scene either.So it looks like I did not miss a thing no grief,no pain, no sorrow.