He Left and I am Really Sad...

Ugh! I am so sorry.... I guess that certainly does put a wrench in trying to do anything. Do you have any friends who live near who could pick you up? How close are things in your town?

To be honest with you since he is at work all day with the car I don't get out to meet people so unfortunately I really don't have any friends at all. Everything is about a 30 minute walk from my house which wouldn't be bad if it wasn't so sticking HOT outside!! =(

We don't have access to a webcam or anything unfortunately so these 3 weeks are going to be VERY long for us. I don't have the car unfortunately so doing activities are limited. He took it with him to get there.

3 weeks seem to be big time but once you divert your mind to somewhere else you would find that these 3 weeks will become 3 days or less.May be when he gets work in that state you can relocate in that state with you hubby.

Hey. He is gone for 3 weeks, possibly more but were hoping only 3. He went away to try to find some work in another state. I just want him to come back home.

No wonder you want to move.

He is 10 hours away for 3 weeks.

I think I have done an okay job so far with being strong for them. I try to only cry at night when they are sleeping. I have about 5 more days to go and I think I am doing okay now. Thanks so much! =)

Thank you for the prayers. We will definitely be keeping in touch with him while he's gone but of course its not the same...

Yeah, it won't be the same. But just think how much fun you'll have when he comes back.

I couldn't do it either and I already know it. I have plenty of friends who have husbands who travel or get deployed and most of them always tell me I could, but they are wrong. I would never willingly choose military - I am grateful my husband got out of the air force before I met him. I would also not willingly choose to spend my life with someone who traveled a LOT for work and was rarely home. I've always been pretty up front with people about what I expect before anything goes so far that we are 'stuck'. I also believe that in job situations where you have an employee with a spouse and small children, they should have a better chance of getting a shift that allows them to be home with their family. Some people may not agree with me but it's hard for the parent who is at home to exist 'as a single parent', which is what it's like. Maybe they don't also work all day and have to use daycare, but sometimes the kids act out because they miss mom or dad, or feel they can get away with things in the absence of the other parent. It's also hard being alone at night and sleeping without someone, at least that's been my experience. I actually did have a period of time when my husband was on an off shift and it was terrible. I did see him every day but it was the middle of the night so I wasn't getting any sleep, period, in order to see him. The kids hardly saw him at all, our daughter did but she was very small and she would sleep at odd times and wake up to play with him at 2 AM when he got home...the older kids didn't see him at all because they had school so they were sleeping when he got home and he was sleeping when they went to school, and he left for work before I picked them up from school.

I don't know how you do it! When I was 18 yrs old and still looking for my one military guys would come up to me in the club or whatever. I would always tell them no offense I think your great but there is no way I could be with a military man and deal with deployments all the time. A lot of them said wow I respect you for being honest and not getting into this relationship and cheating or leaving. I thought by avoiding the military I wouldn't have to go through this. I didn't choose this! This is not what I wanted at all. The night time sleeping in the bed alone is definitely the hardest part. I had a really hard time sleeping last night. Maybe I got a couple hours. I hope time goes super fast. I am just not used to being away from my husband.

Thanks, he will call me every few days I'm sure. I am trying really hard to keep busy. I am at work right now and it's going really slow so too much time to think about it. . I hope the next 3 weeks goes really really fast. =(

Why do you feel silly hun? I am not used to him leaving so 3 weeks is a really long time for us to be away from each other. But if a soldier's wife saw this she would be like that is cake. I didn't choose to be with a soldier for that reason, I cannot handle all of this. I love having him here with me besides when he goes to work. My kids are young and my oldest (5) is the only one that understands. The other two, (2 & 3) think daddy basically left us. Which breaks my heart even more...

Yeah I have to work but this time of year at work (propane company) it is REALLY slow so time drags on! I'm sorry your not emotional or sentimental. I think it is a great quality to have. =)

Um no. He is out of town for 3 weeks possibly more! It is a very big deal to me and his children... I can take care of myself but he is my husband and I miss him very much and so do the kids. How old are you? Are you married? You can't be or you would understand...

Thanks. Yeah I have been spending lots of time with them. Time is going so slow because of work. When he is in town he usually stops by on my lunch break so when I am there all I think about is him. I have been praying and I will keep praying until he comes home safe.

It hurts and not really. He gets to go visit his brother and nieces and nephews since he is staying with his brother there. So, he has plenty of things to get this off his mind, I don't. I have to sleep in the empty bed, I have to look at all of his things and think about us being apart. I definitely have the harder situation here.

Thanks I will write him letters. We are so close, we have an amazing relationship, besides financially struggling 24/7.

Thanks but actually that sometimes makes it harder. My son especially reminds me so much of my husband it is unreal. I have been spending lots of time with them but I always do since most of the time I am a stay at home mom.